Why we need more men who cry – Exploring love in the New Age.
“Real Men don’t cry.” So new age and society have taught men and boys.
Some of the popular adages that society has used to imprison people are beyond me.
Teachings like this are how, men started bottling their pain so they could appear manly and stoic.
Now, we find them running to hide their tears and pain in so called Man caves: Bars, T.V, Video games, Sports, Work, Alcohol, Club, Sex, Drugs etc.
Why? Because society has wrongly taught that real men don’t feel pain and thus don’t cry.
But then we discover that as they bury their pain, instead of it dying, it starts festering like an ulcer and builds up like an air tight ballon.
And when the ballon can’t take anymore, it erupts and bursts into flaming fires.
Is it any wonder we have so many angry men filled with rage and venom these days?
Society has so boxed them in, they have no idea how to handle their emotions anymore except to run to caves.
And when they finally come out of their caves, they find that while they were away hiding, the enemy came, stole, killed and destroyed what they had built . Thus compounding an already bad situation.
Despite these populist views, I know a real man who cried. He is the realest man ever and he wept. Publicly and unashamedly even in front of his friends and enemies, he bared his soul.
As he approached Jerusalem and saw the city, he wept over it
42 and said, “If you, even you, had only known on this day what would bring you peace—but now it is hidden from your eyes.
Jesus had emotions and he was sensitive too. Hallelujah thank God he was a real human who felt and he was not a robot.
When he lost someone he loved deeply because he was late getting to his friend, he wept.
See, when he first heard of his friend’s sickness, he procrastinated.
And when he finally got there, and found his friend was gone, he wept.
He could have acted like a Macho, retro-sexual caveman and been all puffed up and brusque but NO!
He chose to be a human and to feel and to empathize.
Maybe he blamed himself for letting his friend die.
Or maybe he wept because of the pain in his heart when he saw the tomb and Mary and Martha’s sorrow at the loss.
I don’t really know the exact reason, but the Bible says when he saw Mary crying, his spirit was troubled and he wept and when those around him saw him do this, all they could imagine was how much he loved.
35 Jesus wept.
36 Then the Jews said, “See how he loved him!”
Weeping is a much deeper emotion than crying. Weeping cuts very deep. Weeping is not for the weak! It takes a brave person to feel that strongly.
A society that teaches that men shouldn’t be sensitive is a society leading men to bury their humanity in caves and become animals.
To all the men who are human and daring enough to cry for causes that touch them, we say bravo.
To men who feel deeply and ache, we laud you.
You are a rare breed in this world where insensitivity and misogyny are worshipped like the god Baal.
5 Those who sow with tears
will reap with songs of joy.
6 Those who go out weeping,
carrying seed to sow,
will return with songs of joy,
carrying sheaves with them.
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