Go And Marry A Promiscuous Wife – Marriage Bible Verses.
Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
Mark 10:11-12
They ate, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noah entered the ark, and the flood came and destroyed them all.
Luke 17:27
And what man is there who is betrothed to a woman and has not married her? Let him go and return to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man marry her.’
Deuteronomy 20:7
And when the Jubilee of the children of Israel comes, then their inheritance will be added to the inheritance of the tribe into which they marry; so their inheritance will be taken away from the inheritance of the tribe of our fathers.”
Numbers 36:4
A widow or a divorced woman or a defiled woman or a harlot—these he shall not marry; but he shall take a virgin of his own people as wife.
Leviticus 21:14
His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”
Matthew 19:10
He may make himself unclean for his young unmarried sister in his immediate family. 4 He is not to make himself unclean for those related to him by marriage and so defile himself.
Leviticus 21:3-4
But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
1 Corinthians 7:8-9
For Herod himself had sent and laid hold of John, and bound him in prison for the sake of Herodias, his brother Philip’s wife; for he had married her.
Mark 6:17
And Judah said to Onan, “Go in to your brother’s wife and marry her, and raise up an heir to your brother.”
Genesis 38:8
When the Lord first spoke to Hosea, He said this to him: Go and marry a promiscuous wife and have children of promiscuity, for the land is committing blatant acts of promiscuity by abandoning the Lord.
Hosea 1:2
Sheshan gave his daughter in marriage to his servant Jarha, and she bore Attai to him.
1 Chronicles 2:35
The men of Israel had sworn an oath at Mizpah: “None of us will give his daughter to a Benjaminite in marriage.”
Judges 21:1
If a man divorces his wife and she leaves him to marry another, can he ever return to her? Wouldn’t such a land become totally defiled? But you! You have played the prostitute with many partners — can you return to Me? This is the Lord’s declaration.
Jeremiah 3:1
So do not give your daughters to their sons in marriage or take their daughters for your sons. Never seek their peace or prosperity, so that you will be strong, eat the good things of the land, and leave it as an inheritance to your sons forever.”
For As A Young Man Marries A Virgin, So Shall Your Sons Marry You – Marriage Bible Verses.
For as a young man marries a virgin, So shall your sons marry you; And as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, So shall your God rejoice over you.
Isaiah 62:5
Therefore, my brethren, you also have become dead to the law through the body of Christ, that you may be married to another—to Him who was raised from the dead, that we should bear fruit to God.
Romans 7:4
But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
Matthew 5:32
Now if they are married to any of the sons of the other tribes of the children of Israel, then their inheritance will be taken from the inheritance of our fathers, and it will be added to the inheritance of the tribe into which they marry; so it will be taken from the lot of our inheritance.
Numbers 36:3
Then Saul said to David, “Here is my older daughter Merab; I will give her to you as a wife. Only be valiant for me, and fight the Lord’s battles.” For Saul thought, “Let my hand not be against him, but let the hand of the Philistines be against him.”
1 Samuel 18:17
For when they rise from the dead, they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.
Mark 12:25
Laban answered, “It is not the custom in this place to give the younger daughter in marriage before the firstborn. 27 Complete this week of wedding celebration, and we will also give you this younger one in return for working yet another seven years for me.”
Genesis 29:26-27
But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. 34 There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.
1 Corinthians 7:33-34
The elders of his city will summon him and speak with him. If he persists and says, ‘I don’t want to marry her,’ 9 then his sister-in-law will go up to him in the sight of the elders, remove his sandal from his foot, and spit in his face. Then she will declare, ‘This is what is done to a man who will not build up his brother’s house.’
Deuteronomy 25:8-9
Now there were with us seven brothers. The first died after he had married, and having no offspring, left his wife to his brother. 26 Likewise the second also, and the third, even to the seventh.
Matthew 22:25-26
He will resolve to come with the force of his whole kingdom and will reach an agreement with him. He will give him a daughter in marriage to destroy it, but she will not stand with him or support him.
Daniel 11:17
They were married into the families of the children of Manasseh the son of Joseph, and their inheritance remained in the tribe of their father’s family.
Numbers 36:12
For three things the earth is perturbed, Yes, for four it cannot bear up: 22 For a servant when he reigns, A fool when he is filled with food, 23 A hateful woman when she is married, And a maidservant who succeeds her mistress.
Proverbs 30:21-23
‘The one who sleeps with his father’s wife is cursed, for he has violated his father’s marriage bed.’ And all the people will say, ‘Amen!’
Deuteronomy 27:20
I will also acquire Ruth the Moabitess, Mahlon’s widow, as my wife, to perpetuate the deceased man’s name on his property, so that his name will not disappear among his relatives or from the gate of his home. You are witnesses today.”
Ruth 4:10
Go at once to Paddan-aram, to the house of Bethuel, your mother’s father. Marry one of the daughters of Laban, your mother’s brother.
Genesis 28:2
You are not to marry a woman as a rival to her sister and have sexual intercourse with her during her sister’s lifetime.
Marriage Is Honorable Among All – Marriage Bible Verses.
“Furthermore it has been said, Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
Matthew 5:31-32
Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
Jesus answered and said to them, “The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage. 35 But those who are counted worthy to attain that age, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry nor are given in marriage;
Luke 20:34-35
Should we again break Your commandments, and join in marriage with the people committing these abominations? Would You not be angry with us until You had consumed us, so that there would be no remnant or survivor?
Ezra 9:14
Jehoshaphat had riches and honor in abundance; and by marriage he allied himself with Ahab.
2 Chronicles 18:1
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4
If he takes another wife, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marriage rights. 11 And if he does not do these three for her, then she shall go out free, without paying money.
Exodus 21:10-11
Let us be glad and rejoice and give Him glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has made herself ready.” 8 And to her it was granted to be arrayed in fine linen, clean and bright, for the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints.
Revelation 19:7-8
I say to the unmarried and to widows: It is good for them if they remain as I am. 9 But if they do not have self-control, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with desire.
1 Corinthians 7:8-9
This is what the Lord commands concerning the daughters of Zelophehad, saying, ‘Let them marry whom they think best, but they may marry only within the family of their father’s tribe.’
Numbers 36:6
The fire consumed their young men, And their maidens were not given in marriage. 64 Their priests fell by the sword, And their widows made no lamentation.
Psalms 78:63-64
If the priest’s daughter is married to an outsider, she may not eat of the holy offerings. 13 But if the priest’s daughter is a widow or divorced, and has no child, and has returned to her father’s house as in her youth, she may eat her father’s food; but no outsider shall eat it.
Leviticus 22:12-13
“If a man marries a woman, but she becomes displeasing to him because he finds something improper about her, he may write her a divorce certificate, hand it to her, and send her away from his house.
Deuteronomy 24:1
I rebuked them, cursed them, beat some of their men, and pulled out their hair. I forced them to take an oath before God and said: “You must not give your daughters in marriage to their sons or take their daughters as wives for your sons or yourselves!
Interesting Facts You Need To Know About Love, Flirtation, Marriage, Monogamy And Affection – The Vintage Woman.
Love
The attraction of the sexes for each other, though based upon the dual principle of generation which pervades the living world and which has its analogies in the attractive forces of matter, yet pervades the whole being.
Love is not merely the instinctive desire of physical union, which has for its object the continuation of the species—it belongs to the mind as well as to the body. It warms, invigorates, and elevates every sentiment, every feeling; and in its highest, purest, most diffusive form unites us to God and all creatures in Him.
All love is essentially the same, but modified according to its objects and by the character of the one who loves. The love of children for their parents, of parents for offspring, brotherly and sisterly love, the love of friendship, of charity, and the fervor of religious love, are modifications of the same sentiment—the attraction that draws us to our kindred, our kind; that binds together all races and humanity itself, resting on the fatherhood of God and the brotherhood of man.
It is but natural that this love should vary in degrees. Attractions are proportional to proximity. Family is nearer than country; we prefer our own nation to the rest of the race.
Each individual has, also, his own special attractions and repulsions. There is love at first sight and friendship at first sight. We feel some persons pleasant to us; to be near them is a delight. Generally such feelings are mutual—like flows to like, or as often, perhaps, differences fit into each other. We seek sympathy with our own tastes and habits, or we find in others what we lack.
Thus the weak rest upon the strong, the timid are fond of the courageous, the reckless seek guidance of the prudent, and so on. The sentiment of love for the opposite sex —tender, romantic, passionate—begins very early in life. Fathers and daughters, mothers and sons, have a special fondness for each other, as, also, have brothers and sisters; but the boy soon comes to admire someone, generally older than himself, who is not a relation.
Very little girls find a hero in some friend of an elder brother. Fondness for cousins generally comes more from opportunity than natural attraction, though a cousin may have very little appearance of family relation. The law appears to be that free choice seeks the diverse and distant. A stranger has always a better chance with the young ladies of any district than the young men with whom they have always been acquainted. Savages seek their wives out of their own tribe.
It is my belief that naturally (I mean in a state of pure and unperverted nature, but developed cultivated, and refined by education) every man loves womanhood itself, and all women so far as they approximate to his ideal; and that in the same way every woman loves manhood, and is attracted and charmed by all its gentle, noble, and heroic manifestations.
By such a man, every woman he meets is reverenced as a mother, sister, daughter, or, it may be, cherished in a more tender relation, which should be at first, and may always remain, free from any sensual desire.
Such love may have many objects, each attracting the kind and degree of affection which it is able to inspire. Such love of men for women, and women for men, may be free and will be free just in the degree in which it is freed from the bondage of sensual passion.
Such love has a direct tendency to raise men above the control of their senses. The more of such love one has and the more it is diffused, the less the liability to sink into the lower and disorderly loves of the sensual life.
The idea that every attraction, every attachment, every love between the sexes must lead to marriage—that no love can be tolerated but with that end in view—is a very false and mischievous one. It deprives men and women of the strength and happiness they might have in pure friendships and pure loves, and it leads to a multitude of false and bad marriages.
Two persons are drawn together by strong attractions and tender sentiments for each other who have no more right to be married than if they were brother and sister, but who have the same right to love each other. But their true sentiments for each other, and consequent relation to each other, are not understood by those around them and perhaps not by themselves.
They are urged by the misapprehension of others, by their expectation, by ignorant gossip, by the prejudice of society, based upon low and sensual estimates of life, to marry; they find that they must either marry or lose the happiness they have in each other’s society, and they make the irrevocable mistake.
When it is understood that there are other loves than that of marriage; when the special attraction that justifies union for life, and the begetting of offspring, is discriminated from all the other attractions that may bring two souls into very near and tender relations to each other, there will be more happiness in the world and fewer incomplete, imperfect, and, therefore, more or less unhappy, marriages.
Flirtation
Nothing can be more detestable than that playing with fire which goes by the name of flirtation but there are men and women who have the happiness of living and of being tenderly and devotedly loved by persons of the opposite sex—loved purely, nobly, happily—without injury and with great good.
When such loves are accompanied by perfect trust in the goodness, purity, truth, and honor of the beloved, there can be no jealousy, no desire for selfish absorption, no fear of deprivation of any right. There is no reason why a husband or a wife should limit the range of pure and spiritual affection to near relatives.
The man who can love a sister as sisters are often loved, may love in the same way, or as purely, any woman who might be his sister. As men and women learn to purify their lives, the world will grow more tolerant and love will become more universal.
The tender and fervent exhortations to mutual love to be found in the Gospels and Epistles of the New Testament are now almost without a meaning. But they had a meaning to those to whom they were addressed, and when we are better Christians, and bring our lives to the purity of Christian morality, they will have a meaning to us and we shall learn that, in a sense we have not dreamed of, God is Love.
Monogamy
In the human race all circumstances point to monogamy as the lawful or natural condition. Males and females are born in almost equal numbers. If there are two or three per cent. more of males than females, the risks of life with males soon make the number even. Therefore, as a rule, no man can have more than one wife without robbing his neighbor.
Polygamy is therefore a manifest injustice, and may become the most grievous of all monopolies.
Children are the most helpless of all young creatures and require the care of parents for the longest period. The care of a husband for his wife, and of a father for his child, is an evident necessity. The proper care and education of a single child should extend over at least fifteen years, and that of a family may reach to thirty years, or throughout the greatest part of an ordinary life.
During all periods of pregnancy, childbearing, nursing, and the education and care of a family, every woman has a right to the sympathy, sustaining love, and constant aid of her husband. No man has a right to desert or leave helpless, or even dependent upon others, except in extraordinary cases, the mother of his children.
Marriage
Marriage, like celibacy, should be a matter of vocation. The special object of marriage is to have children; the co-operating motive is that two persons drawn to each other by a mutual affection may live helpfully and happily together.
A selfish marriage, for its merely animal gratifications—a marriage in which strength, health, usefulness, often life itself, are sacrificed to sensuality and lust—is a desecration of a holy institution, and somewhat worse in its consequences than promiscuous profligacy, for the consequences of that may not fall upon one’s children and posterity.
There are many persons who have no right to marry. There should be a kind and amount of love that will justify and sanctify such a relation. There should be a pure motive and the fixed intention of making the relation what it ought to be to husband, wife, and children.
There should be a reasonable assurance of the power to provide for a family. There should be that amount of health, that freedom from bodily and mental disease, that physical and moral constitution which will give a reasonable prospect of children whose lives will be a blessing to themselves and to society.
When there is deformity of body, or an unhappy peculiarity of temper or mind liable to be inherited, people should not marry, or if they live together, should resign the uses of marriage. People should conscientiously refrain from propagating hereditary diseases. Persons near of kin are wisely forbidden to marry, for there is in such cases the liability of imperfect generation—the production of blind, deaf, idiotic or insane offspring.
Should marriage be for life?
As a rule, undoubtedly. Every real, proper, true marriage must be. It takes a lifetime for a husband and wife to make a home and rear and educate and provide for a family of children. But what if people make mistakes and find that they are not suitably married?
These are mistakes very difficult to remedy. If a man, after deliberately making his choice of a woman, ceases to love her, how can he honorably withdraw from his relation to her, and enter upon another, when she still loves him, and is ready to fulfill her part of the contract?
Laws cannot very well provide for mistakes. If the distaste for each other be mutual, and both parties desire to separate, a separation may of course be permitted; but it is a serious question whether two such persons can go into the world and find new partners, with justice to the rest.
The law which permits of no divorce certainly bears hard upon individual cases; but if it leads to greater seriousness and care in forming such relations, it may be, on the whole, the best thing for society that it should be strictly observed.
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I Want Younger Women To Marry – Marriage Bible Verses.
“Return, O backsliding children,” says the Lord; “for I am married to you. I will take you, one from a city and two from a family, and I will bring you to Zion.
Jeremiah 3:14
But if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virgin, if she is past the flower of youth, and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes. He does not sin; let them marry.
1 Corinthians 7:36
For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels of God in heaven.
“If a man is found lying with a woman married to a husband, then both of them shall die—the man that lay with the woman, and the woman; so you shall put away the evil from Israel.
Deuteronomy 22:22
Speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron, 3 forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth. 4 For every creature of God is good, and nothing is to be refused if it is received with thanksgiving;
1 Timothy 4:2-4
If he comes in by himself, he shall go out by himself; if he comes in married, then his wife shall go out with him.
Therefore, I want younger women to marry, have children, manage their households, and give the adversary no opportunity to accuse us.
1 Timothy 5:14
Let us be glad, rejoice, and give Him glory, because the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has prepared herself.
Revelation 19:7
Now afterward Hezron went in to the daughter of Machir the father of Gilead, whom he married when he was sixty years old; and she bore him Segub.
1 Chronicles 2:21
Now if they are married to any of the sons of the other tribes of the children of Israel, then their inheritance will be taken from the inheritance of our fathers, and it will be added to the inheritance of the tribe into which they marry; so it will be taken from the lot of our inheritance.
Numbers 36:3
“Sing, O barren, You who have not borne! Break forth into singing, and cry aloud, You who have not labored with child! For more are the children of the desolate Than the children of the married woman,” says the Lord.
The word of the Lord came to me: 2 “You must not marry or have sons or daughters in this place. 3 For this is what the Lord says concerning sons and daughters born in this place as well as concerning the mothers who bear them and the fathers who father them in this land:
Jeremiah 16:1-3
And Judah saw there a daughter of a certain Canaanite whose name was Shua, and he married her and went in to her.
Genesis 38:2
For many in Judah were pledged to him, because he was the son-in-law of Shechaniah the son of Arah, and his son Jehohanan had married the daughter of Meshullam the son of Berechiah.
Nehemiah 6:18
“A man is not to marry his father’s wife; he must not violate his father’s marriage bed.
Deuteronomy 22:30
Any daughter who possesses an inheritance from an Israelite tribe must marry someone from the clan of her ancestral tribe, so that each of the Israelites will possess the inheritance of his fathers.
Sex Makes Marriage Better | Spicing Up Marital Intimacy And Sexual Intercourse – The Vintage Woman.
Sexual Intercourse, its laws and conditions, it’s use and abuse.
There is an increasing and alarming prevalence of nervous ailments and complicated disorders that could be traced to have their sole origin from this source. Hypochondria, in its various phases, results from the premature and unnatural waste of the seminal fluid.
Then speedily ensues a lack of natural heat, a deficiency of vital power, and consequently indigestion, melancholy, languor, and dejection ensue; the victim becomes enervated and spiritless, loses the very attributes of man, and premature old age soon follows.
It is a prevalent error that it is necessary for the semen to be ejected at certain times from the body; that its retention is incompatible with sound health and vigor of body and mind. This is a very fallacious idea. The seminal fluid is too precious—nature bestows too much care in its elaboration for it to be wasted in this unproductive manner.
It is intended, when not used for the purpose of procreation, to be reabsorbed again into the system, giving vigor of body, elasticity and strength to the mind, making the individual strong, active, and self-reliant. When kept as nature intended, it is a perpetual fountain of life and energy—a vital force which acts in every direction, a motive power which infuses manhood into every organ of the brain and every fiber of the body.
The law of sexual morality for childhood is one of utter negation of sex. Every child should be kept pure and free from amative excitement and the least amative indulgence, which is unnatural and doubly hurtful.
No language is strong enough to express the evils of amative excitement and unnatural indulgence before the age of puberty; and the dangers are so great that I see no way so safe as thorough instruction regarding them at the earliest age. A child may be taught, simply as a matter of science, as one learns botany, all that is needful to know, and such knowledge may protect it from the most terrible evils.
The law for childhood is perfect purity, which cannot be too carefully guarded and protected by parents, teachers, and all caretakers. The law for youth is perfect continence—a pure vestalate alike in both sexes. No indulgence is required by one more than the other—for both nature has made the same provision. The natures of both are alike, and any—the least—exercise of the amative function is an injury to one as to the other.
Men expect that women shall come to them in marriage chaste and pure from the least defilement. Women have a right to expect the same of their husbands. Here the sexes are upon a perfect equality.
On this subject, Dr. Carpenter (physiological works) has written like a man of true science, and, therefore, of true morality. He lays it down as an axiom that the development of the individual and the reproduction of the species stand in an inverse ratio to each other.
He says: “The augmented development of the generative organs at puberty can only be rightly regarded as preparatory to the exercise of the organs. The development of the individual must be completed before the procreative power can properly be exercised for the continuance of the race.”
And in the following extract from his “Principles of Human Physiology,” he confirms my statement respecting the unscientific and libertine advice of too many physicians: “The author would say to those of his younger readers who urge the wants of nature as an excuse for the illicit gratification of the sexual passions, ‘try the effects of close mental application to some of those ennobling pursuits to which your profession introduces you, in combination with vigorous bodily exercise, before you assert that appetite is unrestrainable and act upon that assertion.’
Nothing tends so much to increase the desire as the continual direction of the mind toward the objects of its gratification, whilst nothing so effectually represses it as a determined exercise of the mental faculties upon other objects and the expenditure of nervous energy in other channels.
Some works which have issued from the medical press contain much that is calculated to excite, rather than to repress, the propensity; and the advice sometimes given by practitioners to their patients is immoral as well as unscientific.”
Every man and every woman, living simply, purely, and temperately—respecting the laws of health in regard to air, food, dress, exercise, and habits of life—not only can live in the continence of a pure virgin life when single, and in the chastity which should be observed by all married partners, but be stronger, happier, and in every way better by so living.
Chastity is the conservation of life, and the consecration of its forces to the highest use. Sensuality is the waste of life, and the degradation of its forces to pleasure divorced from use. Chastity is life; sensuality is death.
From the age of puberty to marriage, the law, is the same for both sexes—full employment of mind and body, temperance, purity, and perfect chastity in thought, word, and deed. The law is one of perfect equality. There is no license for the male which is not equally the right of the female.
There is no physiological ground for any indulgence in one case more than in the other. No man has any more right to require or expect purity in the woman who is to be his wife than the woman has to require and expect purity in her husband. It is a simple matter of justice and right.
No man can enter upon an amative relation with a woman, except in marriage, without manifest injustice to his future wife, unless he allow her the same liberty; and also without a great wrong to the woman, and to her possible husband.
It is contended that the sins of men against chastity are more venial than those of women, because of the liability of women to have children. But men are also liable to be the fathers of children, who are deeply wronged by the absence of paternal care.
The child has its rights, and every child has the right to be born in honest, respectable wedlock, of parents able to give it a sound constitution and the nurture and education it requires. The child who lacks these conditions is grievously wronged by both father and mother.
The law of marriage is, that a mature man and woman, with sound health, pure lives, and a reasonable prospect of comfortably educating a family, when drawn to each other by the attraction of mutual love, should chastely and temperately unite for offspring. The sexual relation has this chief and controlling purpose.
The law of nature is intercourse for reproduction. Under the Christian law, marriage is the symbol of the union of Christ with the Church; husband and wife are one in the Lord; they are to live in marriage chastity, not in lust and uncleanness; and there cannot be a more hideous violation of Christian morals than for a husband to vent his sensuality upon a feeble wife; against her wishes and when she has no desire for offspring and no power to give them the healthy constitutions and maternal care which is their right.
The law of Christian morality is very clear. It is the sexual union first and chiefly for its principal object. It is for the husband to refrain from it whenever it is not desired; whenever it would be hurtful to either; whenever it would be a waste of life; whenever it would injure mother or child, as during pregnancy and lactation.
A man who truly loves a woman must respect and reverence her, and cannot make her the victim of his inordinate and unbridled, selfish and sensual nature.
He will be ever, from the first moment of joyful possession to the last of his life, tender, delicate, considerate, deferent, yielding to her slightest wishes in the domain of love, and never encroaching, never trespassing upon, never victimizing the wife of his bosom and the mother of his babes. We have romance before marriage, we want more chivalry in marriage.
This is not the world’s morality, yet it seems to one the world must respect it. This, high and pure Christian morality is not always enforced by Christian ministers, some of whom yield too much to human sensuality and depravity, instead of maintaining the higher law of Christian purity, which is but nature restored or freed from its stains of sin.
The world requires that unmarried women should be chaste, while it gives almost unbridled license to men. A girl detected in amours is disgraced and often made an outcast. In young men such irregularities are freely tolerated.
They are “a little wild”; they “sow their wild oats”; but open profligacy, the seduction of innocence, the ruin of poor girls, adultery, harlotry and its diseases do not hinder men from marrying, nor from requiring that those they marry should have spotless reputations.
It is not for a moment permitted that women in these matters should behave like men, and a pure girl is given to the arms of a wasted debauchee, and her babes are perhaps born dead, or suffer through life with syphilitic diseases, while she endures a long martyrdom from disordered, diseased, and unrestrained sensuality.
For the unmarried, young men, soldiers, sailors, and all who do not choose to bear the burdens of a family, society has its armies of prostitutes—women like others, and more than others, or in less reputable fashion, the victims of the unbridled lust of men. They are everywhere tolerated as
Necessary evils and, in some places, protected or regulated; and, from economical or philanthropic considerations, or both, combined efforts are made to free them from the contagious diseases which for some centuries have been a curse attending this form of the violation of the laws of nature—one of the consequences of lust which is the divorce of the sexual instinct from its natural use and purpose.
The christian law of marriage as set down in the Holy Scriptures, and defined by the best writers on moral theology, is in harmony with nature, in consonance with the higher nature of man. “God hath set the earth in families.”
Adultery is a sin, because it disorders that divine arrangement. Fornication is a sin, because it prevents pure marriages. Prostitution is a sin, because it is a sacrifice of women, who might be wives and mothers, to the selfish lusts of men. All useless indulgence is a waste of life, and a kind of suicide.
In a pure marriage union, men and women unite themselves with God in acts of creative power. The progress of humanity depends upon individual development and the conditions at generation and gestation. With culture and a harmonized development, we acquire a higher and more integral life. When two parents are in their highest condition and in
A true union with each other, the child combines the best qualities of both parents. When parents are not in the unity of a mutual love, the child may be inferior to either parent. The intensity of mutual love tends to the reproduction [of the best faculties of both parents in the child. When men or women are exhausted or diseased the race deteriorates. Health is therefore one of the conditions of progress.
“It is all very fine,” I shall be told, “to talk of purity and chastity; but we must take men as they are. How are you going to make men pure and chaste, and respectful of the purity of women? How can you get men with strong amative propensities to live like anchorites?”
How can you get men to do anything right, or refrain from any wrong thing? There are three motives—fear of punishment, hope of reward, and sense of right or the principle of duty.
The first of these is the lowest, but often the most effectual; the second is higher, and appeals to hope and the love of happiness; the third, the highest of all motives, pure and unselfish as the love of truth, as in mathematics, acts on noble minds with great power.
Men of real conscientiousness love the right for its own sake. They are just from love of justice; pure from a sense and love of purity. They love good, and God as the source of all good; and do right, not from fear or hope, but from pure love.
We must appeal to all motives. Men refrain from theft and other dishonest conduct from the dread of disgrace and punishment, because they see that “honesty is the best policy,” and from a sense of justice and regard to the rights of property, or a sense of honor which makes a mean action impossible.
By similar motives great numbers are restrained from drunkenness and other vices. Children are to be restrained from impurity by the fear of the terrible consequences of unnatural indulgence in causing disease and pain, by the hope of a pure, healthy and happy life of love in manhood and womanhood, and by a sense of the beauty and holiness of chastity and the sacredness of the functions by which the race is recreated and preserved.
The religious feelings that our bodies are to be kept pure, healthy, and holy in every way as the temples of the Holy Ghost cannot be too early instilled into the infant mind, which is open to the highest sentiments of veneration, devotion, and heroic religion. In youth there are the same motives. Indulgence in solitary vice is self-destructive of all that youth most values—a profanation of his own body.
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Is a desecration of what he should hold in the most tender reverence. To the young man, womanhood should be sacred, and every woman, mother, sister, beloved of the present or the future, should never be wronged by one thought of impurity.
In this matter instinct goes with right. The inward voice supports the outer law of morality. Before men can become bad, their instinctive modesty must be broken down. Unless very badly born, with disordered amativeness, hereditary from a diseased and lustful parentage, they must be perverted and corrupted before they can act immodestly and impurely.
Women are protected by a strong public sentiment around them. They have the dread of disgrace. For them to yield to their own affectionate desires, or the solicitations of a lover, is a fall, is ruin. They have the hope of a loving husband, a happy home, and the respect of society.
And in woman passion has commonly less force, and the sentiment of modesty and purity more power. Women are weak in yielding to solicitation, giving everything for love; but we see how protective of female virtue are these motives to vast numbers.
Men can perfectly restrain the sensual part of their natures whenever they have a strong motive to do so. A child would be simply mad who was not controlled by the presence of father, mother, and persons he respected or feared. Young men have no difficulty when they are in the company of pure women.
They are in no trouble when their lives are full of mental and muscular activity, and particularly if their habits of eating simply and temperately, of refraining from heating and exciting stimulants, and sleeping in cold beds and fresh air, are such as health requires.
There needs but the strong will to live purely in any one, and at any age, the will that comes from the high motives of conscience and religion, or all motives combined. A strong sense of what is just and right controls even the motions of our bodies and actions which seem to be involuntary.
A man who has a vivid sense of the right and duty of refraining from sensuality, and preserving his own purity of mind and body and the chastity of all women, will do so even in his dreams. When the will is right, all things are soon brought into its subjection. The mind controls the organization, and the life forces are directed into other channels.
A strong man, full of life and love can safely hold a virgin in his arms, and respect her virginity, if he have but the motives and the will to do so. If he be pure in his will, how can he commit impurity? If a woman be sacred in his eyes, how can he profane her?
It is not that men have not the power of restraint, the power to do right; it is that they lack the motive. They have lost the sense of right; they are even impelled to do wrong by the pressure of opinion around them. Boys and young men are driven into libertinage by the ridicule of their companions. Vice is considered manly.
They seek sensuality in an evil emulation, as they learn to smoke, or gamble, or drink; and, later on, vanity has often more to do with excess than the force of lust. Young men seduce girls that they may boast of it. They keep mistresses because it is the fashion.
They exhaust themselves because they wish to give a high idea of their manly powers. Even in marriage, women are injured and have their health destroyed by yielding weakly, or from a false sense of duty to a husband whose own motive is the desire to acquit himself manfully in what he considers his marital duties.
Men and women are, in thousands of cases, wretched victims to what they imagine to be the wants or expectations of each other. A man, ignorant of the nature of women and the laws of the generative function, goes on in a process of miserable exhaustion, to please his wife.
She submits, sometimes in pain, often in disgust, weariness, and weakness, to what she dare not, from love or fear, refuse. Men have to know what is right and to will to be right. This will is omnipotent. God helps those who have the will, who have even the desire, to do right.
If the presence of those we fear or reverence, respect or love, restrain us from sin and stimulate us to right action, faith in the existence and presence of God and angels, and the spirits of the departed, must have a more powerful and pervading influence.
No one who really believes in the existence of a Supreme Being, no one who is strongly impressed with the reality of a spiritual life, can go on doing what he knows to be wrong. A religious faith is therefore the most powerful of all restraints from evil and incitement to good.
Excerpt From The Ladies Book Of Useful Information.
What Makes A Happy And Healthy Marriage – The Vintage Woman.
The basis of a happy marriage.
The state of conjugal union should be the happiest in the whole of the existence of either man or woman, and is such in a congenial marriage. Yet in the history of very many marriages contentment or happiness is palpably absent and an almost insufferable misery is the heritage of both parties.
It is therefore important that previous to the marital union the parties should take everything into consideration that fore-shadows happiness after marriage, as well as everything calculated to despoil conjugal felicity.
The first requisite of congenial marriage is love.
Without being cemented by this element the conjugal union is sure to be uncongenial. It is the strongest bond, the firmest cord, uniting two hearts inseparably together. Love for the opposite sex has always been a controlling influence with mankind.
It is the most elevating of all the emotions and the purest and tenderest of all sentiments. It exerts a wonderful power, and by its influence the grandest human actions have been achieved. Of what infinite worth it is to either sex to be compensated with a worthy and satisfying love, and how ennobling to the impulses and actions it is to bestow the sentiment upon one worthy to receive and willing to return.
Love is the mainspring that regulates the harmony of conjugal life, and without it there is a void in the machinery, productive only of jars, convulsive movement, and a grating and inharmonious action.
The soul yearns for love and to love, and unless the desire is compensated human life is a blank and becomes a purposeless existence. Love ever stimulates the good and suppresses the bad, if kept in a proper channel and guided by pure affections.
Another requisite of a happy marriage is health.
No person has a moral right to engage in wedlock who cannot bring to his partner the offering of good health.
Another consideration is evenness of temper.
In the wooing days everyone is a lamb, and only becomes the howling wolf after marriage. Circumstances that ruffle the temper in the presence of the intended are but like the harmless squib, but would become like the explosive torpedo in his or her absence or in after-marriage.
Quarreling caused by matrimonial differences is the most frequent cause of infelicity, and most of it is caused by an innate irate temper of either husband or wife.
The tastes should not be dissimilar. Some of them may be unimportant, but others are a fruitful source of disagreement. The social wife will never be contented with the unsocial husband, and the gay husband, though his gayety may not be commendable, will always accuse his wife if she lacks a social disposition to a great extent.
The religious wife will never excuse a tendency to irreligion in her husband, and though he may be far from being immoral, she is unhappy if he does not participate in her devotions. The one devoted to children will never be happy with one having a natural repugnance for them.
In this way we might multiply facts illustrative of the importance of an investigation into the similarity of taste previous to marriage. Great love, however, overcomes almost every obstacle.
The parties should be nearly of one age. The husband should be the elder. The union of the old husband to the young wife, or the reverse, is seldom a happy one. It is seldom that such a marriage occurs in which the incentive is not the wealth of either of the parties. [This requisite is not set in stone and some people have been known to have happy marriages despite differences in age].
Marriages are usually contracted to gratify various desires, as love, fortune or position. The results are more truthfully stated by an eminent divine in the following:
“Who marries for love, takes a wife; who marries for fortune, takes a mistress; who marries for position, takes a lady.” To a man there is but one choice that he can rationally make, a marriage of love. My female readers, I hope, will decide rather to wed a husband than the master or the elegant gentleman.
A little foresight, a little prudence, and a little caution will prevent in most cases the entrance into a marriage which, by the very nature of the alliance, is certain to be an unhappy and improper one.
Excerpt From The Ladies Book Of Useful Information.
Questions And Answers About Improving Your Marriage And Relationship With Your Husband.
How can I improve communication with my husband?
– Be intentional about spending time together talking. … – Use more “I” statements and less “You” statements. … – Be specific. … – Avoid mind reading. … – Express Negative Feelings Constructively. … – Listen without being defensive. … – Freely express positive feelings.
– Pick the Right Time. – Edit it Down. – Pause and Ask for Feedback. – Don’t Catastrophize. – Don’t Attack. – Tell Your Partner if You Want to Solve Problems or If You Want to Share Feelings. – Listening Is Not Agreeing. – Respect Advice.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Ephesians 5:22-24
How can you make your husband miss you?
– Think about his needs. Improving your relationship with your husband is the best way to make him genuinely miss you. … – Let him know you appreciate him. … – Talk about your conflicts. … – Calm yourself down during arguments. … – Avoid being defensive. … – Move past mistakes.
– Show respect. Make sure your husband knows that he is your number one. … – Show interest in his hobbies. This doesn’t mean you have to be with him every time he plays basketball with his buddies. … – Have sex. … – Do something unexpected. … – Be yourself, all the time. … – Let it go. … – Take care of him. … – Don’t nag.
See the good in him or her, and stop jumping to conclusions. Trust your spouse.Patience means that you try and see the good in your spouse, even when you feel like there isn’t much to see in the moment. We love this quote by author, Lisa Grunwald, which explains perfectly what patience looks like in marriage.
– Stop thinking that your way is the “right” way. … – Don’t put others before your husband. … – Don’t expect your husband to be your girlfriend. … – Don’t dishonor your husband. … – Stop expecting your husband to fail you as your dad failed your mom. … – Don’t put your husband on the defensive. … – Never use sex to bargain with your husband.
– Pray for the Holy Spirit to convict and change your husband.
– Request Jesus to change you so that you can better love your husband.
– Look for the positive and focus on it. – Even if you think your husband does nothing right, there really are good things about him. … – Be positive when talking to or about your spouse.
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How can I attract my husband emotionally?
– Get to know your man’s moods. … – Encourage him. … – Let him know how much you like him — without going overboard. … – Don’t be too clingy. … – Learn to compromise. … – Don’t pick fights. … – Don’t ask him if he’s mad at you if he’s just in a bad mood. … – Remember to have fun.
– Don’t put fuel into the fire. Anger has an important trait: it’s temporary. – Wait until he’s calmed down. Address his anger when he’s more rational. – Set your boundaries. – Pick your battles. – Do not tolerate disrespect. – Apologize when needed. – Diet matters.
– Show the gorgeous side of you: Maintain basic hygiene, comb your hair, smell nice and wear fitted clothes. … – Update your knowledge: … – Be independent: … – Take care of your health: … – Wear your apron for your man: … – Take interest in his interest: … – Express your love: … – Plan a date night:
– Small and tiny gestures make him feel respected. – Love him through his stomach. – Appreciate him. – Look attractive. – He craves for your sexual attention.
– Stop Nagging: There is a saying in which a nagging wife is compared to a dripping faucet. – Keep Your Home Organized: Would you want to live in a messy house? – Be Unpredictable: – Give Him Space: – Express Your Love: – Be Honest: – Communicate: – Improve Compatibility:
How do you deal with a husband who is a mama’s boy?
– Do not give in to his demands. Your man might be used to his mother catering to his every need and want, but that does not mean that you need to as well. … – Do not agree to move into her house. … – Avoid confronting his mother. … – Do not let his mother make your life choices.
– Stay calm. As much as you might want to let your anger match his, hold back. – See his point of view. What’s the reason behind your husband’s anger? – Don’t scold him. You might want to talk him down by saying things like, “Calm down.” – Insist on respect.
– Hide a love note in his wallet. – Send a sweet text message for no reason at all. – Send a sexy text message for a very good reason. – Invite him on a date for a change. – Let him talk without interrupting. – Cook his favorite dinner. – Make sure his favorite clothes are clean and ready to wear.
– Avoid big words, especially “divorce.” – Do not try to change your partner. … – Forgive each other. … – Husband is priority number one, then kids. … – Keep fit, and take care of yourself. … – Do not compare your partner to others. … – Respect each other. …
– Food is the way to a man’s heart. Make a list of his favorite snacks, treats, and meals – and make one of them for your husband, just because. – Put yourself first. … – Save money. … – Don’t talk bad about him. … – Kiss him often. … – Pick up one of his hobbies and really get into it. … – Let him have some man time. … – Catch him doing good.
– Flirt more. … – Try new hobbies together. … – Get away. … – Send the kids away for a night. … – Plan new dates. … – Do something fun every day. … – Spend time with other couples. … – Establish goals together.
– Take the sexual initiative. … – Become his sexy masseuse. … – Keep instilling ideas in his mind. … – Bring radical change into your appearance. … – Surprise him in the shower. … – Flirt with him through text messages. … – Frankly talk about your sex life.
How can I improve my physical relationship with my husband?
– Create a buildup. If you want to make the first move but aren’t sure where to begin, don’t be nervous. … – Send a dirty text. … – Create a naughty codeword. … – Go purely physical. … – Dress up and roleplay. … – Unexpected initiation. … – Reminisce. … – Just ask.
Common Wedding And Marriage Traditions And Customs From Various Cultures In History – The Vintage Woman.
It would probably be interesting to many to describe the marriage ceremonies observed by different nations, but to enter into a descriptive detail would occupy too much space. It is sufficient to say that while some wives are wooed and won, others are bought and sold; while in some countries the husband brings the wife to his home, in others, as in Formosa, the daughter brings her husband to her father’s house, and he is considered one of the family, while the sons, upon marriage, leave the family forever.
In civilized countries, the ceremonies are either ministerial or magisterial, and are more or less religious in character; while in others, less civilized, the gaining of a wife depends upon a foot-race, in which the female has the start of one-third the distance of the course, as is the custom in Lapland.
In Caffraria, the lover must first fight himself into the affections of his ladylove, and if he defeats all his rivals she becomes his wife without further ceremony. Among the Congo tribes, a wife is taken upon trial for a year, and if not suited to the standard of taste of the husband, he returns her to her patents.
In Persia, the wife’s status depends upon her fruitfulness; if she be barren, she can be put aside. In the same country they have also permanent marriages and marriages for a certain period only—the latter never allowed to exceed ninety years.
In fact, the marriage ceremonies differ in nearly all countries. To us some may appear very absurd, and yet our customs may be just as amazing to them. It matters but little how a conjugal union is effected so long as sanctioned by law or custom and it obligates the parties, by common opinion, to observe the duties pertaining to married life.
Excerpt From The Ladies Book Of Useful Information.
What You Need To Know About Cohabitation And Marriage From Various Cultures And Times In History – The Vintage Woman.
Marriage is in law the conjugal union of man with woman, and is the only state in which cohabitation is considered proper and irreprehensible. The marriage relation exists in all Christian communities, and is considered the most solemn of contracts, and, excepting in Protestant countries, it is regarded as a sacrament.
In some countries its celebration falls under the cognizance of ecclesiastical courts only, but in the United States it is regarded as merely a civil contract, magistrates having, equally with clergymen, the right to solemnize it, though it is usually the practice to have it performed by a clergyman and attended with religious ceremonies.
Marriage, as a legalized custom, is of very ancient origin. It is doubtful whether even the primitive man was not governed in the intercourse of the sexes by some recognition of the union being confined to one chosen one. No greater promiscuity can certainly be supposed than occurs in the lower animals, where pairing is the law.
The nobler animals, as the lion, elephant, etc., never have but one mate, and even in case of death do not remate. As men advanced, civil codes were inaugurated and certain protection given to the choice of the parties. The earliest civil code regulating marriage, of which we have any account, was that of Menes, who, Herodotus tells us, was the first of the Pharaohs, or native Egyptian kings, and who lived about 3,500 years before Christ. The nature of his code is not known.
The Biblical account extends further back, but it does not appear that any laws existed regulating marriage, but each one was allowed to choose his wife and concubines, and it is supposed that common consent respected the selection. Next, Moses gave laws for the government of marriage among the Israelites.
The early Greeks followed the code of Cecrops, and the Romans were also governed in their marital relations by stringent laws. In fact, the necessity of some law regulating the intercourse between the sexes must have become very apparent to all nations or communities at a very early period. It certainly antedates any legal regulations with regard to the possession of property.
It is very probable that every community did by common consent afford to each male one or more females, and the presumption is that such choice or assignment, as the case may have been, was respected by common agreement as inviolable. It is doubtful if ever promiscuity was the law or privilege with any community of men, even in their primitive state.
The possession of reason is antagonistic to such a belief; and man was most probably elevated above the beast by the faculty of reason in this respect as in others. Promiscuous indulgence is always evidence of debauchery, and a departure from that natural course which is prompted by an innate sense of propriety characterizing mankind.
The law is very indefinite with regard to what constitutes a legal marriage. It is an unsettled question, both in England and this country, whether a marriage solemnized by customary formalities alone is legal, or if one characterized by the mere consent of the parties is illegal. The latter has been held as legal in some instances in both countries.
Kent, in his “Commentaries,” lays down the law that a contract made so that either party recognizes it from the moment of contract, and even not followed by cohabitation, amounts to a valid marriage, and also that a contract to be recognized at some future period, and followed by consummation, is equally valid.
It is unfortunate that the law is so undecided in this respect. The decisions arrived at, for or against, were not dependent upon any recognized law, but seem to be influenced by the character of the cases, either for favor or discountenance.
As long as the law recognizes cohabitation legal only in marriage, it seems to me that if consummated under consent of the parties to bear marital relations with each other, or promise of marriage, the act should be unhesitatingly pronounced as the equivalent of a valid marriage in all instances.
If cohabitation is only a marital prerogative, the law should not stultify itself by recognizing it as possible to occur in any other relation. If either of the parties is married, the law defines it as adultery, and very properly defines the punishment. It is necessary to the progress of the age that some such principle should be recognized in common law so as not to subject the decision of the question to the individual opinion of any judge.
It would at once obviate the confusion of sentiment now held in regard to it and besides arrest the decision in test cases from mere caprice of the tribunal. It is certainly as correct a principle as any in common law, and would, in its operations as a statute law, be free from injustice, and capable of doing much good.
Excerpt From The Ladies Book Of Useful Information.
During Dating And Courtship, Single Women Should Do The Following To Avoid Losing Their Partners And Honor – The Vintage Woman.
Young men are fond of your company and of paying you every polite attention, and you, as a right-minded woman, are well pleased to be so treated. It is due to you as a woman. Now, each of them is, or ought to be, looking out for a wife, and it is well that you should know this.
It is, too, more important than you perhaps are aware, that you should be carefully making your own observations, so that when the time arrives for one of them to ask you to become his wife you may not be taken by surprise, but may know how to act on the occasion.
Let me caution you here against a failing that is common among young women. I mean that of making themselves too cheap. They feel flattered by the attentions paid to them, and are not sufficiently aware that many young men are fond of indulging in flattery; and such, if they find a young woman weak enough to be pleased with it, will perhaps play upon her feelings and gain her affections without having any honorable intentions towards her.
As a protection against such, I recommend you to have a proper respect for yourself, and to consider with what object or purpose you receive their attentions. If you respond without an object, you may be doing them wrong; if you accept them when they have no right intentions, you allow them to wrong you.
For this purpose consider well what you are—a human being intended for an eternity of bliss. God has made you a woman; and, believe me, as there is no fairer, so there is no nobler creature than woman. She is formed to be her husband’s helpmate and the mother of his children, and the all-important work of training these for heaven depends mainly upon her.
Great, then, is her responsibility; but God has given her the requisite love and power to do her duty with satisfaction and delight. He has placed you in this beautiful world that by doing your duty as a daughter, sister, wife, mother, and friend, you may become fitted to enter His heavenly kingdom.
During your courtship let me entreat you to be very careful and circumspect. There is no period of life that can compare with this delightful season. It is, or should be, full of sunshine and sparkling with the poetry of life; but alas! to many it is the opposite. A want of judgment—a momentary indiscretion—has not only blotted out this beautiful springtime of life, but has marred, darkened, and blighted the whole of the after lifetime.
No maiden can, under any circumstances, place her character in the hands of any man before marriage. No matter how sincere the love, how ardent the protestations, how earnest or plausible the pleadings, you must not, you cannot, surrender your honor. You must preserve your prudence and virtue;
Excerpt From The Ladies Book Of Useful Information.
Therefore I Desire That The Younger Widows Marry – Marriage Bible Verses.
But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you.
1 Corinthians 7:28
A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she remains as she is, according to my judgment—and I think I also have the Spirit of God.
1 Corinthians 7:39-40
Yet you ask, “For what reason?” Because the Lord has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have acted treacherously against her, though she was your marriage partner and your wife by covenant.
Malachi 2:14
Take wives and have sons and daughters. Take wives for your sons and give your daughters to men in marriage so that they may bear sons and daughters. Multiply there; do not decrease.
Jeremiah 29:6
“If brothers dwell together, and one of them dies and has no son, the widow of the dead man shall not be married to a stranger outside the family; her husband’s brother shall go in to her, take her as his wife, and perform the duty of a husband’s brother to her.
Deuteronomy 25:5
Then he said to me, “Write: Those invited to the marriage feast of the Lamb are fortunate!” He also said to me, “These words of God are true.”
Revelation 19:9
So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man.
Romans 7:3
Still another said, ‘I have married a wife, and therefore I cannot come.’
Luke 14:20
Judah has dealt treacherously, And an abomination has been committed in Israel and in Jerusalem, For Judah has profaned The Lord’s holy institution which He loves: He has married the daughter of a foreign god.
Malachi 2:11
For as in the days before the flood, they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noah entered the ark.
Matthew 24:38
But Abijah grew mighty, married fourteen wives, and begot twenty-two sons and sixteen daughters.
2 Chronicles 13:21
“When brothers live on the same property and one of them dies without a son, the wife of the dead man may not marry a stranger outside the family. Her brother-in-law is to take her as his wife, have sexual relations with her, and perform the duty of a brother-in-law for her.
Deuteronomy 25:5
“You must not marry or have sons or daughters in this place. 3 For this is what the Lord says concerning sons and daughters born in this place as well as concerning the mothers who bear them and the fathers who father them in this land:
Jeremiah 16:2-3
Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14
For Mahlah, Tirzah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Noah, the daughters of Zelophehad, were married to the sons of their father’s brothers.
Numbers 36:11
“Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
Luke 16:18
In those days I also saw Jews who had married women of Ashdod, Ammon, and Moab. 24 And half of their children spoke the language of Ashdod, and could not speak the language of Judah, but spoke according to the language of one or the other people.
Nehemiah 13:23-24
Moses agreed to stay with the man, and he gave his daughter Zipporah to Moses in marriage.
Exodus 2:21
“He is to marry a woman who is a virgin. 14 He is not to marry a widow, a divorced woman, or one defiled by prostitution. He is to marry a virgin from his own people,
For A Happy And Successful Marriage That Will Last And Survive The Storms Of Life You Need This – The Vintage Woman.
You can have a fulfilling and happy marriage even in today’s world. You can have a healthy and successful marriage in today’s atmosphere’s filled with divorce and separation. You simply need to base your marriage on the architect of marriage. The person who doesn’t think it is right for man or for woman to be alone. The one who believes that human being’s need support systems, family, relationships and marriage.
And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
Genesis 2:18
Without the assistance of Jesus and the help of his Holy Spirit, it is very difficult and hard to have a happy marriage. Jesus who is God created marriage. Jesus, is your assured and full proof prevention against a bad and painful marriage.
God created marriage in the garden of eden when he made the first man, Adam and gave him a wife, Eve (the first woman). From henceforth, God ordained marriage. A marriage without God, is a marriage headed for disaster, divorce, unhappiness and destruction.
Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. 23 And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Genesis 2:22-25
Modern teaching says that the marriage is a social construct, that is made by the people and the state. That is a very fallicious view that explains the high divorce rates we are witnessing in our world today.
Divorce is very painful and a difficult process. Divorce is akin to death as there is loss involved. A loss of dreams, hope, love, comfort, peace, stability finances, support, faith etc.
I pray that before we get married, we can ask Jesus to help us choose the right partners. And even after he has helped us to choose the right partners, I pray we build the foundations of our marriages on him because Jesus is the solid foundation and rock that never fails.
Whoever comes to Me, and hears My sayings and does them, I will show you whom he is like: 48 He is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently against that house, and could not shake it, for it was founded on the rock.
Luke 6:47-48
When the storms of life, hit, as they will inevitably hit, we can count on Jesus and the guidance of his Holy spirit to see us and our marriages through the rough seas and storms.
If you are going through any difficulties in your marriage today, how about, you invite Jesus to come and help you fix the difficulties and solve whatever challenges you are facing? Let’s give our marriages back to God and see him do a new and wondrous thing in our lives.
Below, is added information and useful advice from a book titled, “Ladies Book Of Useful Information.” that you will also find useful.
Advice upon this subject is very much needed. I am assured that it is a subject not often talked of in families—at least, as it ought to be—nor is it much alluded to in the pulpit, and the result is that young people commonly get their notions about it from those only a little older than themselves, and who therefore know but little more than they do, or from those who form their opinions from the abuse they see of it and so hold degrading and unworthy ideas respecting it.
Sometimes all that is known about it amounts to this, that it is a delightful thing to be married. It is quite true that it often is, and always ought to be, delightful; still, you know it is frequently the reverse. You cannot, then, be too cautious in the matter.
Nothing can be more orderly, right, proper, and holy than marriage. It is not, however, quite so simple an affair as you may fancy. Every good thing (and this is one of the best) requires some effort to obtain it, and unless you take the right course you must not expect to succeed.
You may often see a young woman who, from not entertaining correct views on the point, is certainly taking a wrong course, her endeavors being rather to make what she considers a good match than by acquiring kind and orderly habits to qualify herself to become worthy of a worthy husband.
That the best things are liable to the greatest abuses is notorious, and from the lamentable fact that marriage is often abused we may fairly infer its pre-eminent worth. In truth, there is nothing more valuable. It is, then, highly injurious to entertain low notions respecting it, and men who indulge in loose conversation on the subject are likely at the same time to think meanly of women.
Beware of them, and if you hear them expressing such opinions in your presence, withdraw from them at once as unworthy of your company. Never fear but they will respect you the more for the rebuke.
Of course you are looking forward to settling happily, and will do your best for that purpose. On this let me remark that all happiness (that is, all that is genuine, and therefore worthy of the name) comes from connection with the one great source of all good, and He has freely and fully provided all the means necessary for our being happy, both here and hereafter.
He has placed each of us where it is best for us to be, and in the circumstances that are best for us at the time, and this applies to you and to me now. Howsoever much appearances may be to the contrary, He cares as much for each of us as if we were the sole objects of His care.
It is only by doing our duty in humble dependence on His assistance, which He never withholds, that we can be happy. It behooves you, then, to consider well what is your duty, in order that you may do it and may enjoy the blessings He is so ready to bestow. I hope you may have been a loving and dutiful daughter, an affectionate sister, and a faithful friend; then you may have good ground of hope for the future.
Excerpt From The Ladies Book Of Useful Information.
Principles For Choosing The Right Marriage Partner | How To Know You’re Marrying The Right Person – The Vintage Woman.
When to marry.
The proper age to marry is a somewhat vexed question, but needlessly so, because that age varies much, according to temperament and other circumstances relating to the individual. Although after puberty the sexual organs are capable of reproduction, yet it by no means follows that they should be used for that purpose.
Their early activity is intended for the perfection of the body and mind, and not for the continuation of the species.
Very early marriage therefore, should be avoided, because the nervous force expended in amative indulgence is imperatively required in both sexes for developing the physical and mental faculties. The zoösperms produced by the male in the first years of puberty are inferior in power and less capable of producing healthy offspring than those of mature years.
The early germs, also, of the female are less fitted for fecundation than those that appear later in life; nature evidently intending these early efforts to be used on the individuals themselves in building up their bodies, strengthening their minds, and preparing them to reproduce their species in maturer years.
There is a serious day of reckoning for early indulgence; for precocious persons (unless their constitutions are as powerful as their desires) who give way to their passions at their first exactions, barter their youth for their enjoyment, and are old and weary of the world at an age when people of more moderate habits are only in the meridian of pleasure and existence.
Generally the best age to marry where the health is perfect, is from twenty-one to twenty-five in the male and from eighteen to twenty-one in the female. As a general rule, marriages earlier than this are injurious and detrimental to health.
Men who marry too young, unless they are of cold and phlegmatic constitution, [and thus moderate in their conduct, become partially bald, dim of sight, and lose all elasticity of limb in a few years; while women in a like position rarely have any bloom on their cheek or fire in their eye by the time they are twenty-five. And all profound physiologists agree that from the same cause the mental faculties suffer in the same ratio.
A medium, however, is to be observed. It is not well to defer till middle age the period of connubial intercourse; for too tedious spinsterhood is as much calculated to hasten the decay of beauty as too early a marriage.
Hence, there is rarely any freshness to be seen in a maiden of thirty; while the matron of that age, if her life has been a happy one, and her hymeneal condition of not more than ten years’ standing, is scarcely in the heyday of her charm’s. And the same rule will apply with equal force to the other sex; for, after the first prime of life, bachelors decay and grow old much faster than married men.
The rich are qualified for marriage before the poor. This is owing to the superiority of their aliment; for very nutritious food, and the constant use of wines, coffee, etc., greatly assists in developing the organs of reproduction; whereas the food generally made use of among the peasantry of most countries—as vegetables, corn, milk, etc.—retards their growth.
Owing to this difference of diet, the daughter of a man of wealth, who keeps a good table, will be as adequate to certain duties of married life at eighteen as the daughter of a humble peasant at twenty-one.
Singular as it may seem, it is none the less true, that love novels, amorous conversations, playing parlor games for kisses, voluptuous pictures, waltzing, and, in fact, all things having a tendency to create desire, assist in promoting puberty and preparing young persons for early marriage. Those who reach this estate, however, by artificial means and much before the natural period will have to suffer for it in after life.
The female who marries before the completion of her womanhood—that is, before her puberty is established—will cease to grow and probably become pale and delicate, the more especially if she become pregnant soon after marriage. A person who is thus circumstanced will also be liable to abortions and painful deliveries.
Marriage unless under very peculiar circumstances, should not take place until two or three years after the age of puberty. Many instances could be cited of the injurious effects resulting from not observing this rule.
The case of the son of Napoleon I. is a notable instance, who, at the age of fifteen or sixteen, began his career of sexual indulgence, which ended his life at the early age of twenty-one years.
He was an amiable, inoffensive, and studious youth, beloved by his grandfather and the whole Austrian court; and though the son of the most energetic man that modern times has produced, yet, from his effeminate life, he scarcely attracted the least public attention.
Let me, therefore, advise the male reader to keep his desires in leading-strings until he is at least twenty-one, and the female not to enter the pale of wedlock until she is past her eighteenth year; but after these periods marriage is their proper sphere of action, and one in which they must play a part or suffer actual pain as well as the loss of one of the greatest of earthly pleasures.
Mental, Physical And Personality Considerations.
Marriages are most happy and most productive of handsome and healthy offspring when the husband and wife differ, not only in mental conformation, but in bodily construction. A melancholy man should mate himself with a sprightly woman, and vice versa; for otherwise they will soon grow weary of the monotony of each other’s company.
By the same rule should the choleric and the patient be united, and the ambitious and the humble; for the opposites of their natures not only produce pleasurable excitement, but each keeps the other in a wholesome check. In the size and form of the parties the same principles hold good.
Tall women are not the ideals of beauty to tall men; and if they marry such, they will soon begin to imagine greater perfections in other forms than in those of their own wives. And this is well ordered by nature to prevent the disagreeable results which are almost certain to grow out of unions where the parties have a strong resemblance.
For instance, tall parents will probably have children taller than either, and mental imbecility is the usual attendant of extreme size. The union of persons prone to corpulency, of dwarfs, etc., would have parallel results; and so, likewise, of weakly and attenuated couples.
The tall should marry the short, the corpulent the lean, the choleric the gentle, and so on, and the tendency to extremes in the parents will be corrected in the offspring.
Apart from these considerations, there are reasons why persons of the same disposition should not be united and wedlock. An amiable wife to a choleric man is like oil to troubled waters; an ill-tempered one will make his life a misery and his home a hell.
The man of studious habits should marry a woman of sense and spirit rather than of erudition, or the union will increase the monotony of his existence, which it would be well for his health and spirits to correct by a little conjugal excitement; and the man of gloomy temperament will find the greatest relief from the dark forebodings of his mind in the society of a gentle, but lively and smiling partner.
However, in some particulars the dispositions and constructions of married people must assimilate or they will have but few enjoyments in common.
The man of full habits and warm nature had better remain single than unite his destinies with a woman whose heart repulses the soft advancements of love; and the sanguine female in whose soul love is the dominant principle should avoid marriage with a very phlegmatic person, or her caresses, instead of being returned in kind, will rather excite feelings of disgust.
Thus the discriminations to be made in the choice of a partner are extremely nice.Nature generally assists art in the choice of partners. We instinctively seek in the object of our desires the qualities which we do not possess ourselves.
This is a most admirable arrangement of Providence, as it establishes an equilibrium and prevents people from tending to extremes; for it is known that unions of dwarfs are fruitful of dwarfs, that giants proceed from the embrace of giants, and that offspring of parents alike irritable, alike passive, alike bashful, etc., inherit the prominent qualities of both to such a degree as to seriously interfere with their prospects in the world.
It has another advantage. Through its means “Every eye forms its own beauty”; hence, what one person rejects is the beau ideal of another’s conceptions, and thus we are all provided for.
In fine, with man as with animals, the best way to improve the breed is to cross it, for the intermarriage of like with like and relative with relative not only causes man to degenerate, but if the system became universal would in time bring the human race to a termination altogether.
A male or female with a very low forehead should carefully avoid marriage with a person of like conformation, or their offspring will, in all probability, be weak-minded or victims to partial idiocy.
The system of crossing is so perfect that marriages between persons of different countries are likely to be pleasant and fruitful. Speaking on this subject, an English writer says: “The Persians have been so improved by introducing foreigners that they have completely succeeded in washing out their Mongolian origin.”
And the same author adds to the effect that in those parts of Persia where there is no foreign intercourse the inhabitants are sickly and stunted, while in those that are frequented by strangers they are large and healthy.
To make what is called, “A handsome couple,” the female should be about three inches less than the male, and the parties should be proportionately developed throughout their system.
A well formed woman says a modern physiologist, “should have her head, shoulders, and chest small and compact; arms and limbs relatively short; her haunches apart; her hips elevated; her abdomen large and her thighs voluminous. Hence, she should taper from the center, up and down.
Whereas, in a well-formed man the shoulders are more prominent than the hips. Great hollowness of the back, the pressing of the thigh against each other in walking, and the elevation of one hip above the other, are indications of the malformation of the pelvis.”
From the same writer I take the following, which is applicable here. It is very correct in its estimates of beauty in both sexes:—
“The length of the neck should be proportionately less in the male than in the female, because the dependence of the mental system on the vital one is naturally connected with the shorter courses of the vessels of the neck.
“The neck should form a gradual transition between the body and head—its fullness concealing all prominences of the throat.
“The shoulders should slope from the lower part of the neck, because the reverse shows that the upper part of the chest owes its width to the bones and muscles of the shoulders.
“The upper part of the chest should be relatively short and wide, independent of the size of the shoulders, for this shows the vital organs which it contains are sufficiently developed.
“The waist should taper a little farther than the middle of the trunk, and be marked, especially in the back and loins, by the approximation of the hips. “The waist should be narrower than the upper part of the trunk and its muscles, because the reverse indicates the expansion of the stomach, liver, and great intestine, resulting from their excessive use.
“The back of woman should be more hollow than that of man; for otherwise the pelvis is not of sufficient depth for parturition.
“Women should have more extended loins than men, at the expense of the superior and inferior parts, for this conformation is essential to gestation. “The abdomen should be larger in woman than in man, for the same reason.
“Over all these parts the cellular tissue, and the plumpness connected with it, should obliterate all distinct projection of muscles.
“The surface of the whole female form should be characterized by its softness, elasticity, smoothness, delicacy, and polish, and by the gradual and easy transition between the parts.
“The moderate plumpness already described should bestow on the organs of woman great suppleness. Plumpness is essential to beauty, especially in mothers, because in them the abdomen necessarily expands, and would afterwards collapse and become wrinkled.
“An excess of plumpness, however, is to be guarded against. Young women who are very fat are cold and prone to barrenness. “In no case should plumpness be so predominant as to destroy the distinctness of parts.”
A male and female formed on the above models would be well matched and have fine children.
Your Land Shall Be Married – Marriage Bible Verses.
You shall no longer be termed Forsaken, Nor shall your land any more be termed Desolate; But you shall be called Hephzibah, and your land Beulah; For the Lord delights in you, And your land shall be married.
Isaiah 62:4
For I am jealous over you with a godly jealousy, because I have promised you in marriage to one husband — to present a pure virgin to Christ.
2 Corinthians 11:2
“The kingdom of heaven is like a certain king who arranged a marriage for his son, 3 and sent out his servants to call those who were invited to the wedding; and they were not willing to come.
Matthew 22:2-3
So then he who gives her in marriage does well, but he who does not give her in marriage does better.
1 Corinthians 7:38
If a man marries a woman and her mother, it is wickedness. They shall be burned with fire, both he and they, that there may be no wickedness among you.
Leviticus 20:14
Then he said to me, “Write: Blessed are those who are called to the marriage supper of the Lamb!’ ” And he said to me, “These are the true sayings of God.”
Revelation 19:9
Now Solomon made a treaty with Pharaoh king of Egypt, and married Pharaoh’s daughter; then he brought her to the City of David until he had finished building his own house, and the house of the Lord, and the wall all around Jerusalem.
I Kings 3:1
Then Miriam and Aaron spoke against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married; for he had married an Ethiopian woman.
Numbers 12:1
But refuse the younger widows; for when they have begun to grow wanton against Christ, they desire to marry, 12 having condemnation because they have cast off their first faith.
1 Timothy 5:11-12
He had thirty sons. And he gave away thirty daughters in marriage, and brought in thirty daughters from elsewhere for his sons. He judged Israel seven years.
Judges 12:9
And what man is there who is betrothed to a woman and has not married her? Let him go and return to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man marry her.’
Deuteronomy 20:7
So Lot went out and spoke to his sons-in-law, who had married his daughters, and said, “Get up, get out of this place; for the Lord will destroy this city!” But to his sons-in-law he seemed to be joking.
Genesis 19:14
We will not give our daughters in marriage to the surrounding peoples and will not take their daughters as wives for our sons.
Nehemiah 10:30
Since I am speaking to those who understand law, brothers, are you unaware that the law has authority over someone as long as he lives? 2 For example, a married woman is legally bound to her husband while he lives. But if her husband dies, she is released from the law regarding the husband.
Romans 7:1-2
“They shall not defile themselves by coming near a dead person. Only for father or mother, for son or daughter, for brother or unmarried sister may they defile themselves.
What Makes Marriage Sweetest – The Healing Power Of Love.
Books and manuals have been written about what makes marriage sweet. We are taught about the attributes of a great marriage in church sermons, television shows, magazines, conferences, podcasts, radio, movies etc. The commonest guiding principles for a sweet marriage are often listed as.
While all these ingredients make a marriage sweet, what makes a marriage sweetest is the HOLY SPIRIT.
The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Last.
The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Easy.
The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Work.
The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Work.
The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Sweet.
The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Divine.
The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Worth It.
The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Delicious.
The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Successful.
The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Everlasting.
The Holy Spirit has the ability to harmonize and make all the other values work. The Holy Spirit makes marriage easy. He takes the weariness and work out of it.
Are you looking for ways to take your marriage from sweet to sweetest, good to great, bland to bright, lifeless to colorful? Well, I invite you to ask Jesus Christ to send his Holy Spirit into your marriage.
The Holy Spirit is all powerful. Give your marriage to him and see him do a new, miraculous and wondrous thing.
You shall no longer be termed Forsaken, Nor shall your land any more be termed Desolate; But you shall be called Hephzibah, and your land Beulah; For the Lord delights in you, And your land shall be married. 5 For as a young man marries a virgin, So shall your sons marry you; And as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, So shall your God rejoice over you.
Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness And rivers in the desert. 20 The beast of the field will honor Me, The jackals and the ostriches, Because I give waters in the wilderness And rivers in the desert, To give drink to My people, My chosen. 21 This people I have formed for Myself; They shall declare My praise.
That year, my boyfriend had forgotten my birthday.
I didn’t take it as a big deal since I wasn’t exactly the party, celebration kind of girl. Plus, I rarely celebrated the day myself unless someone else decided to do it on my behalf. Most years, it just went by like any other day unless someone surprised me like happened that particular year.
I was therefore shocked when I got a call from a friend telling me, “When you are in town, please give me a call, I have something that has your name on it and belongs to you.”
When I eventually got to town, my friend had a package with a number of goodies and among them was the biggest, most expensive looking box of Chocolates I had ever seen in my life!
I looked at the box very surprised and speechless. He looked at me, not sure whether I was happy or not. So he went on to explain further, “I didn’t know what to get you. I wanted it to be a surprise so I didn’t ask whether you like chocolates or not. I hope you love them”
I then told him, ‘It’s not that. I’m just really deeply moved right now. That is why I’m speechless.’
He prodded me, “Go ahead and open the box. These are really delicious chocolates. Plus they are rare to find in these parts. I know you will love them.”
I told him, “No! I will open them later, when I’m home and settled. I want to savor them. Slowly and patiently.”
But something deeply intrigued me. So I asked him, ‘Why did you get me all this?’ He then proceeded to tell me, “Simply because I think you deserve this and much more.” I wasn’t very convinced, so I asked him, “Really? Is it not because it was my birthday a few days ago?”
He told me, “It was your birthday? Why didn’t you tell me? I didn’t know.”
I looked at him speechless and with my eyes a little misty. I don’t know if he saw the pain and untold stories in my eyes that day, but he went on to say, “You deserve every beautiful thing in this world.”
I just looked at him quietly. Deeply moved and speechless. I didn’t know what to tell him. But in my mind I kept thinking, ‘Wow! Wow! God still does create them like this! God you still make them this way, there is Hope for humanity after all.”
That day, as I meditated on the events that had happened, the word, Kindness took on a whole new meaning.
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There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. 19 We love Him because He first loved us.
1 John 4:18-19
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
The Depth, Height, Weight, Breadth Of Love – Rethinking Love In Today’s World.
A few weeks back, I got onto twitter and started tweeting about LOVE. That particular morning a few weeks back I had just re-read Paul’s letter in 1 Corinthians 13 with new eyes.
See, at that particular point in time, the notion of love really confounded me (In all fairness, I’m still confounded and learning).
I had movie definitions, dictionary definitions and novel definitions etc. Anyhow, in my confusion, I read that chapter a few times and yet I still couldn’t get it. How could Paul say love never fails and yet I (mistakenly and supposedly) saw it failing all time? I was pathetically failing to grasp the slippery nuances of this verb or is it noun or is it emotion and thought it very powerless and a waste of precious time.
I mean how dare Paul write assertively, unperturbed and so assuredly about love walloping mighty, tough and hardened faith and hope? Was Paul for real?
Which world was Paul living in? Did Paul know about our current world? Did he even have any inkling at all about the various pressures we faced on a daily basis?
Hadn’t Paul heard people saying love was for the broke, weak and pathetic? Hadn’t Paul heard that love doesn’t put food on the table? Was there no pain during Paul’s time? Were people not killing each other over mundane things during his generation? Were the separation/break up/divorce rates not on the rise during his days? Were children not being abandoned, mistreated, thrown into toilets and onto the streets when he lived? Were there no starving and poor people during his age? Theft, robberies, abuse, pride, fear, insults, violence, gossip, slander, rage, deceit etc. Was Paul aware of such plagues or was he just waxing lyrical because he never got to live during the information/knowledge age?
I had too many questions (and no one to answer them) because most of the people I knew were too busy doing one thing or another to try and indulge me in my proclivities. I thus decided to put 1 Corinthians 13 aside.
Another reason was that the more I read that chapter, the more of a fraud I felt like. And wanting to save my skin and mind from dissonance, I decided to shelve it and to dwell on more promising aspects of life.
Anyhow, as God work’s sometimes one cheery morning without me even trying to, I finally got my EUREKA moment! And I went like! BINGO! That is it! This is in fact what Paul was saying when he wrote that famous chapter. It finally started dawning on me why Paul was waxing lyrical.
Paul’s letter says many things but I will share two today:
It doesn’t matter how well you communicate/speak/write etc. If you don’t have love, you are kidding yourself.
It doesn’t matter how prophetic, knowledgable, intelligent, talented and wise you are; If you don’t have love, don’t pamper yourself.
It doesn’t matter how much money/things/time/benefits you give to those less fortunate than you: If it’s not done out of love, you better keep your riches and enjoy them alone.
It doesn’t matter how much pain and abuse you can endure at the hands of tormentors. If you are not enduring out of love, please re-think your strategy.
In essence Paul is cautioning us thus: All those sweeping, dramatic, public displays we keep engaging in, sometimes even with Videos, T.V’s, newspapers, the media helping us to record etc, don’t really matter if we are just doing them for appearances and are not doing it out of love, true humanity and humility.
I feel the chapter screaming:
Forget the public shows.
Forget the frivolities.
Forget the superficiality.
Forget the extravaganza.
Forget the plastic surgery.
Forget the revisions and correction.
Forget the spectacle and displays.
Just forget it all. Instead! Lets go DEEPER!
Don’t give me the facade.
Don’t show me crocodile tears.
Don’t show me your perfection.
Don’t show me the nice, decent clothes.
Don’t even bother with the manicured nails.
Show me your scars and wounds. Show me the crevices and cracks. Show me where it hurts the most. Show me where you need healing. Show me where I can attend to you. Show me the dirt beneath your nails. Show me your fears and vulnerabilities.
BUT
Show me the beauty too! Show me the laughter, humor and fun. Show me the whimsical plays and dreams. Show me the delicate, cute and pretty lines too. Show me the guffaws, chuckles, grins and smiles. Show me YOU, in whatever hues and colors you are created.
Colored, black and white, sepia, with filters, as a portrait or as landscape, with borders or without, with a Lomo effect, HDR or Bokeh. The applications don’t really matter. As long as it is you and not a person/picture with no soul! Some people are breathing but they have no souls. Show me a soul!
BUT please! Don’t lament to me about other people’s realities. Don’t share with me another person’s weaknesses. Don’t tell me other people’s stories without their permission. I don’t want those stories, myths, tales, fabrications.
Tell me your stories. Tell me your realities. Tell me about YOU!
Because:
Love goes deeper. Love goes to the core. Love doesn’t float on the surface. Love is not conventional. Love runs the extra mile. Love doesn’t make sense. Love is overwhelming. Love beats logic and thinking. Love goes further and longer. Love removes bandaids and deals with wounds. Love is not interested in the flowers, it wants the roots. Love swims to the deep end and then submerges itself and lets the torrents crash over it. Love is grit, gentleness, grace all meshed into one to produce a tapestry of unimaginable dimensions.
And that is how this pathetic, seemingly, disturbing thing called LOVE manages to trump the ferocious, predominant, popular and powerfully menacing giants called Faith and Hope.
Thats how love beats knowledge, wisdom, beauty, talent, money, education, degrees, fashion and all the other trappings we have grown accustomed to.
For a moment, yes, take a pause please and:
Forget their names and locations!
Forget how people dress!
Forget how stinky their breath is!
Forget the tattoos on their bodies!
Forget the alcohol they drink!
Forget the drugs they binge on!
Forget the color of their skin!
Forget their religion and ideologies!
Forget their sins and favorite pass times!
Forget they haven’t taken a shower in days!
Forget the language in which speak or worship God!
Forget how pathetic and weak they look!
Forget the disfigurement and lack or refinement.
Forget all that! Forget all that! Forget it!
Now change your lenses;
Imagine this person was you. Imagine their story was yours. Picture their reality as yours (I know this is too difficult for some people). But still! How would you want to be treated if the tables were suddenly turned (And this can happen at any time and to anyone). Imagine for a moment you found yourself on the other side of the divide.
Hindus talk of reincarnation. Sometimes I wonder how people would behave if they knew that their present actions may get them reincarnated as something much lesser in another life. I wonder if this would influence how these folks treat others.
I will summarize by saying: Paul’s letter to the Corinthian church is saying that Love:
It is patient.
It is kind.
It doesn’t envy (e.g how come the pastors/corporations/other people are so successful and I’m so poor yet I do a, b, c etc. It’s just not fair).
It doesn’t boast.
It is not proud (I can never do that! My standards are too high).
It does not dishonor others (those who like exposing other peoples secrets, secluded battles, nudes and other private information for sinister motives without permission).
It is not self seeking (Me! Me! Myself and I kind of philosophies).
It is not easily angered (doesn’t mean it doesn’t get angry. Just means the tempers are even and not short).
It keeps no record of wrongs (Lord help our memories).
It doesn’t delight in evil.
It rejoices with the truth.
It always protects.
It always trusts.
It always hopes.
It always perseveres.
Love never fails.
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing. 4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.
“The heart, when broken, is like sweet gums and spices when beaten; for as such cast their fragrant scent into the nostrils of men, so the heart, when broken, casts its sweet smell into the nostrils of God.”
“Hope has a thick skin and will endure many a blow; it will put on patience as a vestment and will endure all things (if they be of the right kind) for the joy that is set before it. Hence patience is called patience of hope,’ because it is hope that makes the soul exercise long-suffering under the cross until the time comes to enjoy the crown!”
“Christian, let God’s distinguishing love to you be a motive to you to fear Him greatly. He has put His fear in your heart, and may not have given that blessing to your neighbor, perhaps not to your husband, your wife, your child, or your parent. Oh, what an obligation should this thought lay upon your heart to greatly fear the Lord! Remember also that this fear of the Lord is His treasure, a choice jewel, given only to favorites, and to those who are greatly beloved.”
– John Bunyan
“You have chosen the roughest road, but it leads straight to the hilltops.”
“Great sins do draw out great grace; and where guilt is most terrible and fierce, there the mercy of God in Christ, when showed to the soul, appears most high and mighty.”
– John Bunyan
“I love to hear my Lord spoken of, and wherever I have seen the print of His shoe in the earth, there have I coveted to put mine also.”
“There was a castle called Doubting Castle, the owner whereof was Giant Despair.”
– John Bunyan
“Now while they were thus drawing towards the gate, behold, a company of the heavenly host came to meet them; to whom it was said by the other two Shining Ones, These are the men that have loved our Lord when they were in the world, and that have left all for his holy name; and he hath sent us to fetch them, and we have brought them thus far on their desired journey, that they may go in and look their Redeemer in the face with joy. Then the heavenly host gave a great shout, saying, ‘Blessed are they that are called to the marriage supper of the Lamb.”
“Conversion is not the smooth, easy-going process some men seem to think… It is wounding work, this breaking of the hearts, but without wounding there is no saving… Where there is grafting there will always be a cutting, the graft must be let in with a wound; to stick it onto the outside or to tie it on with a string would be of no use. Heart must be set to heart and back to back or there will be no sap from root to branch. And this, I say, must be done by a wound, by a cut.”
– John Bunyan
“Great grace and small gifts are better than great gifts and no grace.”
“It is said that in some countries trees will grow, but will bear no fruit because there is no winter there.”
– John Bunyan
“Therefore if mine enemy hunger, let me feed him; if he thirst, let me give him drink. Now in order to do this, (1) We must see good in that, in which other men can see none. (2) We must pass by those injuries that other men would revenge. (3) We must show we have grace, and that we are made to bear what other men are not acquainted with. (4) Many of our graces are kept alive, by those very things that are the death of other men’s souls…. The devil, (they say) is good when he is pleased; but Christ and His saints, when displeased.”
“There hath not one tear dropped from thy tender eye against thy lusts, the love of this world, or for more communion with Jesus Christ, but as it is now in the bottle of God.”
– John Bunyan
“I seek a place that can never be destroyed, one that is pure, and that fadeth not away, and it is laid up in heaven, and safe there, to be given, at the time appointed, to them that seek it with all their heart. Read it so, if you will, in my book.”
“A tender heart is a wakeful, watchful heart. It watches against sin in the soul, sin in the family, sin in the calling, sin in spiritual duties and performances.”
“Now, Mr. Great-heart was a strong man, so he was not afraid of a lion.”
– John Bunyan
“Talkative represents the man or woman who delights in talking about divine things but has only theoretical knowledge of such things. No actual personal heart experience correlates to the matters they love to discuss so eloquently. They are often highly esteemed by others, but those closest to them would quickly betray a life out-of-sync with their words. The mask fashioned by fluency with all subjects divine hides their real life.”
Christ Is Head Of The Church – Church Family Bible Verses.
Romans 12:3-5
For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith. 4 For as we have many members in one body, but all the members do not have the same function, 5 so we, being many, are one body in Christ, and individually members of one another.
1 Corinthians 10:17
For we, though many, are one bread and one body; for we all partake of that one bread.
Ephesians 3:4-7
By which, when you read, you may understand my knowledge in the mystery of Christ), 5 which in other ages was not made known to the sons of men, as it has now been revealed by the Spirit to His holy apostles and prophets: 6 that the Gentiles should be fellow heirs, of the same body, and partakers of His promise in Christ through the gospel, 7 of which I became a minister according to the gift of the grace of God given to me by the effective working of His power.
Colossians 1:17-18
And He is before all things, and in Him all things consist. 18 And He is the head of the body, the church, who is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, that in all things He may have the preeminence.
1 Corinthians 12:12-14
For as the body is one and has many members, but all the members of that one body, being many, are one body, so also is Christ. 13 For by one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—whether Jews or Greeks, whether slaves or free—and have all been made to drink into one Spirit. 14 For in fact the body is not one member but many.
Ephesians 4:12-16
For the equipping of the saints for the work of ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ, 13 till we all come to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ; 14 that we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting, 15 but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ— 16 from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love.
Colossians 2:19-20
And not holding fast to the Head, from whom all the body, nourished and knit together by joints and ligaments, grows with the increase that is from God. 20 Therefore, if you died with Christ from the basic principles of the world, why, as though living in the world, do you subject yourselves to regulations.
1 Corinthians 12:18-20
But now God has set the members, each one of them, in the body just as He pleased. 19 And if they were all one member, where would the body be? 20 But now indeed there are many members, yet one body.
Ephesians 4:3-6
There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called in one hope of your calling; 5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism; 6 one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.
Colossians 3:15-17
And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. 17 And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.
1 Corinthians 12:23-24
And those members of the body which we think to be less honorable, on these we bestow greater honor; and our unpresentable parts have greater modesty, 24 but our presentable parts have no need. But God composed the body, having given greater honor to that part which lacks it,
Ephesians 5:23-24
For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Hebrews 13:3
Remember the prisoners as if chained with them—those who are mistreated—since you yourselves are in the body also.
1 Corinthians 12:27
Now you are the body of Christ, and members individually.
Ephesians 5:30-32
For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
2 Corinthians 5:9-10
Therefore we make it our aim, whether present or absent, to be well pleasing to Him. 10 For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad.
Temperance Is Love In Training – Love, Family, And Relationship Quotes – Dwight Lyman Moody.
“My heart goes out to you, and I long to see you all coming constantly to God for a fresh supply of love.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“Joy is love exalted; peace is love in response; long-suffering is love enduring; gentleness is love in society; goodness is love in action; faith is love on the battlefield; meekness is love in tough situations; and temperance is love in training.”
“His is a loving, tender hand, full of sympathy and compassion.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“The Spirit of God first imparts love; He next inspires hope, and then gives liberty; and that is about the last thing we have in a good many of our churches at the present time.”
“If we have got the true love of God shed abroad in our hearts, we will show it in our lives. We will not have to go up and down the earth proclaiming it. We will show it in everything we say or do.”
“I tell you there is one thing that draws above everything else in this world, and that is love.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“I never knew up to that time that God loved us so much. This heart of mine began to thaw out; I could not keep back the tears. I just drank it in…I tell you there is one thing that draws above everything else in the world and that is love.”
“If you can really make a man believe you love him, you have won him; and if I could only make people really believe that God loves them, what a rush we would see for the kingdom of God!”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“The Gospel of John opens with Jesus Christ in the bosom of God, and closes with the sinner in the bosom of Jesus Christ.”
“No matter how low down you are; no matter what your disposition has been; you may be low in your thoughts, words, and actions; you may be selfish; your heart may be overflowing with corruption and wickedness; yet Jesus will have compassion upon you. He will speak comforting words to you; not treat you coldly or spurn you, as perhaps those of earth would, but will speak tender words, and words of love and affection and kindness. Just come at once. He is a faithful friend – a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“The last business of Christ’s life was the saving of a poor penitent thief.”
“We ought to see the face of God every morning before we see the face of man.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“It is a wonderful fact that men and women saved by the blood of Jesus rarely remain subjects of charity, but rise at once to comfort and respectability… I never saw a man who put Christ first in his life that wasn’t successful.”
“Jesus came from heaven down to earth. He left all grandeur behind Him, He passed by palaces and thrones-to be born in a manger! He was born lowly, that He might raise men up to God. The poor have a friend in Jesus. If no one else loves them, He loves them. He came to give them liberty, to proclaim to them the gospel of God’s grace.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“Take courage. We walk in the wilderness today and in the Promised Land tomorrow.”
“A rule I have had for years is: to treat the Lord Jesus Christ as a personal friend. His is not a creed, a mere doctrine, but it is He Himself we have.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“I went to preaching again. The sermons were not different; I did not present any new truths, and yet hundreds were converted. I would not now be placed back where I was before that blessed experience if you should give me all the world – it would be as dust in the balance.”
“Lust is the devil’s counterfeit for love. There is nothing more beautiful on earth than a pure love and there is nothing so blighting as lust.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“Every one of our children will be brought into the ark, if we pray and work earnestly for them.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“Whatever you love more than God is your idol.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“Right now I’m having so much trouble with D.L. Moody that I don’t have time to find fault with the other fellow.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“A worker must win the hearts and affections of the people before he can do any effective work.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“If we do not commend the Gospel to people by our holy walk and conversation, we shall not win them to Christ. Some little act of kindness will perhaps do more to influence them than any number of long sermons.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“A great many people wonder why it was that Christ did not come at once to Martha and Mary, whom He loved, whenever He heard of their affliction. It was to try them, and it is the same with His dealings toward us. If He seems not to come to us in our affliction, it is only to test us.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“God has two thrones, on in the highest heavens, the other in the lowliest heart.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“The voice of sin is loud, but the voice of forgiveness is louder.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“If we do not love one another, we certainly shall not have much power with God in prayer.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“I thank God that the gospel is to be preached to every creature. There is no man so far gone, but the grace of God can reach him; no man so desperate or black, but He can forgive him.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“I never yet have known the Spirit of God to work where the Lord’s people were divided.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“I now opened my Bible and began to study, and faith has been growing ever since.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“What makes the Dead Sea dead? Because it is all the time receiving, never giving out anything. Why is it that many Christians are cold? Because they are all the time receiving, never giving out anything.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“If you can’t see His way past the tears, trust His heart.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“What we want is to be real. Let us not appear to be more than we are. Don’t let us put on any cant, any assumed humility, but let us be real; that is the delight of God. God wants us to be real men and women, and if we profess to be what we are not, God knows all about us.”
“Thanks be to God, there is hope to-day; this very hour you can choose Him and serve Him.”
Dwight Lyman Moody
“If you do not feel a fervent love and profound pity for humanity, be assured that the gift of Christian eloquence has been denied you. You will not win souls, neither will you acquire that most excellent of earthly sovereignties – sovereignty over human hearts….Love is irresistible.”
But it’s the third purpose of a wedding that is the most valuable of the three. It’s to provide a ceremony of spoken promises. Before God and witnesses, a bride and groom recite their vows to each other.
It’s a declaration to the whole world of your unquestionable affection to your spouse. Building a great home starts with choosing your partner for life. And this is officiated in a ceremony called wedding. A marriage rite is important because it binds you to a lifetime commitment.
Marriage is the beginning—the beginning of the family—and is a life-long commitment [Tweet This]. It also provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children. Marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union.
A white wedding is a traditional formal or semi-formal wedding originating in Great Britain. The term originates from the white colour of the wedding dress, which first became popular with Victorian era elites after Queen Victoria wore a white lace dress at her wedding.
A wedding is a ceremony where two people are united in marriage. Weddingtraditions and customs vary greatly between cultures, ethnic groups, religions, countries, and social classes. … Special wedding garments are often worn, and the ceremony is sometimes followed by a wedding reception.
A traditional wedding is a last step after lobola negotiations have been finalised. This kind of wedding involves different cultures. Sometimes traditional weddingscan be between two different cultures, so those cultures will be represented on that day although the bride will end up following her husband’s culture.
Pray for one another. … Pray for this day (today). … Pray to be the presence of Christ in your marriage. … Pray that your marriage will be a positive influence on others. … Pray for your partner’s dreams. … Pray for your children. … Pray that you will be a better husband.
Blessing of the Marriage. The Blessing of the Marriage is the conclusion to a wedding ceremony and comes just before the bride and groom are pronounced husband and wife.
Traditionally all of them have the Groom say his vows first, followed in turn by the Bride. In some cases the couple may choose to say them in unison to each other. Usually the couple will face each other and join hands for their vows. There are advantages and disadvantages for each kind of vow.
So how long should your wedding ceremony be? Here’s what our experts have to say. Wedding ceremonies usually last between 20 and 30 minutes, which is ample time to cover the basics (words of welcome, a few readings, your vows, the ring exchange, and the final pronouncement).
Start a wedding folder or binder. … Work out your budget. … Pick your wedding party. … Start the guest list. … Hire a planner, if desired. … Reserve your date and venues. … Book your officiant. Research photographers, bands, florists, and caterers.
The maid or matron of honor walks alone. The ring bearer walks alone, followed by the flower girl, or the children can walk together. The bride and her father proceed, with the bride on her father’s right arm.
Bridesmaids may enter one by one or accompanied by the groomsmen, in pairs, arm-in-arm style. Maid or matron of honor walk down the aisle and take their place on the altar, right next to the bride. Next come the ring bearer with the ring and flower girl(s) with flower baskets. Last is the bride.
The Cocktail Hour. After being pronounced husband and wife, you’re often the first to leave the wedding ceremony, heading off (with photographer in tow) for pictures together before the partying gets under way. Your guests will head to the reception site for cocktails.
How long each event lasts depends on your party—is it a simple cocktail wedding reception or a seated dinner? (The average reception with full meal lasts for about four hours.)
The groom is traditionally expected to pay for the marriage license and officiant’s fees, and buy the bouquet for his “date” (the bride), as well as her engagement and wedding rings and a gift; he should also purchase boutonnieres and gifts for his groomsmen.
The rehearsal dinner guest list can include just the two of you, your immediate families, the wedding party, and the officiant and his spouse. Or, it can be a larger event, including all the out-of-town guests (or at least all those who will have already arrived in town for the wedding).
Traditionally, the groom’s parents are the hosts of the rehearsal dinner, since the bride’s family customarily pays for the wedding. But given the more relaxed standards of modern times, other relatives, close friends, or even the couple themselves can plan and pay for the event.
Bride and family pay for floral arrangements for the ceremony (including a chuppah if it’s a Jewish wedding ceremony) and reception, plus bouquets and corsages for bridesmaids and flower girls. Groom and family pay for the bride’s bouquet, boutonnieres for men and corsages for mothers and grandmothers.
A: Traditionally, the parents of the groom take care of a few of the expensesincluding: the marriage license, officiant’s fee, corsages, boutonnieres, the bride’s bouquet, groomsmen gifts, liquor, and the reception DJ, band or other musical entertainment. And the bride’s parents pay for everything else.
Traditionally, the groom and the groom’s family pay for the honeymoon, but in this day and age the traditional rules don‘t apply. I often see the parents of both the bride and the groom paying for the wedding and allowing the couple the freedom to organize and pay for their honeymoon together.
Don’t wear white… …or off-white, or really, really pale blue. … Leave the sweats at home. … Denim = no. … Say bye to shorts, guys. … Cover your shoulders when applicable. … Cargo pants are not OK. … Don’t go against the dress code. … Rips and holes, even intentional ones, do not belong.
How can I send good wishes for a marriage anniversary?
“Wishing a perfect pair a perfectly happy day.” “Here’s to another year of being great together!” “Anniversary cheers!” “Happy [21st] anniversary, you old lovebirds!” “Hope you find time to look back on all your sweet memories together.” “Always knew you two had something special.”
Love Is An Exotic – Love, Family, And Relationship Quotes – Charles Haddon Spurgeon.
“There must be knowledge of God before there can be love to God: there must be a knowledge of divine things, as they are revealed, before there can be an enjoyment of them.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“Love is an exotic; it is not a plant which will flourish naturally in human soil, it must be watered from above. Love to Jesus is a flower of a delicate nature, and if it received no nourishment but that which could be drawn from the rock of our hearts it would soon wither.”
“God could not have given this promise, except from love and grace; therefore it is quite certain his Word will be fulfilled.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“There is no physician like Him, none can save as He can; we love Him, and He loves us, and therefore we put ourselves into His hands, accept whatever he prescribes, and do whatever He bids.We feel that nothing can be wrongly ordered while He is the director of our affairs; for He loves us too well to let us perish, or suffer a single needless pang.”
“O child of God, be more careful to keep the way of the Lord, more concentrated in heart in seeking His glory, and you will see the loving-kindness and the tender mercy of the Lord in your life.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“He who does not hate the false does not love the true; and he to whom it is all the same whether it be God’s word or man’s, is himself unrenewed at heart.”
“My Lord, I leave the infinite to Thee, and pray Thee to put far from me such a love for the tree of knowledge as might keep me from the tree of life.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“Love and self-denial for the object loved go hand-in-hand. If I profess to love a certain person, and yet will neither give my silver nor my gold to relieve his wants, nor in any way deny myself comfort or ease for his sake, such love is contemptible; it wears the name, but lacks the reality of love: true love must be measured by the degree to which the person loving will be willing to subject himself to crosses and losses, to suffering and self-denials. After all, the value of a thing in the market is what a man will give for it, and you must estimate the value of a man’s love by that which he is willing to give up for it.”
“Love should give wings to the feet of service, and strength to the arms of labour.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“Oh, the stoop of the Redeemer’s amazing love! Let us, henceforth, contend how low we can go side by side with Him, but remember when we have gone to the lowest He descends lower still, so that we can truly feel that the very lowest place is too high for us, because He has gone lower still.”
“I would not give a penny for your love to the truth if it is not accompanied with a hearty hatred of error.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“For the least love to God, and the simplest act of obedience to him, are better than the profoundest knowledge. My Lord, I leave the infinite to thee, and pray thee to put far from me such a love for the tree of knowledge as might keep me from the tree of life.”
“I bear my witness that the worst days I have ever had have turned out to be my best days. And when God has seemed most cruel to me he has then been most kind. If there is anything in this world for which I would bless him more than for anything else it is for pain and affliction. I am sure that in these things the richest tenderest love has been manifested to me. Our Father’s wagons rumble most heavily when they are bringing us the richest freight of the bullion of his grace. Love letters from heaven are often sent in black-edged envelopes. The cloud that is black with horror is big with mercy. Fear not the storm. It brings healing in its wings and when Jesus is with you in the vessel the tempest only hastens the ship to its desired haven.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“Jesus does not cherish an offense, loving us as well after the offense as before it.”
“No dependence can be placed upon our natural qualities, or our spiritual attainments; but God abideth faithful. He is faithful in His love; He knows no variableness, neither shadow of turning. He is faithful to His purpose; He doth not begin a work and then leave it undone. He is faithful to His relationships; as a Father He will not renounce His children, as a friend He will not deny His people, as a Creator He will not forsake the work of His own hands.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“A good character is the best tombstone. Those who loved you and were helped by you will remember you when forget-me-nots have withered. Carve your name on hearts, not on marble.”
“Shame on our cold hearts! We are but poor lovers of our sweet Lord Jesus, not fit to be his servants, much less to be his brides, and yet he hath exalted us to be bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh, married to him by a glorious marriage covenant. Herein is love.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“God loves the church with a love too deep for human imagination: He loves her with all His infinite heart. Therefore let her sons be of good courage; she cannot be far from prosperity.”
“Wean our heart from every creature Thee to love and Thee alone.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“God’s Fatherly prerogative, ” is a kingly attribute so sweetly veiled in love, that the King’s crown is forgotten in the King’s face, and His sceptre becomes, not a rod of iron, but a silver sceptre of mercy—the sceptre indeed seems to be forgotten in the tender hand of Him who wields it.”
“Nothing but the infinite can ever satisfy me; I am such a great sinner that I must have infinite merit to wash my sin away;” but we have had our sin removed, and found that there was merit to spare; we have had our hunger relieved at the feast of sacred love.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“To have sweet sleep we must have sweet lives, sweet tempers, sweet meditations, and sweet love.”
“O, the breadth of the love of Christ! Shall such a love as this have half our hearts? Shall it have a cold love in return? Shall Jesus’ marvellous lovingkindness and tender care meet with but faint response and tardy acknowledgment? O my soul, tune thy harp to a glad song of thanksgiving! Go to thy rest rejoicing, for thou art no desolate wanderer, but a beloved child, watched over, cared for, supplied, and defended by thy Lord.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“Let me be on my guard when the world puts on a loving face, for it will, if possible, betray me as it did my Master, with a kiss.”
“To trust him is the sure way to every blessing, and he is worthy of the most implicit confidence; but unbelief makes them prefer the cold porches of Bethesda to the warm bosom of his love.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“Love for God is obedience; love for God is holiness. To love God and to love man is to be conformed to the image of Christ, and this is salvation.”
“But, Lord, we have yet another burden — it is that we ourselves do not love Thee as we should.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“Men will allow God to be everywhere but on his throne. They will allow him to be in his workshop to fashion worlds and make stars. They will allow Him to be in His almonry to dispense His alms and bestow his bounties. they will allow Him to sustain the earth and bear up the pillars thereof, or light the lamps of heaven, or rule the waves of the ever-moving ocean; but when God ascends Hes throne, His creatures then gnash their teeth. And we proclaim an enthroned God, and His right to do as He wills with His own, to dispose of His creatures as He thinks well, without consulting them in the matter; then it is that we are hissed and execrated, and then it is that men turn a deaf ear to us, for God on His throne is not the God they love. But it is God upon the throne that we love to preach. It is God upon His throne whom we trust.”
“Christ loved the sons of men before there were sons of men, and me before there was me. If he was going to get tired of me, he would have done so before now.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“Then no attribute of God can cease to be engaged for us. Is he mighty? He will show himself strong on the behalf of them that trust him. Is he love? Then with lovingkindness will he have mercy upon us. Whatever attributes may compose the character of Deity, every one of them to its fullest extent shall be engaged on our side.”
“But, Lord, we have yet another burden — it is that we ourselves do not love Thee as we should.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“The more unworthy you feel yourself to be, the more evidence have you that nothing but unspeakable love could have led the Lord Jesus to save such a soul as yours. The more demerit you feel, the clearer is the display of the abounding love of God in having chosen you, and called you, and made you an heir of bliss.”
“I feel myself to be a lump of unworthiness, a mass of corruption, and a heap of sin, apart from His almighty love.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“May the Lord bring us in contemplation to Calvary, then our position will no longer be that of the pompous man of pride, but we shall take the humble place of one who loves much because much has been forgiven him. Pride cannot live beneath the cross. Let us sit there and learn our lesson, and then rise and carry it into practice.”
“Though you wear your fingers to the bone with service, weep your eyes out with repentance, make your knees hard with kneeling, and dry your throat with shouting, if your heart does not beat with love, your religion falls to the ground like a withered leaf in autumn.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“Humiliation of soul always brings a positive blessing with it. If we empty our hearts of self, God will fill them with his love.”
“Our gifts are very pleasant to Him. He loves to see us lay our time, our talents, our substance on the altar not for the value of what we give, but for the sake of the motive from which the gift springs.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“Is not the gospel its own sign and wonder? Is not this a miracle of miracles, that ‘God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish’? Surely that precious word, ‘Whosoever will, let him come and take the water of life freely’ and that solemn promise, ‘Him that cometh unto Me, I will in no wise cast out,’ are better than signs and wonders! A truthful Saviour ought to be believed. He is truth itself. Why will you ask proof of the veracity of One who cannot lie?”
“There is no repentance where a man can talk lightly of sin, much less where he can speak tenderly and lovingly of it.”
Charles Haddon Spurgeon
“Zeal–what is it? How shall I describe it? Possess it, and you will know what it is. Be consumed with love for Christ, and let the flame burn continuously, not flaming up at public meetings and dying out in the routine work of every day.”
“The intensity of the love of the upright is not so much to be judged by what it appears as by what the upright long for. It is our daily lament that we cannot love enough.”
“Oh, blessed trust! To trust Him . . . whose power will never be exhausted, whose love will never wane, whose kindness will never change, whose faithfulness will never fail, whose wisdom will never be confounded, and whose perfect goodness can never know a diminution!”
“Come in, O strong and deep love of Jesus, like the sea at the flood in spring tides, cover all my powers, drown all my sins, wash out all my cares, lift up my earth bound soul, and float it right up to my Lord’s feet, and there let me lie, a poor broken shell, washed up by his love, having no virtue or value; and only venturing to whisper to him that if he will put his ear to me, he will hear within my heart faint echoes of the vast waves of his own love which have brought me where it is my delight to lie, even at his feet for ever.”
“That same spirit which makes us love the praise of men makes us dread the threats of men. You cannot be pleased with the adulation of mankind without becoming fearful of tour censure.”
“In souls filled with love, the desire to please God is continual prayer.”
John Wesley
“Get all you can, save all you can and give all you can.”
John Wesley
“Even in the greatest afflictions, we ought to testify to God, that, in receiving them from his hand, we feel pleasure in the midst of the pain, from being afflicted by Him who loves us, and whom we love.”
“Though we cannot think alike may we not love alike?”
John Wesley
“All outward means of grace, if separate from the spirit of God, cannot profit, or conduce, in any degree, either to the knowledge or love of God. All outward things, unless he works in them and by them, are in vain.”
John Wesley
“God is the first object of our love: Its next office is, to bear the defects of others. And we should begin the practice of this amidst our own household.”
“One of the greatest evidences of God’s love to those that love him is, to send them afflictions, with grace to bear them.”
John Wesley
“The readiest way which God takes to draw a man to himself is, to afflict him in that he loves most, and with good reason; and to cause this affliction to arise from some good action done with a single eye; because nothing can more clearly show him the emptiness of what is most lovely and desirable in the world.”
John Wesley
“We scarce conceive how easy it is to rob God of his due, in our friendship with the most virtuous persons, until they are torn from us by death. But if this loss produces lasting sorrow, that is a clear proof that we had before two treasures, between which we divided our heart.”
“It is no marvel that the devil does not love field preaching! Neither do I; I love a commodious room, a soft cushion, a handsome pulpit. But where is my zeal if I do not trample all these underfoot in order to save one more soul?”
“Love fasts when it can, and as much as it can. It leads to all the ordinances of God, and employs itself in all the outward works whereof it is capable. It flies, as it were, like Elijah over the plain, to find God upon his holy mountain.”
John Wesley
“Humility alone unites patience with love; without which it is impossible to draw profit from suffering; or indeed, to avoid complaint, especially when we think we have given no occasion for what men make us suffer.”
“The best means of resisting the devil is, to destroy whatever of the world remains in us, in order to raise for God, upon its ruins, a building all of love. Then shall we begin, in this fleeting life, to love God as we shall love him in eternity.”
“Whether we think of, or speak to, God, whether we act or suffer for him, all is prayer, when we have no other object than his love, and the desire of pleasing him.”
John Wesley
“Give me 100 men who hate nothing but sin and love God with all their hearts and I will shake the world for Christ!”
“Go not to those who want you, but to those who want you most.”
John Wesley
“Do all the good you can, in all the ways you can, to all the souls you can, in every place you can, at all the times you can, with all the zeal you can, as long as ever you can.”
John Wesley
“Let your words be the genuine picture of your heart.”
“God only requires of his adult children, that their hearts be truly purified, and that they offer him continually the wishes and vows that naturally spring from perfect love. For these desires, being the genuine fruits of love, are the most perfect prayers that can spring from it. It is scarce conceivable how strait the way is wherein God leads them that follow him; and how dependent on him we must be, unless we are wanting in our faithfulness to him.”
I think togetherness is a very important ingredient to family life.
Barbara Bush
We cannot destroy kindred: our chains stretch a little sometimes, but they never break.
Marie de Rabutin-Chantal
You can kiss your family and friends good-bye and put miles between you, but at the same time you carry them with you in your heart, your mind, your stomach, because you do not just live in a world but a world lives in you.
Frederick Buechner
The family – that dear octopus from whose tentacles we never quite escape, nor, in our inmost hearts, ever quite wish to.
My sense of personal strength has always come from my family.
Benjamin Bratt
Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible — the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.
Virginia Satir
Sticking with your family is what makes it a family.
Mitch Albom
When trouble comes, it’s your family that supports you.
People who have good relationships at home are more effective in the marketplace.
Zig Ziglar
It doesn’t matter what you all think, what you all say about me, because when I go home at night, the same people that I look in the face, my family that I love, that’s all that really matters to me.
Marshawn Lynch
“The family is one of nature’s masterpieces.”
George Santayana
The love of a family is life’s greatest blessing
Eva Burrows
Our family is a circle of strength and love…Our family with ever birth and every union the circle grows, our family is a circle of strength every crisis faced together makes the circle stronger.
Harriet Morgan
Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.
The happiest moments of my life have been the few which I have passed at home in the bosom of my family.
Thomas Jefferson
I am in love with life. I think it’s pretty awesome when you are engaged in it. I love my family and my friends, and that to me is the biggest…that’s the love of my life are my friends and family and the experience that I get to share with them. It puts a smile on my face and in my heart.
Cameron Diaz
A man has to travel the world. It can help him find what he needs. But, when he returns home, he knows that he has found it.
George Moore
“Families are the compass that guides us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter.”
Brad Henry
I learned about the strength you can get from a close family life. I learned to keep going, even in bad times. I learned not to despair, even when my world was falling apart. I learned that there are no free lunches. And I learned the value of hard work.
Lee Iacocca
Home is people. Not a place.
Robin Hobb
Family strengthen each other during storms. They help us to be strong. After all, it is a family tradition. Our roots are deeper, our hearts are stronger, we never give up.
Karen L Madewell
Unconditional love is loving your kids for who they are, not for what they do … it isn’t something you will achieve every minute of every day. But it is the thought we must hold in our hearts every day.
Stephanie Marston
I am the common man. I’m polite, I love my family and I play by the rules. And sometimes I get pushed around. That’s my lifestyle, and that’s what I try to bring to characters.
Eugene Levy
“Other things may change us, but we start and end with the family.”
Anthony Brandt
The only strength that really matters is the strength that makes you what you are in the eyes of those you love.
Wes Fessler
Where can a person be better than in the bosom of their family.
Marmontel Gretry
If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance.
George Bernard Shaw
We will respect family life. We will develop it and encourage it in any way we can, for strong families are the foundation of strong communities.
Tony Blair
I love my family, I’ll do anything for them.
Toni Braxton
Your family and your love must be cultivated like a garden. Time, effort, and imagination must be summoned constantly to keep any relationship flourishing and growing.
Jim Rohn
You can kiss your family and friends good-bye and put miles between you, but at the same time you carry them with you in your heart, your mind, your stomach, because you do not just live in a world but a world lives in you.
Frederick Buechner
“Family means no one gets left behind or forgotten.”
David Ogden Stiers
In every conceivable manner, the family is link to our past, bridge to our future.
Alex Haley
One day you will do things for me that you hate. That is what it means to be family.
Jonathan Safran Foer
While at work, keep a picture of your family on your desk. This reminds you that there is another world of yours at home.
M. K. Soni
I sustain myself with the love of family.
Maya Angelou
I really love being alive. I love my family and my work. I love the opportunity I have to do things. That’s what happiness is.
Michael J. Fox
“The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works, is the family.”
Lee Iacocca
If the family were a boat, it would be a canoe that makes no progress unless everyone paddles.
Letty Cottin Pogrebin
You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.
Desmond Tutu
There’s nothing that makes you more insane than family. Or more happy. Or more exasperated. Or more secure.
Jim Butcher
My priority is to hang out with the ones I love – my family, my loved ones.
Cote de Pablo
“Without a family, man, alone in the world, trembles with the cold.”
Andre Maurois
Families are the compass that guide us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter.
When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching – they are your family.
Jim Butcher
Like the seaweed that clings to each other after each passing boat separates them, so too a family will come together with the passing of each crisis.
Indonesian Proverb
No matter what you’ve done for yourself or for humanity, if you can’t look back on having given love and attention to your own family, what have you really accomplished?
Lee Iacocca
“The informality of family life is a blessed condition that allows us all to become our best while looking our worst.”
Home Is Not Where The Heart Is Found – Home Is Not A Place, Home Is Not A Soul, Home Is A Spirit.
For a long time we have been told and taught that, “Home is where the heart is found is.” Another variation to this idea was the notion that home was a place or a location. Some place to put our heads when exhausted and tired. Some spot to put our legs at the end of a long day. A refugee away from the cares of life. An area to find peace and to relax.
For a long time we have been told and taught that, “Home is where the heart is found is.” Another variation to this idea was the notion that home was a place or a location. Some place to put our heads when exhausted and tired. Some spot to put our legs at the end of a long day. A refugee away from the cares of life. An area to find peace and to relax.
Yet other people told us home was a soul. And the idea and philosophical school of thought on soulmates especially philosophized by Plato and his friend Aristophanes was popularized by literature. We started thinking that home was a soulmate. We therefore started searching for soul mates. In the hope that when we finally found our soulmate, we could finally find home and thus belonging and understanding.
But home is not a heart, it is not a mind, it is not a soul or a body.
Home Is A Spirit.
And the spirit is so strong that you don’t have to be in the same location with another person to feel the electromagnetic waves and forces of it’s might and work in action.
The spirit is able to find another individual anywhere in this world. You cannot hide from the spirit.
I mean are there no couples who share the same house, sleep in the same bed, but are strangers? Couples who speak to themselves daily but they can not understand themselves or are unable to communicate?
Of course this kind of disequilibrium often leads to unhappy homes full of chaos and confusion because there is often misunderstanding and a lack of communication.
And in some instances these differences lead to cheating and unfaithfulness even when the said couple share three meals a day and sleep together at night.
Because while their bodies maybe in the same place, their spirits are communing with another spirit.
However in the same vein, we have couples, physically away from each other for various reasons but with the most beautiful kind of connections because their spirits commune with each other.
Believers in Jesus Christ of Nazareth have the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is home for believers in Jesus. He is everything we need. When you have the Holy spirit, there is nothing you can lack. The Holy Spirit brings peace, self-control, joy, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, forbearance, meekness and love.
The Holy Spirit is the one who keep’s believer couples glued together for life. The Holy Spirit is the one who helps couples manage to overcome the various storms of life together as part of a team. Without the Holy Spirit holding families and relationships together, they invariably crumble.
What the Apostle Paul greatly summarizes in Galatians as the Fruit of the Spirit:
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24 Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 Since we live by the Spirit, we must also follow the Spirit. 26 We must not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.
Galatians 5:22-26
On the other side of the divide, the same way we have the Holy Spirit, we also have evil spirits.
Evil spirits keep occult couples and unions together. It sounds unbelievable but it is what it is.
There are two Kingdoms in the spiritual. The Kingdom of light and the the Kingdom of darkness.
There are occult couples who stay together for life. They too are able to communicate in the spirit. How? Through evil spirits who are a counterfeit to the Holy Spirit.
I understand this leaves a third category of individuals. These are the people who are blind or asleep.
What side do they belong?
Well, that is why there is a raging war and battle in the spiritual.
It is to determine where these individuals will end up.
In the Kingdom of light or in the Kingdom of darkness.
Is Lying To Those We Cherish Part Of Love – Exploring Love In The New Age.
Jim Ed Brown and Helen Cornelius say a song titled, “Lying In Love With You.” One of the lines in the song goes like, “Won’t hurt to tell a white lie or two . When I’m lying in love with you.”
“The idea that lying occurs in all intimate relationships may be hard to accept. What may be even harder to acknowledge is that some of those lies may actually be necessary for love to thrive.” writes Dr. Randi Gunther a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor in an article where she seems to be justifying and encouraging lying in relationships and marriage.
Love has become a very misunderstood concept in today’s world and the new age.
In New age teachings of these times, the different kinds of guides will keep giving people pieces of advice like, “If you love someone and telling them the truth hurts them then you are better off lying.”
These kinds of counsel are wrong on all levels because they condone and justify deception.
Once we start justifying sin and making excuses for it, it doesn’t take long before it becomes a habit, a culture and the norm.
Furthermore, many feel lust and assume it’s love. Many are infatuated and call it love.
The people of Corinth in Paul’s time were confusing love with other phenomenon and this chaos is what compelled Paul to write them 1 Corinthians 13 to explain what love is.
If it lacks truth, then it’s not love.
If it’s filled with deceit then it’s not love.
If you find yourself constantly telling lies, then you don’t have love.
Love is Truth. If it has no truth, then it is another phenomenon.
God Is Love God Is Truth
The one who does not love does not know God, because God is love.
1 John 4:8
And we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and the one who remains in love remains in God, and God remains in him.
1 John 4:16
Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.
John 14:6
Let us stop justifying sin and calling it love! Let us not allow the enemy to defile and pollute godly unions, relationships and marriages.
I pray we can all walk in the Power of Love which is Truth.
Your Love Should Be Zealous And Passionate – Exploring Love In The New Age.
In the new age that we live in, love has grown cold and numb. Often times, most people just go through the motions of loving others. People who love passionately are often shunned and called denigrating names like radicals, fanatics, weirdos etc.
But love should be passionate, hot and zealous for it to be effective and long lasting.
In fact God’s love is passionate and zealous. And the bible verse below which is found in the book of Isaiah, show’s us what things hot, zealous and passionate love can accomplish.
For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace. 7 Of the increase of his government and peace there shall be no end, upon the throne of David, and upon his kingdom, to order it, and to establish it with judgment and with justice from henceforth even for ever. The zeal of the Lord of hosts will perform this.
Isaiah 9:6-7
Power, earth transformative changes can occur when we do things passionately and zealously.
There is a lot we can learn from God on how to love passionately and with zeal.
God’s zeal and passion for mankind led him to leave his heavenly throne and become a man.
What honor he bestowed onto us.
What a gift he gave us.
What a privilege to be so loved by him.
We too can take from the example of Jesus. We can choose to love God and other people passionately and with zeal. Let’s not allow the world or our circumstances to make our love grow cold.
Let’s not become lukewarm in a world that tries so desperately to extinguish the fire with in.
“I know your works, that you are neither cold nor hot. I could wish you were cold or hot.
Questions And Answers About Marriage – Holy Matrimony – Wedlock
What is the current definition of being married?
Our definition of marriage: A formal union, marriage is a social, and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally. … Being married also gives legitimacy to sexual relations within the marriage. The Spruce
What is the original definition of marriage?
Etymology. The word “marriage” derives from Middle English mariage, which first appears in 1250–1300 CE. This in turn is derived from Old French, marier (tomarry), and ultimately Latin, marītāre, meaning to provide with a husband or wife and marītāri meaning to get married. Wikipedia
It is a social contract of two opposite sexes for the satisfaction of physical, biological, social, psychological and spiritual needs of males and females. It leads to the formation of family and the procreation of children. Sexual relationship and production of children are the basic aim of marriage. Study Lecture Notes
What does marriage legally mean?
Definition of Marriage. Marriage is the legal union of two people, who are joined together after they obtain a marriage license from their state and take part in a ceremony. … In some states, couples can become legally married without a license or ceremony. Nolo
What is the true meaning of marriage?
Five Facets of the True Meaning of Marriage. … But generally, everyone understands that the meaning of marriage is when two people make a public pledge or commitment to live together and share their lives in a way that is recognized legally, socially and sometimes religiously. Marriage
What does marriage symbolize?
Probably the most obvious of all marriage symbols, the engagement ring and the wedding band represent commitment and the faithful love two people share. The circle, an international symbol of marriage, represents infinity or everlasting love. Everyday Health
A happy marriage constitutes of two people who love each other very much and are committed to bringing out the best in each other. A great marriage also has an environment of positive energy where gratitude and appreciation for each other are freely flowing. … A happy married life is what is in for store for you. Marriage
Is a marriage religious?
Marriage has historically occurred to join two people and two families. In many cultures, it’s more of a business transaction than being about love and commitment. … The wedding ceremony is often based on religious belief and practice, but marriage itself is a civil institution. News Times
What are the keys to a happy marriage?
Love/Commitment. At its core, love is a decision to be committed to another person. …
The Bible Defines Marriage as a Covenant. God sketched his original plan formarriage in Genesis 2:24 when one man (Adam) and one woman (Eve) united together to become one flesh: Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. ThoughtCo
What are the types of marriage?
In general there are two types: civil marriage and religious marriage, and typically marriages employ a combination of both (religious marriages must often be licensed and recognized by the state, and conversely civil marriages, while not sanctioned under religious law, are nevertheless respected). Wikipedia
A happy marriage is a cocktail of open communication, honesty, hard work, and a whole lotta love. … “In a happy marriage, two people share things equally,” says another married woman. “It doesn’t sound romantic, but I’m honestly happybecause my husband does the dishes and the laundry as often as I do. Brides
What is marriage blessing?
The Blessing of the Marriage is the conclusion to a wedding ceremony and comes just before the bride and groom are pronounced husband and wife. OfficiantEric
What is the importance of marriage?
It also provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children. Marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union. This union mirrors the one between God and His Church. AllProDad
What are the characteristics of marriage?
Ownership: Taking Responsibility. Often, couples believe their problems are the result of the other person’s actions. …
Hope: Believing that Good Ultimately Triumphs. The foundation of hope is belief. …
That is, marriage is the union of a man and woman as husband and wife to provide any children of that union with a father and a mother. … As Roberts explained: “When the institution of marriage developed historically, people didn’t get around and say let’s have this institution, but let’s keep out homosexuals. Heritage
Are you legally married after living together for years?
Despite much belief to the contrary, the length of time you live together does not by itself determine whether a common law marriage exists. No state law or court decision says seven years or ten years of cohabitation is all that is needed for a common law marriage. It’s only one factor the court may consider. Nolo
Do married people live longer?
Men, marriage, and mortality. … Men who have marital partners also live longerthan men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers. Health
What are the benefits of getting married?
It makes you richer. …
There are better tax benefits. …
There are health insurance benefits. …
Married people have lower stress. …
Married couples are less likely to be depressed. …
People with a spouse are less likely to engage in risky behavior. …
Are you legally married with just a marriage license?
A marriage certificate is a document that proves you are married. Typically, couples obtain a marriage license, hold the wedding ceremony, and then have the person who performed the ceremony file a marriage certificate in the appropriate county office within a few days. … This is often done just after the ceremony. Family
What does getting married in a dream mean?
Getting married in a dream. To dream you are getting married may represent your commitment to or partnership with someone or something. May represent a union or merging of the masculine and feminine aspects of yourself. May be wish fulfillment, if you desire to get married in waking life. Dreamscloud
Do you pay less tax if you are married?
Taxes and the Family. A couple incurs a marriage penalty if the two pay more income tax filing jointly as a married couple than they would pay if they were single and filed as individuals. Conversely, a couple receives a marriage bonus if they pay less tax filing jointly than they would if they were single. Tax Policy Center
The Purpose of Marriage is Not Procreation. … Having children, therefore, is the fulfillment and meaning of marriage. A natural response is to ask about the legitimacy of marriages for infertile couples, given the assumption that procreation both defines and fulfills marriage, and the Declaration has an answer. Huffington Post
How can I propose marriage?
Make sure that you’re both ready for marriage. Before you take the plunge, you should know if you’re really ready to be with your special someone for the long haul. …
Pick the right ring. Before you propose, you have to choose the right ring. …
What Does Commitment Mean In A Marriage? … It’s a commitment to be willing to do whatever it takes to make the marriage work, and that means there are going to be many times when you’re just not going to get your way. And you’re going to have to be OK with it, they say. Huffington Post
What a marriage is all about?
All About Marriage. Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. … And no marriage is free of conflict. Psychology Today
What is meant by early marriage?
Early marriage, or child marriage, is defined as the marriage or union between two people in which one or both parties are younger than 18 years of age. … Parents often feel that a young girl is an economic burden and therefore wish to marry off their young daughters before they become an economic liability. K4Health
How can u make ur husband happy?
Show respect. Make sure your husband knows that he is your number one. …
Show interest in his hobbies. This doesn’t mean you have to be with him every time he plays basketball with his buddies. …
Ephesians 5:25: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.” Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” The Knot
What is the definition of marriage vows?
The promises a couple make to each other in a marriage ceremony. The aim would be to make couples think more seriously about their responsibilities before they make their wedding vows. Collins English Dictionary. Collins Dictionary
What is the meaning of ghost marriage?
In Sudan, a ghost marriage is a marriage where a deceased groom is replaced by his brother. The brother serves as a stand in to the bride, and any resulting children are considered children of the deceased spouse. Wikipedia
What is the most common type of marriage in the world?
Monogamy. Monogamy is a form of marriage in which one man marries the woman. It is most common form of the marriage found among in the societies around the world. Sociology Guide
A Guide to a Typical Wedding Timeline. A very simple ceremony with no readings, special wording or photographs can be as short as 10 minutes. However most ceremonies usually take approximately 20 to 30 minutes. Most couples tend to have photos at the Church after the service. GTB
What is the concept of marriage?
Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognised union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity (in-laws and other family through marriage). Wikipedia
What are the characteristics of a healthy marriage?
Mutual respect. Respect is one of the most important healthy relationship characteristics. …
Spending time together. When you have free time you look for ways to spend it with your mate. …
Love marriage is a term used primarily in South Asia, especially in India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Sri Lanka, to describe a marriage where the individuals love each other and get married with or without consent of their parents. There is no clear definition of love marriage. Wikipedia
What is the meaning of void marriage?
A void marriage is a marriage which is unlawful or invalid under the laws of the jurisdiction where it is entered. A void marriage is “one that is void and invalid from its beginning. It is as though the marriage never existed and it requires no formality to terminate.” Wikipedia
How many types of Hindu marriages are there?
There are eight different types of Hindu marriages according to Manusmriti, the law of Manu although not all of them have religious sanction. These marriages are: 1.BRAHMA VIVAAH: Considered to be the best marriage where the boy and girl belonged to same varna and came belonged to good families. Quora
Who ordain’s marriage?
A clergy person (minister, priest, rabbi, etc.) is someone who is ordained by a religious organization to marry two people. A judge, notary public, justice of the peace, and certain other public servants often solemnize marriages as part of their job responsibilities. Bustle
What are the health benefits of marriage?
Less chance of heart attacks. Credit: Alamy. …
Encourages safer behaviour. Credit: Getty. …
Less chance of strokes. Credit: Getty. …
Lower stress levels. Credit: Alamy. …
Higher chance of recovering from major surgery. Credit: Alamy. …
Less chance of developing mental illness. Credit: Getty. …
Levirate marriage is a type of marriage in which the brother of a deceased man isobliged to marry his brother’s widow. The term levirate is itself a derivative of the Latin word levir meaning “husband’s brother”. Wikipedia
Love of God can mean either love for God or love by God. … The Greek term theophilia means the love or favour of God, and theophilos means friend of God, originally in the sense of being loved by God or loved by the gods; but is today sometimes understood in the sense of showing love for God. Wikipedia
What is love in the Bible?
“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
What are the different styles and kinds of love?
“Eros” or Erotic Love. The first kind of love is Eros, which is named after the Greek god of love and fertility. … “Philia” or Affectionate Love. … “Storge” or Familiar Love. … “Ludus” or Playful Love. … “Mania” or Obsessive Love. … “Pragma” or Enduring Love. … “Philautia” or Self Love. … “Agape” or Selfless Love. LonerWolf
What are the signs of love?
Give and take in love. …
Pure happiness. …
Pain and anger. …
You make sacrifices for their happiness or wellbeing even if they may not realise it.
The right effort. …
You can’t hurt them. …
You keep your promises. …
When you truly love your partner, you see them as part of your life and your future. Risings
What defines love in a relationship?
1. A strong feeling of affection and concern toward another person, as that arising from kinship or close friendship.
2. A strong feeling of affection and concern for another person accompanied by sexual attraction. Free Dictionary
Can you explain love?
Love isn’t the easiest of emotions to describe but here are 20 quotes that will helpyou try! Although love is an emotion that can‘t be easily explained, it is the seed to other growing emotions; whether it’s anger, sadness or happiness. All those emotions are evoked from some type of love. Your Tango
What is God’s love called?
Agape (Ancient Greek ἀγάπη, agapē) is a Greco-Christian term referring to love, “the highest form of love, charity” and “the love of God for man and of man for God“. … Within Christianity, agape is considered to be the love originating from God or Christ for mankind. Wikipedia
Is love a real emotion?
Yet real love is a steadfast promise that repeats itself endlessly through life and beyond death. Love does not increase or decrease in response to its environment, and it does not change with the changing winds. Love is not an emotion; it doesn’t behave the way emotions do. Real love is in a category of its own. Karla Mclaren
What do I love in a relationship?
Attraction without closeness is more like a crush or infatuation. You’re attracted to someone physically but don’t know the person well enough yet to feel the closeness that comes from sharing personal experiences and feelings. Romantic love is when attraction and closeness are combined. KidsHealth
What are the languages of love?
Words of affirmation. According to Dr. Chapman, this language uses words to affirm other people. …
Quality time. This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention. …
Love has many permutations, but romantic love is very real. It causes us to move mountains and change the course of our lives. It can break up an existing relationship, and can alter your priorities. … Love is a human construct, and therefore is actually a real thing. Quora
Is jealousy part of love?
Yes it is. Jealousy is a part of Love. It sounds paradoxical and yet it is the truth. It is important not to confuse envy with jealousy though.
What are some qualities of love?
Effortless and Eternal Attraction. When we are truly in love with someone, we discover moments of love and affection in the most normal of situations. …
Or a couple of lovers. There’s something about the playful connection between them – the way they respond to each other, pay attention to each other, lead each other to happy places and people and things – that makes you think of love. They’re having fun together. A very certain kind of fun. A Playful Path
What is love affection?
Affection, attraction, infatuation, or fondness is a “disposition or state of mind or body” that is often associated with a feeling or type of love. It has given rise to a number of branches of philosophy and psychology concerning emotion, disease, influence, and state of being. Wikipedia
What is infatuation how does it differ from love?
The difference between infatuation vs love is that infatuation is a short-lived passion for someone whereas love is a deep affection for someone that lasts the test of time. … If you’ve only known the person for a short time, then it isinfatuation vs love. Love takes a while to develop. Ilanelanzen
Love is a Choice More than a Feeling. Most of us tend to focus on falling in loveand use the feeling of love to determine the duration of a relationship. Falling inlove is easy to do, almost effortless, but losing that loving feeling is not that hard to do, either. … Feelings, however, can be fleeting. PsychCentral
Can you stop loving someone if you truly loved them?
The relationship might have ended, but all the feelings that came with it usually insist on following you around. I‘ve been there, so much so that I never really stopped loving the last person I was in love with. … “[You] may never stop lovingthe person,” says Dr. Brenner, “but you‘re not in love.” Elite Daily
Can love be proven?
Here are 6 scientifically proven facts about love. While chemistry and passion are a crucial component of love, they are not enough on their own. … Love is a long-term drive. Lust for one person doesn’t last for hours, months and years without stopping. The Anatomy Of Love
Is love a chemical?
Researchers say this is due to the dopamine, norepinephrine and phenylethylamine we’re releasing. Dopamine is thought to be the “pleasure chemical,” producing a feeling of bliss. Norepinephrine is similar to adrenaline and produces the racing heart and excitement. How Stuff Works
It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh profits nothing. The words that I speak to you are spirit, and they are life.
John 6:63
But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you.
John 14:26
For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.
Romans 8:14
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control.
You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.
Isaiah 26:3
“And do not seek what you should eat or what you should drink, nor have an anxious mind. 30 For all these things the nations of the world seek after, and your Father knows that you need these things.
Luke 12:29-30
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:7
God’s love over our Soul, Spirit, Body, Mind and Heart:
For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
Hebrews 4:12
Now may the God of peace Himself sanctify you completely. And may your spirit, soul, and body be kept sound and blameless for the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
I didn’t really believe any of those classifications as they didn’t make sense to me but for a few weeks now, a particular Bible passage has been niggling at the back of my mind.
“Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold.”
Matthew 24:12
And it’s on the basis of that passage that I have come up with my own rendition on the classification and types of love.
Hot Love
Cold Love
Lukewarm Love
Let’s consider these three types of love further:
Love type number 3:
Lukewarm Love:
I like to think of this as the worst kind of love. People with lukewarm love are the one’s who are neither here or there. They have no idea what they want. They are indecisive and wishy washy. When I consider it, I think it consists of lying and false lures.
Revelations has this to say further on Lukewarm Love.
I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! 16 So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.
Revelation 3:15-16
Love type number 2:
Cold Love:
This is love with no passion, ardor or fire. It consists of people who are insensitive, unfeeling and have buried their emotions.
In Matthew 24:12, Jesus is not saying people will not be able to love. They will love, except that their love will be cold.
Love type number 1:
Hot Love:
This is the best kind of love. Jesus wants us burning hot with desire and passion for him, the gospel and other people. Hot love is heavenly, holy, and from the heart. It pushes us beyond our bounds to give our all. It changes people and situations.
Hot Love Liberates, Cold Love Numbs and Lukewarm Love Destroys.
I pray we can all have hot love and burn with passion for Jesus. Let us not allow our love to die.
It Is Okay To Be Romantic – Romance Was Created By God And Not By The Devil.
Jesus is the greatest romantic of all time. I therefore don’t understand believers who want to separate romance from love. There is nothing evil, wicked, weak and dark about romance.
It’s time we stopped giving the devil platitudes he has never earned.
Which devil has ever created true and genuine romance? Of course the devil is always in the business of duplicates to dilute the original but it doesn’t take away from the true source.
People let’s be realistic and lets stop cheating God by giving away all his glory.
God created romance. Not the devil. Forget Saint valentine and what the world, marketer’s and secularists preach and peddle. Jesus’s romantic skills begin way back in Genesis, even before Man comes on the scene.
Look at the earth. The romance of flower petals and their fragrance. The romantic sounds streams and springs make as they flow by. The romantic whistling of birds chirping in the morning. The feel of a new born baby as you carry them. Our world is filled with romantic gestures created by God. If only we could open our eyes to appreciate his handiwork.
How do people think God continually expresses his love for us? The evidence of his romantic displays are everywhere but clearly some people lack the ability to see and sense these displays. It is the only way we can explain the muteness, blindness and total lack of feeling to the splendor and magnificence of God’s romantic displays.
I pray that the Lord will open the eyes of the blind so that they can marvel and gaze at his romantic spendor.
Love goes hand in hand with romance. However, I personally believe that love comes before romance but they certainly flow together once they mesh. Not separately.
Now, countless times I have been accused of being sappy and emotional and an incurable romantic.
I used to shun the title, because I wanted to join the club of the unfeeling, insensitive and hard people.
However, one day, the Lord Jesus gently reminded me why he created me as a human being with all the dimensions possessed by humans including an emotional dimensional and not a Nephilim hybrid lacking some human components.
Anyhow, now I wear my incurable romantic label like a badge. I’m glad I can sense and feel deeply. The challenge is not my depth. The challenge is people’s superficiality.
Let’s be serious. A man who can beautifully, descriptively, delicately, creatively and poetically describe how he wants something as unromantic as lamp stands to be designed for him to be labelled unromantic is beyond me. Just beyond me!
Reading the scripture below, we can all certainly pick a leaf from the master romantic on how to be romantic.
33 Three cups shaped like almond flowers with buds and blossoms are to be on one branch, three on the next branch, and the same for all six branches extending from the lampstand. 34 And on the lampstand there are to be four cups shaped like almond flowers with buds and blossoms. 35 One bud shall be under the first pair of branches extending from the lampstand, a second bud under the second pair, and a third bud under the third pair—six branches in all. 36 The buds and branches shall all be of one piece with the lampstand, hammered out of pure gold.
Love Disciplines And Rebukes – Exploring Love In The New Age.
I often hear people saying that we shouldn’t talk about hell because it will make people fearful and lead them away from God.
Apparently we should only talk about God’s unfailing and abundant love but we should sweep his wrath under the carpet.
Yes, I also once thought that way. But not anymore.
The same God who was pleased seeing his own innocent son suffer on the cross because he had taken the whole sin of the world and offered himself as a sacrifice?
“Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin, he shall see his seed, he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand.”
Isaiah 53:9-10
That same God who couldn’t spare his only begotten son will spare you with your conscious and deliberate refusal of his gift of love and salvation?
And about the ninth hour Jesus cried with a loud voice, saying, Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani? that is to say, My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?
Matthew 27:46
People should really stop fooling themselves.
We mortals have really taken God for granted but the day he decides enough is enough, I can’t fathom what will happen to this earth.
And he made his grave with the wicked,
and with the rich in his death;
because he had done no violence,
neither was any deceit in his mouth.
Matthew 27:46
God’s love rebukes and disciplines. This discipline is for our own good. He corrects us because he wants us to be better. It’s a show of his love.
“As many as I love, I rebuke and discipline. So be committed and repent. 20 Listen! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and have dinner with him, and he with Me.”
Revelation 3:19-20
Discipline and rebuke is not hateful like New age and secular media would like us to believe. Unfortunately, If we remain indisciplined and refuse to change, God will send us to hell.
I urge you brethren, if you have any sin in your life, please confess it to God, ask him to forgive you and to cleanse you with his precious blood. Repent and ask Jesus for his Holy Spirit to guide you and lead you.
Let us no take God’s love, his mercy, his compassion and his kindness for granted.
Are You A Good Father – Signs Of A Good Father – Unlearning And Relearning.
So, Father’s day is around the corner. Fatherhood is a blessing and an honor that is bestowed to Men by Jesus Christ. Being a Father comes with responsibilities but it also comes with innumerable rewards.
A few people shared with the world what they think the signs of a good are on twitter.
We celebrate all the Father’s in the world. We honor you. We thank you for the sacrifices you make for your children and families. We are grateful for you and we shall continually pray for you that God gives you wisdom, knowledge, understanding, strength, grace, faith, hope and love to lead, prophecy and pastor the families God has given you.
Happy and Blessed Father’s Day. Jesus bless you.
The father of a righteous son will rejoice greatly, and one who fathers a wise son will delight in him.
#SignsOfAGoodFather He can teach the kids about different cultures and helps to understand that people are different; not everyone grows up the same, and not everyone has the same opportunities or choices. pic.twitter.com/5T7LaoKoJO
