Why You Should Give Up On Your Marriage | The Strange Thing That Happened The Day I Decided To Give Up On My Marriage

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Why You Should Give Up On Your Marriage | The Strange Thing That Happened The Day I Decided To Give Up On My Marriage.



Today, I asked a little girl, “What is love?”She responded, “Love is not giving up on someone even when you want to.” Her wisdom, stunned me. See, first, I didn’t expect such an insightful response from a child and secondly, today, I was thinking of leaving my wife and giving up on my marriage.


After years of feeling unloved, disrespected and unappreciated, today, I just felt like hanging up my gloves. The unrequited love and one sided affection had finally gotten to me.
I was exhausted from giving my all and getting nothing back.My marriage felt like an empty shell. Most days I couldn’t recognize the woman beside me. She rarely ever spoke to me. Preferring the company of her friends over me. And when I tried speaking to her, most times it felt like she was deaf.



Out of the mouth of babes and nursing infants you have perfected praise Matthew 21_16 Bible Verse Social Media Square Image
Out of the mouth of babes and nursing infants you have perfected praise Matthew 21_16 Bible Verse Social Media Square Image


After years of endless fights, arguments and a situation that felt like it would never improve, I was ready to hang up my boots and throw in the towel. I just felt weary, exhausted and burdened.


But on my way home today, rehearsing the speech I was going to give my wife, and making plans about what to do next etc, I chose to stop by the park to meditate and just spend time with my thoughts. At the park, with the sun out, after days of endless rain, I met a beautiful little girl playing.
I decided to chat her up since I had the time. And at the end of our short tit a tat, is when I asked her the big question, “What is love?”
Her response, “Love is not giving up on someone even when you want to,” sounded like a message from Jesus to me.


Indeed this scripture is true:
And Jesus said to them, “Yes. Have you never read, Out of the mouth of babes and nursing infants you have perfected praise?” Matthew 21:16


I thought long and hard about her answer. As I was thinking, something strange started happening. My previously hardened heart, due to the pain I had gone through over the years started to soften.
I started remembering that I had promised to be with my wife for eternity. We were going to heaven together. We were going to do life together. And yet somewhere in the middle of the journey I wanted out?



For My yoke is easy and My burden is light. Matthew 11_30 Bible Verse Social Media Square Image


Thinking further about my dilemma, I realized this was a challenge too big for me to handle. I couldn’t change my wife. Lord knows I had tried for years. But then I also remembered that there was someone bigger and greater than me. Jesus Christ! I remembered that Jesus changes people. Jesus is the greatest behavioral therapist of all time. So, instead of trying to change my wife, me or my marriage, I figured I might just as well try giving the challenge to Jesus.


Yes, I was giving up on my marriage. But I was giving up my marriage to Jesus. Yes, I was finally throwing in the towel. I was finally allowing him to take charge, allowing him to lead the way. Allowing him to teach me and my wife what marriage was all about.



Take up My yoke and learn from Me, because I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for yourselves Matthew 11_29 Bible Verse Social Media Square Image


And so, while I sat in the park, still wowed by the insightfulness of this little angel, I decided to say a prayer. I decided to surrender and give up my marriage to Jesus and that is when another strange thing happened.
After my rather short prayer, I didn’t feel like leaving my wife anymore. Suddenly hope started bubbling in my heart that was once full of despair. Jesus was going to take care of my marriage, me and wife.


As I kept contemplating on these strange occurrences, thoughts and feelings, the deep, gnawing wounds in my heart started healing. The exhaustion and weariness I had felt for years started lifting. Suddenly these words came alive.



“Come to Me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 All of you, take up My yoke and learn from Me, because I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for yourselves. 30 For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30



Come to Me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest Matthew 11_28 Bible Verse Social Media Square Image



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Casting Out Demons And Unclean Spirits – Miracles, Signs And Wonders Done By Jesus

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Casting Out Demons And Unclean Spirits – Miracles, Signs And Wonders Done By Jesus.



Jesus casts the demons out of a mute man and sets him free.

While they were going out, a man who was demon-possessed and could not talk was brought to Jesus. 33 And when the demon was driven out, the man who had been mute spoke. The crowd was amazed and said, “Nothing like this has ever been seen in Israel.”

Matthew 9:32-33

Jesus casts the unclean spirits out of a demon possessed, blind, mute man and sets him free.

Then they brought him a demon-possessed man who was blind and mute, and Jesus healed him, so that he could both talk and see. 23 All the people were astonished and said, “Could this be the Son of David?”

Matthew 12:22-23

Jesus casts the unclean spirits out of a demon possessed, boy and sets him free.

A man in the crowd called out, “Teacher, I beg you to look at my son, for he is my only child. 39 A spirit seizes him and he suddenly screams; it throws him into convulsions so that he foams at the mouth. It scarcely ever leaves him and is destroying him. 40 I begged your disciples to drive it out, but they could not.”
41 “You unbelieving and perverse generation,” Jesus replied, “how long shall I stay with you and put up with you? Bring your son here.”
42 Even while the boy was coming, the demon threw him to the ground in a convulsion. But Jesus rebuked the impure spirit, healed the boy and gave him back to his father. 43 And they were all amazed at the greatness of God.

Luke 9:38-43

Jesus casts the unclean spirits out of a demon possessed, deaf, mute man and sets him free.

They brought to Him a deaf man who also had a speech difficulty, and begged Jesus to lay His hand on him. 33 So He took him away from the crowd privately. After putting His fingers in the man’s ears and spitting, He touched his tongue. 34 Then, looking up to heaven, He sighed deeply and said to him, “Ephphatha!” (that is, “Be opened!”). 35 Immediately his ears were opened, his speech difficulty was removed, and he began to speak clearly. 36 Then He ordered them to tell no one, but the more He would order them, the more they would proclaim it.
37 They were extremely astonished and said, “He has done everything well! He even makes deaf people hear, and people unable to speak, talk!”

Mark 7:32-37

Jesus casts the unclean spirits out of a demon possessed, man in the synagogue and sets him free. 


In the synagogue there was a man with an unclean demonic spirit who cried out with a loud voice, 34 “Leave us alone! What do You have to do with us, Jesus — Nazarene? Have You come to destroy us? I know who You are — the Holy One of God!”
35 But Jesus rebuked him and said, “Be quiet and come out of him!”
And throwing him down before them, the demon came out of him without hurting him at all.

Luke 4:33-35

Jesus casts the unclean spirits out of two demon possessed men living in Gergesenes and sets them free.

When He had come to the other side, to the country of the Gergesenes, there met Him two demon-possessed men, coming out of the tombs, exceedingly fierce, so that no one could pass that way. 29 And suddenly they cried out, saying, “What have we to do with You, Jesus, You Son of God? Have You come here to torment us before the time?”
30 Now a good way off from them there was a herd of many swine feeding. 31 So the demons begged Him, saying, “If You cast us out, permit us to go away into the herd of swine.”
32 And He said to them, “Go.” So when they had come out, they went into the herd of swine. And suddenly the whole herd of swine ran violently down the steep place into the sea, and perished in the water.
33 Then those who kept them fled; and they went away into the city and told everything, including what had happened to the demon-possessed men.

Matthew 8:28-33


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