The Depth, Height, Weight, Breadth Of Love – Rethinking Love In Today’s World

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The Depth, Height, Weight, Breadth Of Love – Rethinking Love In Today’s World.


A few weeks back, I got onto twitter and started tweeting about LOVE. That particular morning a few weeks back I had just re-read Paul’s letter in 1 Corinthians 13 with new eyes.


See, at that particular point in time, the notion of love really confounded me (In all fairness, I’m still confounded and learning).


I had movie definitions, dictionary definitions and novel definitions etc.
Anyhow, in my confusion, I read that chapter a few times and yet I still couldn’t get it. How could Paul say love never fails and yet I (mistakenly and supposedly) saw it failing all time? I was pathetically failing to grasp the slippery nuances of this verb or is it noun or is it emotion and thought it very powerless and a waste of precious time.


I mean how dare Paul write assertively, unperturbed and so assuredly about love walloping mighty, tough and hardened faith and hope? Was Paul for real?


Which world was Paul living in? Did Paul know about our current world? Did he even have any inkling at all about the various pressures we faced on a daily basis?


Hadn’t Paul heard people saying love was for the broke, weak and pathetic?
Hadn’t Paul heard that love doesn’t put food on the table?
Was there no pain during Paul’s time? Were people not killing each other over mundane things during his generation? Were the separation/break up/divorce rates not on the rise during his days? Were children not being abandoned, mistreated, thrown into toilets and onto the streets when he lived? Were there no starving and poor people during his age? Theft, robberies, abuse, pride, fear, insults, violence, gossip, slander, rage, deceit etc. Was Paul aware of such plagues or was he just waxing lyrical because he never got to live during the information/knowledge age?


I had too many questions (and no one to answer them) because most of the people I knew were too busy doing one thing or another to try and indulge me in my proclivities. I thus decided to put 1 Corinthians 13 aside.


Another reason was that the more I read that chapter, the more of a fraud I felt like. And wanting to save my skin and mind from dissonance, I decided to shelve it and to dwell on more promising aspects of life.


Anyhow, as God work’s sometimes one cheery morning without me even trying to, I finally got my EUREKA moment! And I went like! BINGO! That is it! This is in fact what Paul was saying when he wrote that famous chapter. It finally started dawning on me why Paul was waxing lyrical.


Paul’s letter says many things but I will share two today:


  • It doesn’t matter how well you communicate/speak/write etc. If you don’t have love, you are kidding yourself.
  • It doesn’t matter how prophetic, knowledgable, intelligent, talented and wise you are; If you don’t have love, don’t pamper yourself.
  • It doesn’t matter how much money/things/time/benefits you give to those less fortunate than you: If it’s not done out of love, you better keep your riches and enjoy them alone.
  • It doesn’t matter how much pain and abuse you can endure at the hands of tormentors. If you are not enduring out of love, please re-think your strategy.

In essence Paul is cautioning us thus:
All those sweeping, dramatic, public displays we keep engaging in, sometimes even with Videos, T.V’s, newspapers, the media helping us to record etc, don’t really matter if we are just doing them for appearances and are not doing it out of love, true humanity and humility. 


I feel the chapter screaming:


  • Forget the public shows.
  • Forget the frivolities.
  • Forget the superficiality.
  • Forget the extravaganza.
  • Forget the plastic surgery.
  • Forget the revisions and correction.
  • Forget the spectacle and displays.

Just forget it all. Instead! Lets go DEEPER!


  • Don’t give me the facade.
  • Don’t show me crocodile tears.
  • Don’t show me your perfection.
  • Don’t show me the nice, decent clothes.
  • Don’t even bother with the manicured nails.

Show me your scars and wounds.
Show me the crevices and cracks.
Show me where it hurts the most.
Show me where you need healing.
Show me where I can attend to you.
Show me the dirt beneath your nails.
Show me your fears and vulnerabilities.


BUT


Show me the beauty too!
Show me the laughter, humor and fun.
Show me the whimsical plays and dreams.
Show me the delicate, cute and pretty lines too.
Show me the guffaws, chuckles, grins and smiles.
Show me YOU, in whatever hues and colors you are created.


Colored, black and white, sepia, with filters, as a portrait or as landscape, with borders or without, with a Lomo effect, HDR or Bokeh.
The applications don’t really matter.
As long as it is you and not a person/picture with no soul!
Some people are breathing but they have no souls. Show me a soul!


BUT please!
Don’t lament to me about other people’s realities.
Don’t share with me another person’s weaknesses.
Don’t tell me other people’s stories without their permission.
I don’t want those stories, myths, tales, fabrications.


Tell me your stories.
Tell me your realities.
Tell me about YOU!


Because:


Love goes deeper.
Love goes to the core.
Love doesn’t float on the surface.
Love is not conventional.
Love runs the extra mile.
Love doesn’t make sense.
Love is overwhelming.
Love beats logic and thinking.
Love goes further and longer.
Love removes bandaids and deals with wounds.
Love is not interested in the flowers, it wants the roots.
Love swims to the deep end and then submerges
itself and lets the torrents crash over it.
Love is grit, gentleness, grace all meshed into one to produce a tapestry of unimaginable dimensions.


And that is how this pathetic, seemingly, disturbing thing called LOVE manages to trump the ferocious, predominant, popular and powerfully menacing giants called Faith and Hope.

Thats how love beats knowledge, wisdom, beauty, talent, money, education, degrees, fashion and all the other trappings we have grown accustomed to.


For a moment, yes, take a pause please and:


  • Forget their names and locations!
  • Forget how people dress!
  • Forget how stinky their breath is!
  • Forget the tattoos on their bodies!
  • Forget the alcohol they drink!
  • Forget the drugs they binge on!
  • Forget the color of their skin!
  • Forget their religion and ideologies!
  • Forget their sins and favorite pass times!
  • Forget they haven’t taken a shower in days!
  • Forget the language in which speak or worship God!
  • Forget how pathetic and weak they look!
  • Forget the disfigurement and lack or refinement.

Forget all that! Forget all that! Forget it!


Now change your lenses;


Imagine this person was you. Imagine their story was yours.
Picture their reality as yours (I know this is too difficult for some people).
But still!
How would you want to be treated if the tables were suddenly turned (And this can happen at any time and to anyone).
Imagine for a moment you found yourself on the other side of the divide.


Hindus talk of reincarnation. Sometimes I wonder how people would behave if they knew that their present actions may get them reincarnated as something much lesser in another life. I wonder if this would influence how these folks treat others.


I will summarize by saying: Paul’s letter to the Corinthian church is saying that Love:


  • It is patient.
  • It is kind.
  • It doesn’t envy (e.g how come the pastors/corporations/other people are so successful and I’m so poor yet I do a, b, c etc. It’s just not fair).
  • It doesn’t boast.
  • It is not proud (I can never do that! My standards are too high).
  • It does not dishonor others (those who like exposing other peoples secrets, secluded battles, nudes and other private information for sinister motives without permission).
  • It is not self seeking (Me! Me! Myself and I kind of philosophies).
  • It is not easily angered (doesn’t mean it doesn’t get angry. Just means the tempers are even and not short).
  • It keeps no record of wrongs (Lord help our memories).
  • It doesn’t delight in evil.
  • It rejoices with the truth.
  • It always protects.
  • It always trusts.
  • It always hopes.
  • It always perseveres.

Love never fails.


Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.

1 Corinthians 13:1-8


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“My heart goes out to you, and I long to see you all coming constantly to God for a fresh supply of love.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Joy is love exalted; peace is love in response; long-suffering is love enduring; gentleness is love in society; goodness is love in action; faith is love on the battlefield; meekness is love in tough situations; and temperance is love in training.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Temperance is love in training.”

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“There has never been a time in my life when I felt that I could take a gun and shoot down a fellow-being. In this respect I am a Quaker.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“His is a loving, tender hand, full of sympathy and compassion.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“The Spirit of God first imparts love; He next inspires hope, and then gives liberty; and that is about the last thing we have in a good many of our churches at the present time.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Lying covers a multitude of sins – temporarily.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“If we have got the true love of God shed abroad in our hearts, we will show it in our lives. We will not have to go up and down the earth proclaiming it. We will show it in everything we say or do.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“I tell you there is one thing that draws above everything else in this world, and that is love.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“I never knew up to that time that God loved us so much. This heart of mine began to thaw out; I could not keep back the tears. I just drank it in…I tell you there is one thing that draws above everything else in the world and that is love.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Faith makes all things possible … love makes all things easy.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“The measure of a man is not how many servants he has but how many men he serves.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“If you can really make a man believe you love him, you have won him; and if I could only make people really believe that God loves them, what a rush we would see for the kingdom of God!”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“The Gospel of John opens with Jesus Christ in the bosom of God, and closes with the sinner in the bosom of Jesus Christ.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“The world does not understand theology or dogma, but it understands love and sympathy.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“When a man has no strength, if he leans on God, he becomes powerful.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“A good example is far better than a good precept.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“There’s no better book with which to defend the Bible than the Bible itself.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“No matter how low down you are; no matter what your disposition has been; you may be low in your thoughts, words, and actions; you may be selfish; your heart may be overflowing with corruption and wickedness; yet Jesus will have compassion upon you. He will speak comforting words to you; not treat you coldly or spurn you, as perhaps those of earth would, but will speak tender words, and words of love and affection and kindness. Just come at once. He is a faithful friend – a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“The last business of Christ’s life was the saving of a poor penitent thief.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Grace means undeserved kindness. It is the gift of God to man the moment he sees he is unworthy of God’s favor.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“A man ought to live so that everybody knows he is a Christian… and most of all, his family ought to know.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“We ought to see the face of God every morning before we see the face of man.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“It is a wonderful fact that men and women saved by the blood of Jesus rarely remain subjects of charity, but rise at once to comfort and respectability… I never saw a man who put Christ first in his life that wasn’t successful.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Character is what a man is in the dark.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“The reward of service is more service.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Jesus came from heaven down to earth. He left all grandeur behind Him, He passed by palaces and thrones-to be born in a manger! He was born lowly, that He might raise men up to God. The poor have a friend in Jesus. If no one else loves them, He loves them. He came to give them liberty, to proclaim to them the gospel of God’s grace.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Take courage. We walk in the wilderness today and in the Promised Land tomorrow.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“A rule I have had for years is: to treat the Lord Jesus Christ as a personal friend. His is not a creed, a mere doctrine, but it is He Himself we have.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“I went to preaching again. The sermons were not different; I did not present any new truths, and yet hundreds were converted. I would not now be placed back where I was before that blessed experience if you should give me all the world – it would be as dust in the balance.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Lust is the devil’s counterfeit for love. There is nothing more beautiful on earth than a pure love and there is nothing so blighting as lust.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Every one of our children will be brought into the ark, if we pray and work earnestly for them.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Whatever you love more than God is your idol.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Right now I’m having so much trouble with D.L. Moody that I don’t have time to find fault with the other fellow.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“A worker must win the hearts and affections of the people before he can do any effective work.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“If we do not commend the Gospel to people by our holy walk and conversation, we shall not win them to Christ. Some little act of kindness will perhaps do more to influence them than any number of long sermons.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“A great many people wonder why it was that Christ did not come at once to Martha and Mary, whom He loved, whenever He heard of their affliction. It was to try them, and it is the same with His dealings toward us. If He seems not to come to us in our affliction, it is only to test us.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“God has two thrones, on in the highest heavens, the other in the lowliest heart.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“The voice of sin is loud, but the voice of forgiveness is louder.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“If we do not love one another, we certainly shall not have much power with God in prayer.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“I thank God that the gospel is to be preached to every creature. There is no man so far gone, but the grace of God can reach him; no man so desperate or black, but He can forgive him.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“I never yet have known the Spirit of God to work where the Lord’s people were divided.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“I now opened my Bible and began to study, and faith has been growing ever since.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“What makes the Dead Sea dead? Because it is all the time receiving, never giving out anything. Why is it that many Christians are cold? Because they are all the time receiving, never giving out anything.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“If you can’t see His way past the tears, trust His heart.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“What we want is to be real. Let us not appear to be more than we are. Don’t let us put on any cant, any assumed humility, but let us be real; that is the delight of God. God wants us to be real men and women, and if we profess to be what we are not, God knows all about us.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


Thanks be to God, there is hope to-day; this very hour you can choose Him and serve Him.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“If you do not feel a fervent love and profound pity for humanity, be assured that the gift of Christian eloquence has been denied you. You will not win souls, neither will you acquire that most excellent of earthly sovereignties – sovereignty over human hearts….Love is irresistible.”

Dwight Lyman Moody



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But it’s the third purpose of a wedding that is the most valuable of the three. It’s to provide a ceremony of spoken promises. Before God and witnesses, a bride and groom recite their vows to each other.

Marriage Builders

Why is it important to have a wedding ceremony?

It’s a declaration to the whole world of your unquestionable affection to your spouse. Building a great home starts with choosing your partner for life. And this is officiated in a ceremony called wedding. A marriage rite is important because it binds you to a lifetime commitment.

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Why is it important to marry?

Marriage is the beginning—the beginning of the family—and is a life-long commitment [Tweet This]. It also provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children. Marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union.

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What does white wedding mean?

white wedding is a traditional formal or semi-formal wedding originating in Great Britain. The term originates from the white colour of the wedding dress, which first became popular with Victorian era elites after Queen Victoria wore a white lace dress at her wedding.

Wikipedia 

What is a traditional wedding?

wedding is a ceremony where two people are united in marriageWeddingtraditions and customs vary greatly between cultures, ethnic groups, religions, countries, and social classes. … Special wedding garments are often worn, and the ceremony is sometimes followed by a wedding reception.

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What is a typical traditional African wedding?

traditional wedding is a last step after lobola negotiations have been finalised. This kind of wedding involves different cultures. Sometimes traditional weddingscan be between two different cultures, so those cultures will be represented on that day although the bride will end up following her husband’s culture.

Ulwazi

What do you pray for in a marriage?

Pray for one another. …
Pray for this day (today). …
Pray to be the presence of Christ in your marriage. …
Pray that your marriage will be a positive influence on others. …
Pray for your partner’s dreams. …
Pray for your children. …
Pray that you will be a better husband.

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What is the blessing of the marriage?

Blessing of the Marriage. The Blessing of the Marriage is the conclusion to a wedding ceremony and comes just before the bride and groom are pronounced husband and wife.

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Who says vows first bride or groom?

Traditionally all of them have the Groom say his vows first, followed in turn by the Bride. In some cases the couple may choose to say them in unison to each other. Usually the couple will face each other and join hands for their vows. There are advantages and disadvantages for each kind of vow.

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How long does a wedding ceremony last?

So how long should your wedding ceremony be? Here’s what our experts have to say. Wedding ceremonies usually last between 20 and 30 minutes, which is ample time to cover the basics (words of welcome, a few readings, your vows, the ring exchange, and the final pronouncement).

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How do I plan a wedding?

Start a wedding folder or binder. …
Work out your budget. …
Pick your wedding party. …
Start the guest list. …
Hire a planner, if desired. …
Reserve your date and venues. …
Book your officiant.
Research photographers, bands, florists, and caterers.

Real Simple




Who walks in first at a wedding?

The maid or matron of honor walks alone. The ring bearer walks alone, followed by the flower girl, or the children can walk together. The bride and her father proceed, with the bride on her father’s right arm.

Bridal Guide 

Who walks down the aisle before the bride?

Bridesmaids may enter one by one or accompanied by the groomsmen, in pairs, arm-in-arm style. Maid or matron of honor walk down the aisle and take their place on the altar, right next to the bride. Next come the ring bearer with the ring and flower girl(s) with flower baskets. Last is the bride.

Ever After Guide 

What happens after the wedding ceremony?

The Cocktail Hour. After being pronounced husband and wife, you’re often the first to leave the wedding ceremony, heading off (with photographer in tow) for pictures together before the partying gets under way. Your guests will head to the reception site for cocktails.

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How long is the average wedding reception?

How long each event lasts depends on your party—is it a simple cocktail wedding reception or a seated dinner? (The average reception with full meal lasts for about four hours.)

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Who pays for the wedding rings?

The groom is traditionally expected to pay for the marriage license and officiant’s fees, and buy the bouquet for his “date” (the bride), as well as her engagement and wedding rings and a gift; he should also purchase boutonnieres and gifts for his groomsmen.

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Who is invited to the rehearsal dinner?

The rehearsal dinner guest list can include just the two of you, your immediate families, the wedding party, and the officiant and his spouse. Or, it can be a larger event, including all the out-of-town guests (or at least all those who will have already arrived in town for the wedding).

The Knot 

Who pays for the rehearsal dinner at a wedding?

Traditionally, the groom’s parents are the hosts of the rehearsal dinner, since the bride’s family customarily pays for the wedding. But given the more relaxed standards of modern times, other relatives, close friends, or even the couple themselves can plan and pay for the event.

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Who pays for what at a wedding?

Bride and family pay for floral arrangements for the ceremony (including a chuppah if it’s a Jewish wedding ceremony) and reception, plus bouquets and corsages for bridesmaids and flower girls. Groom and family pay for the bride’s bouquet, boutonnieres for men and corsages for mothers and grandmothers.

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What does the groom’s parents pay for?

A: Traditionally, the parents of the groom take care of a few of the expensesincluding: the marriage license, officiant’s fee, corsages, boutonnieres, the bride’s bouquet, groomsmen gifts, liquor, and the reception DJ, band or other musical entertainment. And the bride’s parents pay for everything else.

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Who pays for the honeymoon?

Traditionally, the groom and the groom’s family pay for the honeymoon, but in this day and age the traditional rules don‘t apply. I often see the parents of both the bride and the groom paying for the wedding and allowing the couple the freedom to organize and pay for their honeymoon together.

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What do I wear to a wedding?

Don’t wear white… …or off-white, or really, really pale blue. …
Leave the sweats at home. …
Denim = no. …
Say bye to shorts, guys. …
Cover your shoulders when applicable. …
Cargo pants are not OK. …
Don’t go against the dress code. …
Rips and holes, even intentional ones, do not belong.

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How can I send good wishes for a marriage anniversary?

“Wishing a perfect pair a perfectly happy day.”
“Here’s to another year of being great together!”
“Anniversary cheers!”
“Happy [21st] anniversary, you old lovebirds!”
“Hope you find time to look back on all your sweet memories together.”
“Always knew you two had something special.”

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“Humility and patience are the surest proofs of the increase of love.”

John Wesley


“Beware you are not swallowed up in books! An ounce of love is worth a pound of knowledge.”

John Wesley


“In souls filled with love, the desire to please God is continual prayer.”

John Wesley


“Get all you can, save all you can and give all you can.”

John Wesley


“Even in the greatest afflictions, we ought to testify to God, that, in receiving them from his hand, we feel pleasure in the midst of the pain, from being afflicted by Him who loves us, and whom we love.”

John Wesley


“Though we cannot think alike may we not love alike?”

John Wesley


“All outward means of grace, if separate from the spirit of God, cannot profit, or conduce, in any degree, either to the knowledge or love of God. All outward things, unless he works in them and by them, are in vain.”

John Wesley


“God is the first object of our love: Its next office is, to bear the defects of others. And we should begin the practice of this amidst our own household.”

John Wesley


“One of the greatest evidences of God’s love to those that love him is, to send them afflictions, with grace to bear them.”

John Wesley


“The readiest way which God takes to draw a man to himself is, to afflict him in that he loves most, and with good reason; and to cause this affliction to arise from some good action done with a single eye; because nothing can more clearly show him the emptiness of what is most lovely and desirable in the world.”

John Wesley


“We scarce conceive how easy it is to rob God of his due, in our friendship with the most virtuous persons, until they are torn from us by death. But if this loss produces lasting sorrow, that is a clear proof that we had before two treasures, between which we divided our heart.”

John Wesley


“There is no love of God without patience, and no patience without lowliness and sweetness of spirit.”

John Wesley


“The world is my parish.”

John Wesley


“As the furious hate which the devil bears us is termed the roaring of a lion, so our vehement love may be termed crying after God.”

John Wesley


“It is no marvel that the devil does not love field preaching! Neither do I; I love a commodious room, a soft cushion, a handsome pulpit. But where is my zeal if I do not trample all these underfoot in order to save one more soul?”

John Wesley


“Love fasts when it can, and as much as it can. It leads to all the ordinances of God, and employs itself in all the outward works whereof it is capable. It flies, as it were, like Elijah over the plain, to find God upon his holy mountain.”

John Wesley


“Humility alone unites patience with love; without which it is impossible to draw profit from suffering; or indeed, to avoid complaint, especially when we think we have given no occasion for what men make us suffer.”

John Wesley


“The best means of resisting the devil is, to destroy whatever of the world remains in us, in order to raise for God, upon its ruins, a building all of love. Then shall we begin, in this fleeting life, to love God as we shall love him in eternity.”

John Wesley


“Whether we think of, or speak to, God, whether we act or suffer for him, all is prayer, when we have no other object than his love, and the desire of pleasing him.”

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“Give me 100 men who hate nothing but sin and love God with all their hearts and I will shake the world for Christ!”

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“Go not to those who want you, but to those who want you most.”

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“Do all the good you can, in all the ways you can, to all the souls you can, in every place you can, at all the times you can, with all the zeal you can, as long as ever you can.”

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“Let your words be the genuine picture of your heart.”

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“God only requires of his adult children, that their hearts be truly purified, and that they offer him continually the wishes and vows that naturally spring from perfect love. For these desires, being the genuine fruits of love, are the most perfect prayers that can spring from it. It is scarce conceivable how strait the way is wherein God leads them that follow him; and how dependent on him we must be, unless we are wanting in our faithfulness to him.”

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The love of family and the admiration of friends is much more important than wealth and privilege.


Charles Kuralt


Families survive, one way or another. You have a tie, a connection that exists long after death, through many lifetimes.

Jessica Lange


“A happy family is but an earlier heaven.”

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What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family.

Mother Teresa


The strength of a family, like the strength of an army, is in its loyalty to each other.

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“In family life, love is the oil that eases friction, the cement that binds closer together, and the music that brings harmony.” 

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As the family goes, so goes the nation and so goes the whole world in which we live.

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In time of test, family is best.     

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That’s what people do who love you. They put their arms around you and love you when you’re not so lovable.

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Home is where you are loved the most and act the worst

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“The family is the test of freedom; because the family is the only thing that the free man makes for himself and by himself.”

Gilbert K. Chesterton


Family life contributes immensely to an individual’s happiness. Only in a happy home-life can complete contentment be found.     

Dorthea Kopplin


Life is a secret lease from God and we should not allow ourselves to be bruised. Family life is our strength and success.

Joseph Losery


The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.

Theodore Hesburgh


I think togetherness is a very important ingredient to family life.

Barbara Bush


We cannot destroy kindred: our chains stretch a little sometimes, but they never break. 

Marie de Rabutin-Chantal


You can kiss your family and friends good-bye and put miles between you, but at the same time you carry them with you in your heart, your mind, your stomach, because you do not just live in a world but a world lives in you.

Frederick Buechner


The family – that dear octopus from whose tentacles we never quite escape, nor, in our inmost hearts, ever quite wish to. 

Dodie Smith


“You leave home to seek your fortune and, when you get it, you go home and share it with your family.”

Anita Baker


Families are about love overcoming emotional torture.

Matt Groening


My family is my strength and my weakness.

Aishwarya Rai


Family means no one gets left behind or forgotten.

Ogden Stiers


In family life, love is the oil that eases friction.

Eva Burrows


Is this what family is like: the feeling that everyone’s connected, that with one piece missing, the whole thing’s broken?

Trenton Lee Stewart


In family life, love is the oil that eases friction, the cement that binds closer together, and the music that brings harmony.

Eva Burrows


Everyone needs to live within a house. But, having the love and support of your family? That is what makes your house a home.

Anthony Liccione


“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.”

Jane Howard


My sense of personal strength has always come from my family.

Benjamin Bratt


Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible — the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family. 

Virginia Satir


Sticking with your family is what makes it a family.

Mitch Albom


When trouble comes, it’s your family that supports you.

Guy Lafleur


People who have good relationships at home are more effective in the marketplace.     

Zig Ziglar


It doesn’t matter what you all think, what you all say about me, because when I go home at night, the same people that I look in the face, my family that I love, that’s all that really matters to me.

Marshawn Lynch


“The family is one of nature’s masterpieces.”

George Santayana


The love of a family is life’s greatest blessing

Eva Burrows


Our family is a circle of strength and love…Our family with ever birth and every union the circle grows, our family is a circle of strength every crisis faced together makes the circle stronger.

Harriet Morgan


Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.

George Burns


The happiest moments of my life have been the few which I have passed at home in the bosom of my family.

Thomas Jefferson


I am in love with life. I think it’s pretty awesome when you are engaged in it. I love my family and my friends, and that to me is the biggest…that’s the love of my life are my friends and family and the experience that I get to share with them. It puts a smile on my face and in my heart.

Cameron Diaz


A man has to travel the world. It can help him find what he needs. But, when he returns home, he knows that he has found it.     

George Moore


“Families are the compass that guides us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter.”

Brad Henry


I learned about the strength you can get from a close family life. I learned to keep going, even in bad times. I learned not to despair, even when my world was falling apart. I learned that there are no free lunches. And I learned the value of hard work.

Lee Iacocca


Home is people. Not a place.

Robin Hobb


Family strengthen each other during storms. They help us to be strong. After all, it is a family tradition. Our roots are deeper, our hearts are stronger, we never give up.

Karen L Madewell


Unconditional love is loving your kids for who they are, not for what they do … it isn’t something you will achieve every minute of every day. But it is the thought we must hold in our hearts every day. 

Stephanie Marston


I am the common man. I’m polite, I love my family and I play by the rules. And sometimes I get pushed around. That’s my lifestyle, and that’s what I try to bring to characters.

Eugene Levy


“Other things may change us, but we start and end with the family.”

Anthony Brandt


The only strength that really matters is the strength that makes you what you are in the eyes of those you love.

Wes Fessler


Where can a person be better than in the bosom of their family.

Marmontel Gretry


If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance.

George Bernard Shaw


We will respect family life. We will develop it and encourage it in any way we can, for strong families are the foundation of strong communities.

Tony Blair


I love my family, I’ll do anything for them.

Toni Braxton


Your family and your love must be cultivated like a garden. Time, effort, and imagination must be summoned constantly to keep any relationship flourishing and growing.

Jim Rohn


You can kiss your family and friends good-bye and put miles between you, but at the same time you carry them with you in your heart, your mind, your stomach, because you do not just live in a world but a world lives in you. 

Frederick Buechner


“Family means no one gets left behind or forgotten.”

David Ogden Stiers


In every conceivable manner, the family is link to our past, bridge to our future.

Alex Haley


One day you will do things for me that you hate. That is what it means to be family.

Jonathan Safran Foer


While at work, keep a picture of your family on your desk. This reminds you that there is another world of yours at home.

M. K. Soni


I sustain myself with the love of family.

Maya Angelou


I really love being alive. I love my family and my work. I love the opportunity I have to do things. That’s what happiness is.

Michael J. Fox


“The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works, is the family.”

Lee Iacocca


If the family were a boat, it would be a canoe that makes no progress unless everyone paddles.

Letty Cottin Pogrebin


You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.

Desmond Tutu


There’s nothing that makes you more insane than family. Or more happy. Or more exasperated. Or more secure. 

Jim Butcher


My priority is to hang out with the ones I love – my family, my loved ones.

Cote de Pablo


“Without a family, man, alone in the world, trembles with the cold.”

Andre Maurois


Families are the compass that guide us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter.

Brad Henry


When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching – they are your family.

Jim Butcher


Like the seaweed that clings to each other after each passing boat separates them, so too a family will come together with the passing of each crisis.

Indonesian Proverb


No matter what you’ve done for yourself or for humanity, if you can’t look back on having given love and attention to your own family, what have you really accomplished?

Lee Iacocca


“The informality of family life is a blessed condition that allows us all to become our best while looking our worst.”

Marge Kennedy


Family faces are magic mirrors. Looking at people who belong to us, we see the past, present and future.

Gail Buckley


I can get up in the morning and look myself in the mirror and my family can look at me too and that’s all that matters.

Lance Armstrong


Strangers are just family you have yet to come to know.

Mitch Albom


Other things may change us, but we start and end with the family.

Anthony Brandt



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Is God’s Love Conditional Or Unconditional – Exploring Love In The New Age

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God’s love is Conditional, it is not unconditional!

WHAT?

I think I just had a nightmare I immediately reasoned when I woke up one cheery morning a few days ago and the first thing that came to my mind, wasn’t how lovely the weather was, but that God’s love is conditional.
It sounded almost like hearsay and blasphemy!
God’s love is not unconditional?

After everything the Televisions, Newspapers, Magazines, Novels, Hollywood, a hoard of Pastors, Priests, Popes, Prophets etc had been preaching and screaming for years?

How could God’s love be Conditional? The thought alone started causing me Cognitive dissonance.
I started remembering all the times I had advocated for blindly unconditional love.

I was really having a difficult day with these thoughts that stubbornly refused to leave me however hard I tried getting them out of mind. And where had this thought come from to occupy my mind?
How could this be?
Where was I going to put 1 Corinthians 13 and all the other love verses I believed?

All these thoughts led to emotions and feelings that felt like daggers to my soul and heart. In fact I started going through the 5 stages of Grief in no particular order.

During the anger phase, I felt like screaming, ‘God this feels like sabotage, Why are you doing this to my long held beliefs?’ But that day it felt like God was pin drop silent.

Soon my Anger had turned into denial. This could not be possible. God’s love could not be conditional. So to help calm myself, I started bargaining with Jesus. But despite all the  negotiations and arguments that went in my head with God, the thoughts just grew louder and louder.

Anyhow, as with every time I get cognitive dissonance, to ease my mind of the pain of conflicting thoughts, I often research and that is what I did. I got my tools and went to work to explore whether God’s love is truly conditional.

I started by praying and then I proceeded to open my Bible. I went to re-read John 3:16 the famous and widely quoted Bible Verse that speaks of the greatness and largeness of God’s love.

16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.
18 “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.

John 3:16-18 (NKJV)

Indeed God loved the world so much! He loved the world so much, he left his glorious kingdom and showed up himself to redeem the world himself, BUT, in verse 16 there is that catch phrase WHOEVER which doesn’t sound at all like ALL. If you don’t accept Jesus and his perfect sacrifice, like verse 18 says, you are already condemned.
Now, that sounds conditional.
Either accept Jesus or be condemned.

Let’s stop deceiving ourselves and taking God’s Love for granted. God love’s us very much but he also expects belief from us. Plus it’s time for a mindset change too because we have held onto these deceptive and manipulative thoughts for a long time.

And to all those who have been blackmailing other’s to manipulate them into giving unconditional love in the guise of God’s love is unconditional, so if you are a Christian you have to put up with my evil and wicked behavior etc … Think Again! Yes! Please THINK AGAIN.

Jules

What Is Stopping You From Receiving And Giving Love

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What Is Stopping You From Receiving And Giving Love.

What is stopping you from giving Love?

What is stopping you from receiving Love?

What is stopping you from enjoying Love?

What is stopping you from indulging in Love?

What is separating you from experiencing Love?

What is preventing you moving forward and leaving your hurt behind?

Is it fear?

Is it pain?

Is it rejection?

Is it shame?

Is it guilt?

Is it the Past?

Is it sickness?

Is it poverty?

Is it suffering?

Is it withchraft?

Is it the future?

Is the present?

Is it persecution?

Is it persecution?

Is it lack of opportunity?

 

Well, I’m writing to let you know that you can lay down whatever has been preventing and stopping you from accessing love at the foot of the cross of Jesus.

Take the baggage and burdens to his cross.

Leave it all there and exchange it for his Love.

The love of Jesus will do this for you:

  1. Make you whole
  2. Help you learn to love yourself
  3. Help you learn to give others love
  4. Help you learn to receive love.

Let nothing in this world, the sky, the sea or anywhere ever stop you from accessing the love of Jesus.

38 For I am persuaded that not even death or life,
angels or rulers,
things present or things to come, hostile powers,

.
39 height or depth, or any other created thing
will have the power to separate us
from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord!

Romans 8:38-39

Jules

This Ingredient Will Spice Up Your Relationships

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This Ingredient Will Spice Up Your Relationships.

Many Relationships are becoming stale and colder.

They are losing their spice and taste.

This lose in flavor is not restrcited to romantic relationships.

It seems to be sweeping cross:

  • Friendships
  • Sibling relations
  • Parental relations
  • Work relations
  • Marriages

So what is that one ingredient many of out relationships are lacking?

Sensitivity!

We have become an insensitive breed of people!

We lack sensitivity to:

  • The needs of others
  • The wants of others
  • The feelings of others

Many of us can’t detect that some of the, “I’m fine” responses to our questions of, 

“How are you doing” are fakes masking the true feelings of people.

Many people are covering:

 

  • Pain
  • Suffering
  • Rejection
  • Loneliness

We have become so focused on superficial things we don’t take time to tune into the deeper things.

We need to tune into our nurturing sides:

We need to become more sensitive if we are to add:

To our slowly shriveling relationships.

So how does sensitivity help?

When we are sensitive to others:

  1. We are in a better position to offer them the right kind of help to solve their challenges.
  2. We help them shed off their masks so that they can live more authentic and honest lives.

  3. We help people dig into their vulnerable sides. Embracing our vulnerable sides helps us to become more compassionate and empathetic.

  4. It helps us avoid causing pain to others.

  5. It helps us offer healing to others who maybe in pain and they can’t speak out.

I know being sensitive is not something everyone is naturally endowed with.

But I do believe that if we ask the Holy Spirit, he can give us a spirit of discernment.

A spirit of discernment is what helps our sensitivity antennas sharp enough to detect the difference between an authentic, “I’m fine” and a fake, “I’m fine”.

If you don’t have a spirit of discernment and sensitivity yet, I think this a great time to ask the Holy Spirit to provide you with one.

9 And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in knowledge and all discernment, 

10 that you may approve the things that are excellent, that you may be sincere and without offense till the day of Christ, 

11 being filled with the fruits of righteousness which are by Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God.

Philippians 1:9-11

Jules