Interesting Facts You Need To Know About Love, Flirtation, Marriage, Monogamy And Affection – The Vintage Woman

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Love


The attraction of the sexes for each other, though based upon the dual principle of generation which pervades the living world and which has its analogies in the attractive forces of matter, yet pervades the whole being.


Love is not merely the instinctive desire of physical union, which has for its object the continuation of the species—it belongs to the mind as well as to the body. It warms, invigorates, and elevates every sentiment, every feeling; and in its highest, purest, most diffusive form unites us to God and all creatures in Him.


All love is essentially the same, but modified according to its objects and by the character of the one who loves. The love of children for their parents, of parents for offspring, brotherly and sisterly love, the love of friendship, of charity, and the fervor of religious love, are modifications of the same sentiment—the attraction that draws us to our kindred, our kind; that binds together all races and humanity itself, resting on the fatherhood of God and the brotherhood of man.


It is but natural that this love should vary in degrees. Attractions are proportional to proximity. Family is nearer than country; we prefer our own nation to the rest of the race.


Each individual has, also, his own special attractions and repulsions. There is love at first sight and friendship at first sight. We feel some persons pleasant to us; to be near them is a delight. Generally such feelings are mutual—like flows to like, or as often, perhaps, differences fit into each other. We seek sympathy with our own tastes and habits, or we find in others what we lack.


Thus the weak rest upon the strong, the timid are fond of the courageous, the reckless seek guidance of the prudent, and so on. The sentiment of love for the opposite sex —tender, romantic, passionate—begins very early in life. Fathers and daughters, mothers and sons, have a special fondness for each other, as, also, have brothers and sisters; but the boy soon comes to admire someone, generally older than himself, who is not a relation.


Very little girls find a hero in some friend of an elder brother. Fondness for cousins generally comes more from opportunity than natural attraction, though a cousin may have very little appearance of family relation. The law appears to be that free choice seeks the diverse and distant. A stranger has always a better chance with the young ladies of any district than the young men with whom they have always been acquainted. Savages seek their wives out of their own tribe.


It is my belief that naturally (I mean in a state of pure and unperverted nature, but developed cultivated, and refined by education) every man loves womanhood itself, and all women so far as they approximate to his ideal; and that in the same way every woman loves manhood, and is attracted and charmed by all its gentle, noble, and heroic manifestations.


By such a man, every woman he meets is reverenced as a mother, sister, daughter, or, it may be, cherished in a more tender relation, which should be at first, and may always remain, free from any sensual desire.


Such love may have many objects, each attracting the kind and degree of affection which it is able to inspire. Such love of men for women, and women for men, may be free and will be free just in the degree in which it is freed from the bondage of sensual passion.


Such love has a direct tendency to raise men above the control of their senses. The more of such love one has and the more it is diffused, the less the liability to sink into the lower and disorderly loves of the sensual life.


The idea that every attraction, every attachment, every love between the sexes must lead to marriage—that no love can be tolerated but with that end in view—is a very false and mischievous one. It deprives men and women of the strength and happiness they might have in pure friendships and pure loves, and it leads to a multitude of false and bad marriages.


Two persons are drawn together by strong attractions and tender sentiments for each other who have no more right to be married than if they were brother and sister, but who have the same right to love each other. But their true sentiments for each other, and consequent relation to each other, are not understood by those around them and perhaps not by themselves.


They are urged by the misapprehension of others, by their expectation, by ignorant gossip, by the prejudice of society, based upon low and sensual estimates of life, to marry; they find that they must either marry or lose the happiness they have in each other’s society, and they make the irrevocable mistake.


When it is understood that there are other loves than that of marriage; when the special attraction that justifies union for life, and the begetting of offspring, is discriminated from all the other attractions that may bring two souls into very near and tender relations to each other, there will be more happiness in the world and fewer incomplete, imperfect, and, therefore, more or less unhappy, marriages.



Flirtation



Nothing can be more detestable than that playing with fire which goes by the name of flirtation but there are men and women who have the happiness of living and of being tenderly and devotedly loved by persons of the opposite sex—loved purely, nobly, happily—without injury and with great good.


When such loves are accompanied by perfect trust in the goodness, purity, truth, and honor of the beloved, there can be no jealousy, no desire for selfish absorption, no fear of deprivation of any right. There is no reason why a husband or a wife should limit the range of pure and spiritual affection to near relatives.


The man who can love a sister as sisters are often loved, may love in the same way, or as purely, any woman who might be his sister. As men and women learn to purify their lives, the world will grow more tolerant and love will become more universal.


The tender and fervent exhortations to mutual love to be found in the Gospels and Epistles of the New Testament are now almost without a meaning. But they had a meaning to those to whom they were addressed, and when we are better Christians, and bring our lives to the purity of Christian morality, they will have a meaning to us and we shall learn that, in a sense we have not dreamed of, God is Love.



Monogamy



In the human race all circumstances point to monogamy as the lawful or natural condition. Males and females are born in almost equal numbers. If there are two or three per cent. more of males than females, the risks of life with males soon make the number even. Therefore, as a rule, no man can have more than one wife without robbing his neighbor.


Polygamy is therefore a manifest injustice, and may become the most grievous of all monopolies.


Children are the most helpless of all young creatures and require the care of parents for the longest period. The care of a husband for his wife, and of a father for his child, is an evident necessity. The proper care and education of a single child should extend over at least fifteen years, and that of a family may reach to thirty years, or throughout the greatest part of an ordinary life.


During all periods of pregnancy, childbearing, nursing, and the education and care of a family, every woman has a right to the sympathy, sustaining love, and constant aid of her husband. No man has a right to desert or leave helpless, or even dependent upon others, except in extraordinary cases, the mother of his children.



Marriage



Marriage, like celibacy, should be a matter of vocation. The special object of marriage is to have children; the co-operating motive is that two persons drawn to each other by a mutual affection may live helpfully and happily together.


A selfish marriage, for its merely animal gratifications—a marriage in which strength, health, usefulness, often life itself, are sacrificed to sensuality and lust—is a desecration of a holy institution, and somewhat worse in its consequences than promiscuous profligacy, for the consequences of that may not fall upon one’s children and posterity.


There are many persons who have no right to marry. There should be a kind and amount of love that will justify and sanctify such a relation. There should be a pure motive and the fixed intention of making the relation what it ought to be to husband, wife, and children.


There should be a reasonable assurance of the power to provide for a family. There should be that amount of health, that freedom from bodily and mental disease, that physical and moral constitution which will give a reasonable prospect of children whose lives will be a blessing to themselves and to society.


When there is deformity of body, or an unhappy peculiarity of temper or mind liable to be inherited, people should not marry, or if they live together, should resign the uses of marriage. People should conscientiously refrain from propagating hereditary diseases. Persons near of kin are wisely forbidden to marry, for there is in such cases the liability of imperfect generation—the production of blind, deaf, idiotic or insane offspring.



Should marriage be for life?


As a rule, undoubtedly. Every real, proper, true marriage must be. It takes a lifetime for a husband and wife to make a home and rear and educate and provide for a family of children. But what if people make mistakes and find that they are not suitably married?


These are mistakes very difficult to remedy. If a man, after deliberately making his choice of a woman, ceases to love her, how can he honorably withdraw from his relation to her, and enter upon another, when she still loves him, and is ready to fulfill her part of the contract?


Laws cannot very well provide for mistakes. If the distaste for each other be mutual, and both parties desire to separate, a separation may of course be permitted; but it is a serious question whether two such persons can go into the world and find new partners, with justice to the rest.


The law which permits of no divorce certainly bears hard upon individual cases; but if it leads to greater seriousness and care in forming such relations, it may be, on the whole, the best thing for society that it should be strictly observed.



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Sexual Intercourse, its laws and conditions, it’s use and abuse.


There is an increasing and alarming prevalence of nervous ailments and complicated disorders that could be traced to have their sole origin from this source. Hypochondria, in its various phases, results from the premature and unnatural waste of the seminal fluid.


Then speedily ensues a lack of natural heat, a deficiency of vital power, and consequently indigestion, melancholy, languor, and dejection ensue; the victim becomes enervated and spiritless, loses the very attributes of man, and premature old age soon follows.





It is a prevalent error that it is necessary for the semen to be ejected at certain times from the body; that its retention is incompatible with sound health and vigor of body and mind. This is a very fallacious idea. The seminal fluid is too precious—nature bestows too much care in its elaboration for it to be wasted in this unproductive manner.



It is intended, when not used for the purpose of procreation, to be reabsorbed again into the system, giving vigor of body, elasticity and strength to the mind, making the individual strong, active, and self-reliant. When kept as nature intended, it is a perpetual fountain of life and energy—a vital force which acts in every direction, a motive power which infuses manhood into every organ of the brain and every fiber of the body.


The law of sexual morality for childhood is one of utter negation of sex. Every child should be kept pure and free from amative excitement and the least amative indulgence, which is unnatural and doubly hurtful.


No language is strong enough to express the evils of amative excitement and unnatural indulgence before the age of puberty; and the dangers are so great that I see no way so safe as thorough instruction regarding them at the earliest age. A child may be taught, simply as a matter of science, as one learns botany, all that is needful to know, and such knowledge may protect it from the most terrible evils.


The law for childhood is perfect purity, which cannot be too carefully guarded and protected by parents, teachers, and all caretakers. The law for youth is perfect continence—a pure vestalate alike in both sexes. No indulgence is required by one more than the other—for both nature has made the same provision. The natures of both are alike, and any—the least—exercise of the amative function is an injury to one as to the other.


Men expect that women shall come to them in marriage chaste and pure from the least defilement. Women have a right to expect the same of their husbands. Here the sexes are upon a perfect equality.


On this subject, Dr. Carpenter (physiological works) has written like a man of true science, and, therefore, of true morality. He lays it down as an axiom that the development of the individual and the reproduction of the species stand in an inverse ratio to each other.


He says: “The augmented development of the generative organs at puberty can only be rightly regarded as preparatory to the exercise of the organs. The development of the individual must be completed before the procreative power can properly be exercised for the continuance of the race.”


And in the following extract from his “Principles of Human Physiology,” he confirms my statement respecting the unscientific and libertine advice of too many physicians: “The author would say to those of his younger readers who urge the wants of nature as an excuse for the illicit gratification of the sexual passions, ‘try the effects of close mental application to some of those ennobling pursuits to which your profession introduces you, in combination with vigorous bodily exercise, before you assert that appetite is unrestrainable and act upon that assertion.’





Nothing tends so much to increase the desire as the continual direction of the mind toward the objects of its gratification, whilst nothing so effectually represses it as a determined exercise of the mental faculties upon other objects and the expenditure of nervous energy in other channels.


Some works which have issued from the medical press contain much that is calculated to excite, rather than to repress, the propensity; and the advice sometimes given by practitioners to their patients is immoral as well as unscientific.”


Every man and every woman, living simply, purely, and temperately—respecting the laws of health in regard to air, food, dress, exercise, and habits of life—not only can live in the continence of a pure virgin life when single, and in the chastity which should be observed by all married partners, but be stronger, happier, and in every way better by so living.


Chastity is the conservation of life, and the consecration of its forces to the highest use. Sensuality is the waste of life, and the degradation of its forces to pleasure divorced from use. Chastity is life; sensuality is death.


From the age of puberty to marriage, the law, is the same for both sexes—full employment of mind and body, temperance, purity, and perfect chastity in thought, word, and deed. The law is one of perfect equality. There is no license for the male which is not equally the right of the female.


There is no physiological ground for any indulgence in one case more than in the other. No man has any more right to require or expect purity in the woman who is to be his wife than the woman has to require and expect purity in her husband. It is a simple matter of justice and right.


No man can enter upon an amative relation with a woman, except in marriage, without manifest injustice to his future wife, unless he allow her the same liberty; and also without a great wrong to the woman, and to her possible husband.


It is contended that the sins of men against chastity are more venial than those of women, because of the liability of women to have children. But men are also liable to be the fathers of children, who are deeply wronged by the absence of paternal care.


The child has its rights, and every child has the right to be born in honest, respectable wedlock, of parents able to give it a sound constitution and the nurture and education it requires. The child who lacks these conditions is grievously wronged by both father and mother.


The law of marriage is, that a mature man and woman, with sound health, pure lives, and a reasonable prospect of comfortably educating a family, when drawn to each other by the attraction of mutual love, should chastely and temperately unite for offspring. The sexual relation has this chief and controlling purpose.


The law of nature is intercourse for reproduction. Under the Christian law, marriage is the symbol of the union of Christ with the Church; husband and wife are one in the Lord; they are to live in marriage chastity, not in lust and uncleanness; and there cannot be a more hideous violation of Christian morals than for a husband to vent his sensuality upon a feeble wife; against her wishes and when she has no desire for offspring and no power to give them the healthy constitutions and maternal care which is their right.





The law of Christian morality is very clear. It is the sexual union first and chiefly for its principal object. It is for the husband to refrain from it whenever it is not desired; whenever it would be hurtful to either; whenever it would be a waste of life; whenever it would injure mother or child, as during pregnancy and lactation.


A man who truly loves a woman must respect and reverence her, and cannot make her the victim of his inordinate and unbridled, selfish and sensual nature.


He will be ever, from the first moment of joyful possession to the last of his life, tender, delicate, considerate, deferent, yielding to her slightest wishes in the domain of love, and never encroaching, never trespassing upon, never victimizing the wife of his bosom and the mother of his babes. We have romance before marriage, we want more chivalry in marriage.


This is not the world’s morality, yet it seems to one the world must respect it. This, high and pure Christian morality is not always enforced by Christian ministers, some of whom yield too much to human sensuality and depravity, instead of maintaining the higher law of Christian purity, which is but nature restored or freed from its stains of sin.


The world requires that unmarried women should be chaste, while it gives almost unbridled license to men. A girl detected in amours is disgraced and often made an outcast. In young men such irregularities are freely tolerated.





They are “a little wild”; they “sow their wild oats”; but open profligacy, the seduction of innocence, the ruin of poor girls, adultery, harlotry and its diseases do not hinder men from marrying, nor from requiring that those they marry should have spotless reputations.


It is not for a moment permitted that women in these matters should behave like men, and a pure girl is given to the arms of a wasted debauchee, and her babes are perhaps born dead, or suffer through life with syphilitic diseases, while she endures a long martyrdom from disordered, diseased, and unrestrained sensuality.


For the unmarried, young men, soldiers, sailors, and all who do not choose to bear the burdens of a family, society has its armies of prostitutes—women like others, and more than others, or in less reputable fashion, the victims of the unbridled lust of men. They are everywhere tolerated as


Necessary evils and, in some places, protected or regulated; and, from economical or philanthropic considerations, or both, combined efforts are made to free them from the contagious diseases which for some centuries have been a curse attending this form of the violation of the laws of nature—one of the consequences of lust which is the divorce of the sexual instinct from its natural use and purpose.





The christian law of marriage as set down in the Holy Scriptures, and defined by the best writers on moral theology, is in harmony with nature, in consonance with the higher nature of man. “God hath set the earth in families.”


Adultery is a sin, because it disorders that divine arrangement. Fornication is a sin, because it prevents pure marriages. Prostitution is a sin, because it is a sacrifice of women, who might be wives and mothers, to the selfish lusts of men. All useless indulgence is a waste of life, and a kind of suicide.


In a pure marriage union, men and women unite themselves with God in acts of creative power. The progress of humanity depends upon individual development and the conditions at generation and gestation. With culture and a harmonized development, we acquire a higher and more integral life. When two parents are in their highest condition and in


A true union with each other, the child combines the best qualities of both parents. When parents are not in the unity of a mutual love, the child may be inferior to either parent. The intensity of mutual love tends to the reproduction [of the best faculties of both parents in the child. When men or women are exhausted or diseased the race deteriorates. Health is therefore one of the conditions of progress.


“It is all very fine,” I shall be told, “to talk of purity and chastity; but we must take men as they are. How are you going to make men pure and chaste, and respectful of the purity of women? How can you get men with strong amative propensities to live like anchorites?”


How can you get men to do anything right, or refrain from any wrong thing? There are three motives—fear of punishment, hope of reward, and sense of right or the principle of duty.


The first of these is the lowest, but often the most effectual; the second is higher, and appeals to hope and the love of happiness; the third, the highest of all motives, pure and unselfish as the love of truth, as in mathematics, acts on noble minds with great power.





Men of real conscientiousness love the right for its own sake. They are just from love of justice; pure from a sense and love of purity. They love good, and God as the source of all good; and do right, not from fear or hope, but from pure love.


We must appeal to all motives. Men refrain from theft and other dishonest conduct from the dread of disgrace and punishment, because they see that “honesty is the best policy,” and from a sense of justice and regard to the rights of property, or a sense of honor which makes a mean action impossible.


By similar motives great numbers are restrained from drunkenness and other vices. Children are to be restrained from impurity by the fear of the terrible consequences of unnatural indulgence in causing disease and pain, by the hope of a pure, healthy and happy life of love in manhood and womanhood, and by a sense of the beauty and holiness of chastity and the sacredness of the functions by which the race is recreated and preserved.


The religious feelings that our bodies are to be kept pure, healthy, and holy in every way as the temples of the Holy Ghost cannot be too early instilled into the infant mind, which is open to the highest sentiments of veneration, devotion, and heroic religion. In youth there are the same motives. Indulgence in solitary vice is self-destructive of all that youth most values—a profanation of his own body.



Seduction



Is a desecration of what he should hold in the most tender reverence. To the young man, womanhood should be sacred, and every woman, mother, sister, beloved of the present or the future, should never be wronged by one thought of impurity.


In this matter instinct goes with right. The inward voice supports the outer law of morality. Before men can become bad, their instinctive modesty must be broken down. Unless very badly born, with disordered amativeness, hereditary from a diseased and lustful parentage, they must be perverted and corrupted before they can act immodestly and impurely.


Women are protected by a strong public sentiment around them. They have the dread of disgrace. For them to yield to their own affectionate desires, or the solicitations of a lover, is a fall, is ruin. They have the hope of a loving husband, a happy home, and the respect of society.


And in woman passion has commonly less force, and the sentiment of modesty and purity more power. Women are weak in yielding to solicitation, giving everything for love; but we see how protective of female virtue are these motives to vast numbers.


Men can perfectly restrain the sensual part of their natures whenever they have a strong motive to do so. A child would be simply mad who was not controlled by the presence of father, mother, and persons he respected or feared. Young men have no difficulty when they are in the company of pure women.


They are in no trouble when their lives are full of mental and muscular activity, and particularly if their habits of eating simply and temperately, of refraining from heating and exciting stimulants, and sleeping in cold beds and fresh air, are such as health requires.





There needs but the strong will to live purely in any one, and at any age, the will that comes from the high motives of conscience and religion, or all motives combined. A strong sense of what is just and right controls even the motions of our bodies and actions which seem to be involuntary.


A man who has a vivid sense of the right and duty of refraining from sensuality, and preserving his own purity of mind and body and the chastity of all women, will do so even in his dreams. When the will is right, all things are soon brought into its subjection. The mind controls the organization, and the life forces are directed into other channels.


A strong man, full of life and love can safely hold a virgin in his arms, and respect her virginity, if he have but the motives and the will to do so. If he be pure in his will, how can he commit impurity? If a woman be sacred in his eyes, how can he profane her?


It is not that men have not the power of restraint, the power to do right; it is that they lack the motive. They have lost the sense of right; they are even impelled to do wrong by the pressure of opinion around them. Boys and young men are driven into libertinage by the ridicule of their companions. Vice is considered manly.





They seek sensuality in an evil emulation, as they learn to smoke, or gamble, or drink; and, later on, vanity has often more to do with excess than the force of lust. Young men seduce girls that they may boast of it. They keep mistresses because it is the fashion.


They exhaust themselves because they wish to give a high idea of their manly powers. Even in marriage, women are injured and have their health destroyed by yielding weakly, or from a false sense of duty to a husband whose own motive is the desire to acquit himself manfully in what he considers his marital duties.


Men and women are, in thousands of cases, wretched victims to what they imagine to be the wants or expectations of each other. A man, ignorant of the nature of women and the laws of the generative function, goes on in a process of miserable exhaustion, to please his wife.


She submits, sometimes in pain, often in disgust, weariness, and weakness, to what she dare not, from love or fear, refuse. Men have to know what is right and to will to be right. This will is omnipotent. God helps those who have the will, who have even the desire, to do right.


If the presence of those we fear or reverence, respect or love, restrain us from sin and stimulate us to right action, faith in the existence and presence of God and angels, and the spirits of the departed, must have a more powerful and pervading influence.


No one who really believes in the existence of a Supreme Being, no one who is strongly impressed with the reality of a spiritual life, can go on doing what he knows to be wrong. A religious faith is therefore the most powerful of all restraints from evil and incitement to good.



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The basis of a happy marriage.


The state of conjugal union should be the happiest in the whole of the existence of either man or woman, and is such in a congenial marriage. Yet in the history of very many marriages contentment or happiness is palpably absent and an almost insufferable misery is the heritage of both parties.



It is therefore important that previous to the marital union the parties should take everything into consideration that fore-shadows happiness after marriage, as well as everything calculated to despoil conjugal felicity.





The first requisite of congenial marriage is love.



Without being cemented by this element the conjugal union is sure to be uncongenial. It is the strongest bond, the firmest cord, uniting two hearts inseparably together. Love for the opposite sex has always been a controlling influence with mankind.



It is the most elevating of all the emotions and the purest and tenderest of all sentiments. It exerts a wonderful power, and by its influence the grandest human actions have been achieved. Of what infinite worth it is to either sex to be compensated with a worthy and satisfying love, and how ennobling to the impulses and actions it is to bestow the sentiment upon one worthy to receive and willing to return.



Love is the mainspring that regulates the harmony of conjugal life, and without it there is a void in the machinery, productive only of jars, convulsive movement, and a grating and inharmonious action.



The soul yearns for love and to love, and unless the desire is compensated human life is a blank and becomes a purposeless existence. Love ever stimulates the good and suppresses the bad, if kept in a proper channel and guided by pure affections.





Another requisite of a happy marriage is health.



No person has a moral right to engage in wedlock who cannot bring to his partner the offering of good health.



Another consideration is evenness of temper.



In the wooing days everyone is a lamb, and only becomes the howling wolf after marriage. Circumstances that ruffle the temper in the presence of the intended are but like the harmless squib, but would become like the explosive torpedo in his or her absence or in after-marriage.



Quarreling caused by matrimonial differences is the most frequent cause of infelicity, and most of it is caused by an innate irate temper of either husband or wife.





The tastes should not be dissimilar. Some of them may be unimportant, but others are a fruitful source of disagreement. The social wife will never be contented with the unsocial husband, and the gay husband, though his gayety may not be commendable, will always accuse his wife if she lacks a social disposition to a great extent.



The religious wife will never excuse a tendency to irreligion in her husband, and though he may be far from being immoral, she is unhappy if he does not participate in her devotions. The one devoted to children will never be happy with one having a natural repugnance for them.



In this way we might multiply facts illustrative of the importance of an investigation into the similarity of taste previous to marriage. Great love, however, overcomes almost every obstacle.





The parties should be nearly of one age. The husband should be the elder. The union of the old husband to the young wife, or the reverse, is seldom a happy one. It is seldom that such a marriage occurs in which the incentive is not the wealth of either of the parties. [This requisite is not set in stone and some people have been known to have happy marriages despite differences in age].




Marriages are usually contracted to gratify various desires, as love, fortune or position. The results are more truthfully stated by an eminent divine in the following:



“Who marries for love, takes a wife; who marries for fortune, takes a mistress; who marries for position, takes a lady.” To a man there is but one choice that he can rationally make, a marriage of love. My female readers, I hope, will decide rather to wed a husband than the master or the elegant gentleman.



A little foresight, a little prudence, and a little caution will prevent in most cases the entrance into a marriage which, by the very nature of the alliance, is certain to be an unhappy and improper one.



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It would probably be interesting to many to describe the marriage ceremonies observed by different nations, but to enter into a descriptive detail would occupy too much space. It is sufficient to say that while some wives are wooed and won, others are bought and sold; while in some countries the husband brings the wife to his home, in others, as in Formosa, the daughter brings her husband to her father’s house, and he is considered one of the family, while the sons, upon marriage, leave the family forever.



In civilized countries, the ceremonies are either ministerial or magisterial, and are more or less religious in character; while in others, less civilized, the gaining of a wife depends upon a foot-race, in which the female has the start of one-third the distance of the course, as is the custom in Lapland.



In Caffraria, the lover must first fight himself into the affections of his ladylove, and if he defeats all his rivals she becomes his wife without further ceremony. Among the Congo tribes, a wife is taken upon trial for a year, and if not suited to the standard of taste of the husband, he returns her to her patents.



In Persia, the wife’s status depends upon her fruitfulness; if she be barren, she can be put aside. In the same country they have also permanent marriages and marriages for a certain period only—the latter never allowed to exceed ninety years.



In fact, the marriage ceremonies differ in nearly all countries. To us some may appear very absurd, and yet our customs may be just as amazing to them. It matters but little how a conjugal union is effected so long as sanctioned by law or custom and it obligates the parties, by common opinion, to observe the duties pertaining to married life.



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Marriage is in law the conjugal union of man with woman, and is the only state in which cohabitation is considered proper and irreprehensible. The marriage relation exists in all Christian communities, and is considered the most solemn of contracts, and, excepting in Protestant countries, it is regarded as a sacrament.



In some countries its celebration falls under the cognizance of ecclesiastical courts only, but in the United States it is regarded as merely a civil contract, magistrates having, equally with clergymen, the right to solemnize it, though it is usually the practice to have it performed by a clergyman and attended with religious ceremonies.



Marriage, as a legalized custom, is of very ancient origin. It is doubtful whether even the primitive man was not governed in the intercourse of the sexes by some recognition of the union being confined to one chosen one. No greater promiscuity can certainly be supposed than occurs in the lower animals, where pairing is the law.



The nobler animals, as the lion, elephant, etc., never have but one mate, and even in case of death do not remate. As men advanced, civil codes were inaugurated and certain protection given to the choice of the parties. The earliest civil code regulating marriage, of which we have any account, was that of Menes, who, Herodotus tells us, was the first of the Pharaohs, or native Egyptian kings, and who lived about 3,500 years before Christ. The nature of his code is not known.



The Biblical account extends further back, but it does not appear that any laws existed regulating marriage, but each one was allowed to choose his wife and concubines, and it is supposed that common consent respected the selection. Next, Moses gave laws for the government of marriage among the Israelites.



The early Greeks followed the code of Cecrops, and the Romans were also governed in their marital relations by stringent laws. In fact, the necessity of some law regulating the intercourse between the sexes must have become very apparent to all nations or communities at a very early period. It certainly antedates any legal regulations with regard to the possession of property.



It is very probable that every community did by common consent afford to each male one or more females, and the presumption is that such choice or assignment, as the case may have been, was respected by common agreement as inviolable. It is doubtful if ever promiscuity was the law or privilege with any community of men, even in their primitive state.



The possession of reason is antagonistic to such a belief; and man was most probably elevated above the beast by the faculty of reason in this respect as in others. Promiscuous indulgence is always evidence of debauchery, and a departure from that natural course which is prompted by an innate sense of propriety characterizing mankind.



The law is very indefinite with regard to what constitutes a legal marriage. It is an unsettled question, both in England and this country, whether a marriage solemnized by customary formalities alone is legal, or if one characterized by the mere consent of the parties is illegal. The latter has been held as legal in some instances in both countries.



Kent, in his “Commentaries,” lays down the law that a contract made so that either party recognizes it from the moment of contract, and even not followed by cohabitation, amounts to a valid marriage, and also that a contract to be recognized at some future period, and followed by consummation, is equally valid.



It is unfortunate that the law is so undecided in this respect. The decisions arrived at, for or against, were not dependent upon any recognized law, but seem to be influenced by the character of the cases, either for favor or discountenance.



As long as the law recognizes cohabitation legal only in marriage, it seems to me that if consummated under consent of the parties to bear marital relations with each other, or promise of marriage, the act should be unhesitatingly pronounced as the equivalent of a valid marriage in all instances.



If cohabitation is only a marital prerogative, the law should not stultify itself by recognizing it as possible to occur in any other relation. If either of the parties is married, the law defines it as adultery, and very properly defines the punishment. It is necessary to the progress of the age that some such principle should be recognized in common law so as not to subject the decision of the question to the individual opinion of any judge.



It would at once obviate the confusion of sentiment now held in regard to it and besides arrest the decision in test cases from mere caprice of the tribunal. It is certainly as correct a principle as any in common law, and would, in its operations as a statute law, be free from injustice, and capable of doing much good.



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Young men are fond of your company and of paying you every polite attention, and you, as a right-minded woman, are well pleased to be so treated. It is due to you as a woman. Now, each of them is, or ought to be, looking out for a wife, and it is well that you should know this.



It is, too, more important than you perhaps are aware, that you should be carefully making your own observations, so that when the time arrives for one of them to ask you to become his wife you may not be taken by surprise, but may know how to act on the occasion.



Let me caution you here against a failing that is common among young women. I mean that of making themselves too cheap. They feel flattered by the attentions paid to them, and are not sufficiently aware that many young men are fond of indulging in flattery; and such, if they find a young woman weak enough to be pleased with it, will perhaps play upon her feelings and gain her affections without having any honorable intentions towards her.



As a protection against such, I recommend you to have a proper respect for yourself, and to consider with what object or purpose you receive their attentions. If you respond without an object, you may be doing them wrong; if you accept them when they have no right intentions, you allow them to wrong you.



For this purpose consider well what you are—a human being intended for an eternity of bliss. God has made you a woman; and, believe me, as there is no fairer, so there is no nobler creature than woman. She is formed to be her husband’s helpmate and the mother of his children, and the all-important work of training these for heaven depends mainly upon her.



Great, then, is her responsibility; but God has given her the requisite love and power to do her duty with satisfaction and delight. He has placed you in this beautiful world that by doing your duty as a daughter, sister, wife, mother, and friend, you may become fitted to enter His heavenly kingdom.



During your courtship let me entreat you to be very careful and circumspect. There is no period of life that can compare with this delightful season. It is, or should be, full of sunshine and sparkling with the poetry of life; but alas! to many it is the opposite. A want of judgment—a momentary indiscretion—has not only blotted out this beautiful springtime of life, but has marred, darkened, and blighted the whole of the after lifetime.



No maiden can, under any circumstances, place her character in the hands of any man before marriage. No matter how sincere the love, how ardent the protestations, how earnest or plausible the pleadings, you must not, you cannot, surrender your honor. You must preserve your prudence and virtue;



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When to marry.


The proper age to marry is a somewhat vexed question, but needlessly so, because that age varies much, according to temperament and other circumstances relating to the individual. Although after puberty the sexual organs are capable of reproduction, yet it by no means follows that they should be used for that purpose.


Their early activity is intended for the perfection of the body and mind, and not for the continuation of the species.


Very early marriage therefore, should be avoided, because the nervous force expended in amative indulgence is imperatively required in both sexes for developing the physical and mental faculties. The zoösperms produced by the male in the first years of puberty are inferior in power and less capable of producing healthy offspring than those of mature years.




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The early germs, also, of the female are less fitted for fecundation than those that appear later in life; nature evidently intending these early efforts to be used on the individuals themselves in building up their bodies, strengthening their minds, and preparing them to reproduce their species in maturer years.


There is a serious day of reckoning for early indulgence; for precocious persons (unless their constitutions are as powerful as their desires) who give way to their passions at their first exactions, barter their youth for their enjoyment, and are old and weary of the world at an age when people of more moderate habits are only in the meridian of pleasure and existence.


Generally the best age to marry where the health is perfect, is from twenty-one to twenty-five in the male and from eighteen to twenty-one in the female. As a general rule, marriages earlier than this are injurious and detrimental to health.




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Men who marry too young, unless they are of cold and phlegmatic constitution, [and thus moderate in their conduct, become partially bald, dim of sight, and lose all elasticity of limb in a few years; while women in a like position rarely have any bloom on their cheek or fire in their eye by the time they are twenty-five. And all profound physiologists agree that from the same cause the mental faculties suffer in the same ratio.


A medium, however, is to be observed. It is not well to defer till middle age the period of connubial intercourse; for too tedious spinsterhood is as much calculated to hasten the decay of beauty as too early a marriage.


Hence, there is rarely any freshness to be seen in a maiden of thirty; while the matron of that age, if her life has been a happy one, and her hymeneal condition of not more than ten years’ standing, is scarcely in the heyday of her charm’s. And the same rule will apply with equal force to the other sex; for, after the first prime of life, bachelors decay and grow old much faster than married men.




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Financial Standing.



The rich are qualified for marriage before the poor. This is owing to the superiority of their aliment; for very nutritious food, and the constant use of wines, coffee, etc., greatly assists in developing the organs of reproduction; whereas the food generally made use of among the peasantry of most countries—as vegetables, corn, milk, etc.—retards their growth.


Owing to this difference of diet, the daughter of a man of wealth, who keeps a good table, will be as adequate to certain duties of married life at eighteen as the daughter of a humble peasant at twenty-one.


Singular as it may seem, it is none the less true, that love novels, amorous conversations, playing parlor games for kisses, voluptuous pictures, waltzing, and, in fact, all things having a tendency to create desire, assist in promoting puberty and preparing young persons for early marriage. Those who reach this estate, however, by artificial means and much before the natural period will have to suffer for it in after life.




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The female who marries before the completion of her womanhood—that is, before her puberty is established—will cease to grow and probably become pale and delicate, the more especially if she become pregnant soon after marriage. A person who is thus circumstanced will also be liable to abortions and painful deliveries.


Marriage unless under very peculiar circumstances, should not take place until two or three years after the age of puberty. Many instances could be cited of the injurious effects resulting from not observing this rule.


The case of the son of Napoleon I. is a notable instance, who, at the age of fifteen or sixteen, began his career of sexual indulgence, which ended his life at the early age of twenty-one years.




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He was an amiable, inoffensive, and studious youth, beloved by his grandfather and the whole Austrian court; and though the son of the most energetic man that modern times has produced, yet, from his effeminate life, he scarcely attracted the least public attention.


Let me, therefore, advise the male reader to keep his desires in leading-strings until he is at least twenty-one, and the female not to enter the pale of wedlock until she is past her eighteenth year; but after these periods marriage is their proper sphere of action, and one in which they must play a part or suffer actual pain as well as the loss of one of the greatest of earthly pleasures.



Mental, Physical And Personality Considerations.



Marriages are most happy and most productive of handsome and healthy offspring when the husband and wife differ, not only in mental conformation, but in bodily construction. A melancholy man should mate himself with a sprightly woman, and vice versa; for otherwise they will soon grow weary of the monotony of each other’s company.




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By the same rule should the choleric and the patient be united, and the ambitious and the humble; for the opposites of their natures not only produce pleasurable excitement, but each keeps the other in a wholesome check. In the size and form of the parties the same principles hold good.


Tall women are not the ideals of beauty to tall men; and if they marry such, they will soon begin to imagine greater perfections in other forms than in those of their own wives. And this is well ordered by nature to prevent the disagreeable results which are almost certain to grow out of unions where the parties have a strong resemblance.


For instance, tall parents will probably have children taller than either, and mental imbecility is the usual attendant of extreme size. The union of persons prone to corpulency, of dwarfs, etc., would have parallel results; and so, likewise, of weakly and attenuated couples.




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The tall should marry the short, the corpulent the lean, the choleric the gentle, and so on, and the tendency to extremes in the parents will be corrected in the offspring.


Apart from these considerations, there are reasons why persons of the same disposition should not be united and wedlock. An amiable wife to a choleric man is like oil to troubled waters; an ill-tempered one will make his life a misery and his home a hell.


The man of studious habits should marry a woman of sense and spirit rather than of erudition, or the union will increase the monotony of his existence, which it would be well for his health and spirits to correct by a little conjugal excitement; and the man of gloomy temperament will find the greatest relief from the dark forebodings of his mind in the society of a gentle, but lively and smiling partner.


However, in some particulars the dispositions and constructions of married people must assimilate or they will have but few enjoyments in common.




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The man of full habits and warm nature had better remain single than unite his destinies with a woman whose heart repulses the soft advancements of love; and the sanguine female in whose soul love is the dominant principle should avoid marriage with a very phlegmatic person, or her caresses, instead of being returned in kind, will rather excite feelings of disgust.


Thus the discriminations to be made in the choice of a partner are extremely nice.Nature generally assists art in the choice of partners. We instinctively seek in the object of our desires the qualities which we do not possess ourselves.


This is a most admirable arrangement of Providence, as it establishes an equilibrium and prevents people from tending to extremes; for it is known that unions of dwarfs are fruitful of dwarfs, that giants proceed from the embrace of giants, and that offspring of parents alike irritable, alike passive, alike bashful, etc., inherit the prominent qualities of both to such a degree as to seriously interfere with their prospects in the world.




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It has another advantage. Through its means “Every eye forms its own beauty”; hence, what one person rejects is the beau ideal of another’s conceptions, and thus we are all provided for.


In fine, with man as with animals, the best way to improve the breed is to cross it, for the intermarriage of like with like and relative with relative not only causes man to degenerate, but if the system became universal would in time bring the human race to a termination altogether.


A male or female with a very low forehead should carefully avoid marriage with a person of like conformation, or their offspring will, in all probability, be weak-minded or victims to partial idiocy.


The system of crossing is so perfect that marriages between persons of different countries are likely to be pleasant and fruitful. Speaking on this subject, an English writer says: “The Persians have been so improved by introducing foreigners that they have completely succeeded in washing out their Mongolian origin.”







And the same author adds to the effect that in those parts of Persia where there is no foreign intercourse the inhabitants are sickly and stunted, while in those that are frequented by strangers they are large and healthy.


To make what is called, “A handsome couple,” the female should be about three inches less than the male, and the parties should be proportionately developed throughout their system.


A well formed woman says a modern physiologist, “should have her head, shoulders, and chest small and compact; arms and limbs relatively short; her haunches apart; her hips elevated; her abdomen large and her thighs voluminous. Hence, she should taper from the center, up and down.


Whereas, in a well-formed man the shoulders are more prominent than the hips. Great hollowness of the back, the pressing of the thigh against each other in walking, and the elevation of one hip above the other, are indications of the malformation of the pelvis.”




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From the same writer I take the following, which is applicable here. It is very correct in its estimates of beauty in both sexes:—


“The length of the neck should be proportionately less in the male than in the female, because the dependence of the mental system on the vital one is naturally connected with the shorter courses of the vessels of the neck.


“The neck should form a gradual transition between the body and head—its fullness concealing all prominences of the throat.


“The shoulders should slope from the lower part of the neck, because the reverse shows that the upper part of the chest owes its width to the bones and muscles of the shoulders.


“The upper part of the chest should be relatively short and wide, independent of the size of the shoulders, for this shows the vital organs which it contains are sufficiently developed.







“The waist should taper a little farther than the middle of the trunk, and be marked, especially in the back and loins, by the approximation of the hips. “The waist should be narrower than the upper part of the trunk and its muscles, because the reverse indicates the expansion of the stomach, liver, and great intestine, resulting from their excessive use.


“The back of woman should be more hollow than that of man; for otherwise the pelvis is not of sufficient depth for parturition.


“Women should have more extended loins than men, at the expense of the superior and inferior parts, for this conformation is essential to gestation. “The abdomen should be larger in woman than in man, for the same reason.


“Over all these parts the cellular tissue, and the plumpness connected with it, should obliterate all distinct projection of muscles.


“The surface of the whole female form should be characterized by its softness, elasticity, smoothness, delicacy, and polish, and by the gradual and easy transition between the parts.




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“The moderate plumpness already described should bestow on the organs of woman great suppleness. Plumpness is essential to beauty, especially in mothers, because in them the abdomen necessarily expands, and would afterwards collapse and become wrinkled.


“An excess of plumpness, however, is to be guarded against. Young women who are very fat are cold and prone to barrenness. “In no case should plumpness be so predominant as to destroy the distinctness of parts.”


A male and female formed on the above models would be well matched and have fine children.







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“My heart goes out to you, and I long to see you all coming constantly to God for a fresh supply of love.”

Dwight Lyman Moody


“Joy is love exalted; peace is love in response; long-suffering is love enduring; gentleness is love in society; goodness is love in action; faith is love on the battlefield; meekness is love in tough situations; and temperance is love in training.”

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“There has never been a time in my life when I felt that I could take a gun and shoot down a fellow-being. In this respect I am a Quaker.”

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“His is a loving, tender hand, full of sympathy and compassion.”

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“The Spirit of God first imparts love; He next inspires hope, and then gives liberty; and that is about the last thing we have in a good many of our churches at the present time.”

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“Lying covers a multitude of sins – temporarily.”

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“If we have got the true love of God shed abroad in our hearts, we will show it in our lives. We will not have to go up and down the earth proclaiming it. We will show it in everything we say or do.”

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“I tell you there is one thing that draws above everything else in this world, and that is love.”

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“I never knew up to that time that God loved us so much. This heart of mine began to thaw out; I could not keep back the tears. I just drank it in…I tell you there is one thing that draws above everything else in the world and that is love.”

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“Faith makes all things possible … love makes all things easy.”

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“The measure of a man is not how many servants he has but how many men he serves.”

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“If you can really make a man believe you love him, you have won him; and if I could only make people really believe that God loves them, what a rush we would see for the kingdom of God!”

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“The Gospel of John opens with Jesus Christ in the bosom of God, and closes with the sinner in the bosom of Jesus Christ.”

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“The world does not understand theology or dogma, but it understands love and sympathy.”

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“When a man has no strength, if he leans on God, he becomes powerful.”

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“A good example is far better than a good precept.”

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“There’s no better book with which to defend the Bible than the Bible itself.”

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“No matter how low down you are; no matter what your disposition has been; you may be low in your thoughts, words, and actions; you may be selfish; your heart may be overflowing with corruption and wickedness; yet Jesus will have compassion upon you. He will speak comforting words to you; not treat you coldly or spurn you, as perhaps those of earth would, but will speak tender words, and words of love and affection and kindness. Just come at once. He is a faithful friend – a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.”

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“The last business of Christ’s life was the saving of a poor penitent thief.”

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“Grace means undeserved kindness. It is the gift of God to man the moment he sees he is unworthy of God’s favor.”

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“A man ought to live so that everybody knows he is a Christian… and most of all, his family ought to know.”

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“We ought to see the face of God every morning before we see the face of man.”

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“It is a wonderful fact that men and women saved by the blood of Jesus rarely remain subjects of charity, but rise at once to comfort and respectability… I never saw a man who put Christ first in his life that wasn’t successful.”

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“Character is what a man is in the dark.”

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“The reward of service is more service.”

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“Jesus came from heaven down to earth. He left all grandeur behind Him, He passed by palaces and thrones-to be born in a manger! He was born lowly, that He might raise men up to God. The poor have a friend in Jesus. If no one else loves them, He loves them. He came to give them liberty, to proclaim to them the gospel of God’s grace.”

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“Take courage. We walk in the wilderness today and in the Promised Land tomorrow.”

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“A rule I have had for years is: to treat the Lord Jesus Christ as a personal friend. His is not a creed, a mere doctrine, but it is He Himself we have.”

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“I went to preaching again. The sermons were not different; I did not present any new truths, and yet hundreds were converted. I would not now be placed back where I was before that blessed experience if you should give me all the world – it would be as dust in the balance.”

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“Lust is the devil’s counterfeit for love. There is nothing more beautiful on earth than a pure love and there is nothing so blighting as lust.”

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“Every one of our children will be brought into the ark, if we pray and work earnestly for them.”

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“Whatever you love more than God is your idol.”

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“Right now I’m having so much trouble with D.L. Moody that I don’t have time to find fault with the other fellow.”

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“A worker must win the hearts and affections of the people before he can do any effective work.”

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“If we do not commend the Gospel to people by our holy walk and conversation, we shall not win them to Christ. Some little act of kindness will perhaps do more to influence them than any number of long sermons.”

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“A great many people wonder why it was that Christ did not come at once to Martha and Mary, whom He loved, whenever He heard of their affliction. It was to try them, and it is the same with His dealings toward us. If He seems not to come to us in our affliction, it is only to test us.”

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“God has two thrones, on in the highest heavens, the other in the lowliest heart.”

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“The voice of sin is loud, but the voice of forgiveness is louder.”

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“If we do not love one another, we certainly shall not have much power with God in prayer.”

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“I thank God that the gospel is to be preached to every creature. There is no man so far gone, but the grace of God can reach him; no man so desperate or black, but He can forgive him.”

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“I never yet have known the Spirit of God to work where the Lord’s people were divided.”

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“I now opened my Bible and began to study, and faith has been growing ever since.”

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“What makes the Dead Sea dead? Because it is all the time receiving, never giving out anything. Why is it that many Christians are cold? Because they are all the time receiving, never giving out anything.”

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“If you can’t see His way past the tears, trust His heart.”

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“What we want is to be real. Let us not appear to be more than we are. Don’t let us put on any cant, any assumed humility, but let us be real; that is the delight of God. God wants us to be real men and women, and if we profess to be what we are not, God knows all about us.”

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Thanks be to God, there is hope to-day; this very hour you can choose Him and serve Him.”

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“If you do not feel a fervent love and profound pity for humanity, be assured that the gift of Christian eloquence has been denied you. You will not win souls, neither will you acquire that most excellent of earthly sovereignties – sovereignty over human hearts….Love is irresistible.”

Dwight Lyman Moody



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“There must be knowledge of God before there can be love to God: there must be a knowledge of divine things, as they are revealed, before there can be an enjoyment of them.”

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“Love is an exotic; it is not a plant which will flourish naturally in human soil, it must be watered from above. Love to Jesus is a flower of a delicate nature, and if it received no nourishment but that which could be drawn from the rock of our hearts it would soon wither.”

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“In the Salem of our peaceful hearts, the name of Jesus is great beyond compare: He has won our love, and He shall wear it.”

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Faith goes up the stairs that love has built and looks out the windows which hope has opened.”

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“God could not have given this promise, except from love and grace; therefore it is quite certain his Word will be fulfilled.”

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“There is no physician like Him, none can save as He can; we love Him, and He loves us, and therefore we put ourselves into His hands, accept whatever he prescribes, and do whatever He bids.We feel that nothing can be wrongly ordered while He is the director of our affairs; for He loves us too well to let us perish, or suffer a single needless pang.”

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“O child of God, be more careful to keep the way of the Lord, more concentrated in heart in seeking His glory, and you will see the loving-kindness and the tender mercy of the Lord in your life.”

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“He who does not hate the false does not love the true; and he to whom it is all the same whether it be God’s word or man’s, is himself unrenewed at heart.”

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“My Lord, I leave the infinite to Thee, and pray Thee to put far from me such a love for the tree of knowledge as might keep me from the tree of life.”

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“Love and self-denial for the object loved go hand-in-hand. If I profess to love a certain person, and yet will neither give my silver nor my gold to relieve his wants, nor in any way deny myself comfort or ease for his sake, such love is contemptible; it wears the name, but lacks the reality of love: true love must be measured by the degree to which the person loving will be willing to subject himself to crosses and losses, to suffering and self-denials. After all, the value of a thing in the market is what a man will give for it, and you must estimate the value of a man’s love by that which he is willing to give up for it.”

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“Love should give wings to the feet of service, and strength to the arms of labour.”

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“Oh, the stoop of the Redeemer’s amazing love! Let us, henceforth, contend how low we can go side by side with Him, but remember when we have gone to the lowest He descends lower still, so that we can truly feel that the very lowest place is too high for us, because He has gone lower still.”

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“I would not give a penny for your love to the truth if it is not accompanied with a hearty hatred of error.”

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“For the least love to God, and the simplest act  of obedience to him, are better than the profoundest knowledge. My  Lord, I leave the infinite to thee, and pray thee to put far from me  such a love for the tree of knowledge as might keep me from the tree of  life.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Slavish fear brings not back the backslider to God, but the sweet wooings of love allure him to Jesus’ bosom.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“You must be conquerors through him who hath loved you, if conquerors at all. Our laurels must grow among his olives in Gethsemane.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“I bear my witness that the worst days I have ever had have turned out to be my best days. And when God has seemed most cruel to me he has then been most kind. If there is anything in this world for which I would bless him more than for anything else it is for pain and affliction. I am sure that in these things the richest tenderest love has been manifested to me. Our Father’s wagons rumble most heavily when they are bringing us the richest freight of the bullion of his grace. Love letters from heaven are often sent in black-edged envelopes. The cloud that is black with horror is big with mercy. Fear not the storm. It brings healing in its wings and when Jesus is with you in the vessel the tempest only hastens the ship to its desired haven.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Jesus does not cherish an offense, loving us as well after the offense as before it.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“No dependence can be placed upon our natural qualities, or our spiritual attainments; but God abideth faithful. He is faithful in His love; He knows no variableness, neither shadow of turning. He is faithful to His purpose; He doth not begin a work and then leave it undone. He is faithful to His relationships; as a Father He will not renounce His children, as a friend He will not deny His people, as a Creator He will not forsake the work of His own hands.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“A good character is the best tombstone. Those who loved you and were helped by you will remember you when forget-me-nots have withered. Carve your name on hearts, not on marble.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Shame on our cold hearts! We are but poor lovers of our sweet Lord Jesus, not fit to be his servants, much less to be his brides, and yet he hath exalted us to be bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh, married to him by a glorious marriage covenant. Herein is love.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“God loves the church with a love too deep for human imagination: He loves her with all His infinite heart. Therefore let her sons be of good courage; she cannot be far from prosperity.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Wean our heart from every creature Thee to love and Thee alone.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“God’s Fatherly prerogative, ” is a kingly attribute so sweetly veiled in love, that the King’s crown is forgotten in the King’s face, and His sceptre becomes, not a rod of iron, but a silver sceptre of mercy—the sceptre indeed seems to be forgotten in the tender hand of Him who wields it.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Nothing but the infinite can ever satisfy me; I am such a great sinner that I must have infinite merit to wash my sin away;” but we have had our sin removed, and found that there was merit to spare; we have had our hunger relieved at the feast of sacred love.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“To have sweet sleep we must have sweet lives, sweet tempers, sweet meditations, and sweet love.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“O, the breadth of the love of Christ! Shall such a love as this have half our hearts? Shall it have a cold love in return? Shall Jesus’ marvellous lovingkindness and tender care meet with but faint response and tardy acknowledgment? O my soul, tune thy harp to a glad song of thanksgiving! Go to thy rest rejoicing, for thou art no desolate wanderer, but a beloved child, watched over, cared for, supplied, and defended by thy Lord.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Let me be on my guard when the world puts on a loving face, for it will, if possible, betray me as it did my Master, with a kiss.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“To trust him is the sure way to every blessing, and he is worthy of the most implicit confidence; but unbelief makes them prefer the cold porches of Bethesda to the warm bosom of his love.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Love for God is obedience; love for God is holiness. To love God and to love man is to be conformed to the image of Christ, and this is salvation.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“But, Lord, we have yet another burden — it is that we ourselves do not love Thee as we should.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Men will allow God to be everywhere but on his throne. They will allow him to be in his workshop to fashion worlds and make stars. They will allow Him to be in His almonry to dispense His alms and bestow his bounties. they will allow Him to sustain the earth and bear up the pillars thereof, or light the lamps of heaven, or rule the waves of the ever-moving ocean; but when God ascends Hes throne, His creatures then gnash their teeth. And we proclaim an enthroned God, and His right to do as He wills with His own, to dispose of His creatures as He thinks well, without consulting them in the matter; then it is that we are hissed and execrated, and then it is that men turn a deaf ear to us, for God on His throne is not the God they love. But it is God upon the throne that we love to preach. It is God upon His throne whom we trust.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Christ loved the sons of men before there were sons of men, and me before there was me. If he was going to get tired of me, he would have done so before now.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Then no attribute of God can cease to be engaged for us. Is he mighty? He will show himself strong on the behalf of them that trust him. Is he love? Then with lovingkindness will he have mercy upon us. Whatever attributes may compose the character of Deity, every one of them to its fullest extent shall be engaged on our side.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“But, Lord, we have yet another burden — it is that we ourselves do not love Thee as we should.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“The more unworthy you feel yourself to be, the more evidence have you that nothing but unspeakable love could have led the Lord Jesus to save such a soul as yours. The more demerit you feel, the clearer is the display of the abounding love of God in having chosen you, and called you, and made you an heir of bliss.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“I feel myself to be a lump of unworthiness, a mass of corruption, and a heap of sin, apart from His almighty love.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“May the Lord bring us in contemplation to Calvary, then our position will no longer be that of the pompous man of pride, but we shall take the humble place of one who loves much because much has been forgiven him. Pride cannot live beneath the cross. Let us sit there and learn our lesson, and then rise and carry it into practice.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Though you wear your fingers to the bone with service, weep your eyes out with repentance, make your knees hard with kneeling, and dry your throat with shouting, if your heart does not beat with love, your religion falls to the ground like a withered leaf in autumn.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Humiliation of soul always brings a positive blessing with it. If we empty our hearts of self, God will fill them with his love.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Our gifts are very pleasant to Him. He loves to see us lay our time, our talents, our substance on the altar not for the value of what we give, but for the sake of the motive from which the gift springs.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Is not the gospel its own sign and wonder? Is not this a miracle of miracles, that ‘God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish’? Surely that precious word, ‘Whosoever will, let him come and take the water of life freely’ and that solemn promise, ‘Him that cometh unto Me, I will in no wise cast out,’ are better than signs and wonders! A truthful Saviour ought to be believed. He is truth itself. Why will you ask proof of the veracity of One who cannot lie?”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“There is no repentance where a man can talk lightly of sin, much less where he can speak tenderly and lovingly of it.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Zeal–what is it? How shall I describe it? Possess it, and you will know what it is. Be consumed with love for Christ, and let the flame burn continuously, not flaming up at public meetings and dying out in the routine work of every day.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“The intensity of the love of the upright is not so much to be judged by what it appears as by what the upright long for. It is our daily lament that we cannot love enough.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Oh, blessed trust! To trust Him . . . whose power will never be exhausted, whose love will never wane, whose kindness will never change, whose faithfulness will never fail, whose wisdom will never be confounded, and whose perfect goodness can never know a diminution!”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“Come in, O strong and deep love of Jesus, like the sea at the flood in spring tides, cover all my powers, drown all my sins, wash out all my cares, lift up my earth bound soul, and float it right up to my Lord’s feet, and there let me lie, a poor broken shell, washed up by his love, having no virtue or value; and only venturing to whisper to him that if he will put his ear to me, he will hear within my heart faint echoes of the vast waves of his own love which have brought me where it is my delight to lie, even at his feet for ever.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon


“That same spirit which makes us love the praise of men makes us dread the threats of men. You cannot be pleased with the adulation of mankind without becoming fearful of tour censure.”

Charles Haddon Spurgeon



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Home Is Not Where The Heart Is Found – Home Is Not A Place, Home Is Not A Soul, Home Is A Spirit

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Home Is Not Where The Heart Is Found – Home Is Not A Place, Home Is Not A Soul, Home Is A Spirit.

For a long time we have been told and taught that, “Home is where the heart is found is.” Another variation to this idea was the notion that home was a place or a location.  Some place to put our heads when exhausted and tired. Some spot to put our legs at the end of a long day. A refugee away from the cares of life. An area to find peace and to relax.

For a long time we have been told and taught that, “Home is where the heart is found is.” Another variation to this idea was the notion that home was a place or a location.  Some place to put our heads when exhausted and tired. Some spot to put our legs at the end of a long day. A refugee away from the cares of life. An area to find peace and to relax.

Yet other people told us home was a soul. And the idea and philosophical school of thought on soulmates especially philosophized by Plato and his friend Aristophanes was popularized by literature. We started thinking that home was a  soulmate. We therefore started searching for soul mates. In the hope that when we finally found our soulmate, we could finally find home and thus belonging and understanding.

But home is not a heart, it is not a mind, it is not a soul or a body.

Home Is A Spirit.

And the spirit is so strong that you don’t have to be in the same location with another person to feel the electromagnetic waves and forces of it’s might and work in action.

The spirit is able to find another individual anywhere in this world. You cannot hide from the spirit.

I mean are there no couples who share the same house, sleep in the same bed, but are strangers? Couples who speak to themselves daily but they can not understand themselves or are unable to communicate?

Of course this kind of disequilibrium often leads to unhappy homes full of chaos and confusion because there is often misunderstanding and a lack of communication.

And in some instances these differences lead to cheating and unfaithfulness even when the said couple share three meals a day and sleep together at night.

Because while their bodies maybe in the same place, their spirits are communing with another spirit.

However in the same vein, we have couples, physically away from each other for various reasons but with the most beautiful kind of connections because their spirits commune with each other.

Believers in Jesus Christ of Nazareth have the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is home for believers in Jesus. He is everything we need. When you have the Holy spirit, there is nothing you can lack. The Holy Spirit brings peace, self-control, joy, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, forbearance, meekness and love.

The Holy Spirit is the one who keep’s believer couples glued together for life. The Holy Spirit is the one who helps couples manage to overcome the various storms of life together as part of a team. Without the Holy Spirit holding families and relationships together, they invariably crumble.

What the Apostle Paul greatly summarizes in Galatians as the Fruit of the Spirit:

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24 Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 Since we live by the Spirit, we must also follow the Spirit. 26 We must not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.

Galatians 5:22-26

On the other side of the divide, the same way we have the Holy Spirit, we also have evil spirits.

Evil spirits keep occult couples and unions together. It sounds unbelievable but it is what it is.

There are two Kingdoms in the spiritual. The Kingdom of light and the the Kingdom of darkness.

There are occult couples who stay together for life. They too are able to communicate in the spirit. How? Through evil spirits who are a counterfeit to the Holy Spirit.

I understand this leaves a third category of individuals. These are the people who are blind or asleep.

What side do they belong?

Well, that is why there is a raging war and battle in the spiritual.

It is to determine where these individuals will end up.

In the Kingdom of light or in the Kingdom of darkness.

Jules

Is Lying To Those We Cherish Part Of Love – Exploring Love In The New Age

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Is Lying To Those We Cherish Part Of Love – Exploring Love In The New Age.

Jim Ed Brown and Helen Cornelius say a song titled, “Lying In Love With You.” One of the lines in the song goes like, “Won’t hurt to tell a white lie or two . When I’m lying in love with you.”

“The idea that lying occurs in all intimate relationships may be hard to accept. What may be even harder to acknowledge is that some of those lies may actually be necessary for love to thrive.” writes Dr. Randi Gunther a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor in an article where she seems to be justifying and encouraging lying in relationships and marriage.

Love has become a very misunderstood concept in today’s world and the new age.

In New age teachings of these times, the different kinds of guides will keep giving people pieces of advice like, “If you love someone and telling them the truth hurts them then you are better off lying.”

These kinds of counsel  are wrong on all levels because they condone and justify deception.

Once we start justifying sin and making excuses for it, it doesn’t take long before it becomes a habit, a culture and the norm.

Furthermore, many feel lust and assume it’s love. Many are infatuated and call it love.

The people of Corinth in Paul’s time were confusing love with other phenomenon and this chaos is what compelled Paul to write them 1 Corinthians 13 to explain what love is.

If it lacks truth, then it’s not love.

If it’s filled with deceit then it’s not love.

If you find yourself constantly telling lies, then you don’t have love.

Love is Truth. If it has no truth, then it is another phenomenon.

God Is Love
God Is Truth

The one who does not love does not know God, because God is love.

1 John 4:8
And we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and the one who remains in love remains in God, and God remains in him.

1 John 4:16
Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.

John 14:6

Let us stop justifying sin and calling it love! Let us not allow the enemy to defile and pollute godly unions, relationships and marriages.

I pray we can all walk in the Power of Love which is Truth.

Jules

Your Love Should Be Zealous And Passionate – Exploring Love In The New Age

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Your Love Should Be Zealous And Passionate – Exploring Love In The New Age.

In the new age that we live in, love has grown cold and numb. Often times, most people just go through the motions of loving others. People who love passionately are often shunned and called denigrating names like radicals, fanatics, weirdos etc.

But love should be passionate, hot and zealous for it to be effective and long lasting.

In fact God’s love is passionate and zealous. And the bible verse below which is found in the book of Isaiah, show’s us what things hot, zealous and passionate love can accomplish.

For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given:
and the government shall be upon his shoulder:
and his name shall be called
Wonderful,
Counsellor,
The mighty God,
The everlasting Father,
The Prince of Peace.
7 Of the increase of his government and peace there shall be no end,
upon the throne of David, and upon his kingdom,
to order it, and to establish it with judgment and with justice
from henceforth even for ever.
The zeal of the Lord of hosts will perform this.

Isaiah 9:6-7

Power, earth transformative changes can occur when we do things passionately and zealously.

There is a lot we can learn from God on how to love passionately and with zeal.

God’s zeal and passion for mankind led him to leave his heavenly throne and become a man.

What honor he bestowed onto us.

What a gift he gave us.

What a privilege to be so loved by him.

We too can take from the example of Jesus. We can choose to love God and other people passionately and with zeal. Let’s not allow the world or our circumstances to make our love grow cold.

Let’s not become lukewarm in a world that tries so desperately to extinguish the fire with in.

“I know your works, that you are neither cold nor hot. I could wish you were cold or hot.

Revelation 3:15

Jules

Questions And Answers About Marriage – Holy Matrimony – Wedlock

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Questions And Answers About Marriage – Holy Matrimony – Wedlock


What is the current definition of being married?

Our definition of marriage: A formal union, marriage is a social, and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally. … Being married also gives legitimacy to sexual relations within the marriage. The Spruce 


What is the original definition of marriage?

Etymology. The word “marriage” derives from Middle English mariage, which first appears in 1250–1300 CE. This in turn is derived from Old French, marier (tomarry), and ultimately Latin, marītāre, meaning to provide with a husband or wife and marītāri meaning to get married. Wikipedia 





What are the basic functions of marriage?

It is a social contract of two opposite sexes for the satisfaction of physical, biological, social, psychological and spiritual needs of males and females. It leads to the formation of family and the procreation of children. Sexual relationship and production of children are the basic aim of marriage. Study Lecture Notes 


What does marriage legally mean?

Definition of MarriageMarriage is the legal union of two people, who are joined together after they obtain a marriage license from their state and take part in a ceremony. … In some states, couples can become legally married without a license or ceremony. Nolo 


What is the true meaning of marriage?

Five Facets of the True Meaning of Marriage. … But generally, everyone understands that the meaning of marriage is when two people make a public pledge or commitment to live together and share their lives in a way that is recognized legally, socially and sometimes religiously. Marriage


What does marriage symbolize?

Probably the most obvious of all marriage symbols, the engagement ring and the wedding band represent commitment and the faithful love two people share. The circle, an international symbol of marriage, represents infinity or everlasting love. Everyday Health 





What is marriage life?

A happy marriage constitutes of two people who love each other very much and are committed to bringing out the best in each other. A great marriage also has an environment of positive energy where gratitude and appreciation for each other are freely flowing. … A happy married life is what is in for store for you. Marriage 


Is a marriage religious?

Marriage has historically occurred to join two people and two families. In many cultures, it’s more of a business transaction than being about love and commitment. … The wedding ceremony is often based on religious belief and practice, but marriage itself is a civil institution. News Times 


What are the keys to a happy marriage?

  • Love/Commitment. At its core, love is a decision to be committed to another person. …
  • Sexual Faithfulness. …
  • Humility. …
  • Patience/Forgiveness. …
  • Time. …
  • Honesty and Trust. …
  • Communication. …
  • Selflessness. Becoming Minimalist 

What does marriage mean in the Bible?

The Bible Defines Marriage as a Covenant. God sketched his original plan formarriage in Genesis 2:24 when one man (Adam) and one woman (Eve) united together to become one flesh: Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. ThoughtCo


What are the types of marriage?

In general there are two types: civil marriage and religious marriage, and typically marriages employ a combination of both (religious marriages must often be licensed and recognized by the state, and conversely civil marriages, while not sanctioned under religious law, are nevertheless respected). Wikipedia 





What is a happy marriage?

happy marriage is a cocktail of open communication, honesty, hard work, and a whole lotta love. … “In a happy marriage, two people share things equally,” says another married woman. “It doesn’t sound romantic, but I’m honestly happybecause my husband does the dishes and the laundry as often as I do. Brides 


What is marriage blessing?

The Blessing of the Marriage is the conclusion to a wedding ceremony and comes just before the bride and groom are pronounced husband and wife. OfficiantEric 


What is the importance of marriage?

It also provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children. Marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union. This union mirrors the one between God and His Church. AllProDad 


What are the characteristics of marriage?

  • Ownership: Taking Responsibility. Often, couples believe their problems are the result of the other person’s actions. …
  • Hope: Believing that Good Ultimately Triumphs. The foundation of hope is belief. …
  • Empathy: Walking in your Spouse’s Shoes. …
  • Forgiveness: Healing the Wounds. …
  • Commitment: Loving for Life.  Mark Merrill 

Is marriage an institution?

That is, marriage is the union of a man and woman as husband and wife to provide any children of that union with a father and a mother. … As Roberts explained: “When the institution of marriage developed historically, people didn’t get around and say let’s have this institution, but let’s keep out homosexuals. Heritage





What are the forms of marriage?

  • The main forms of marriage are: Monogamy: …
  • There are three basic forms of polygamy:
  • (a) Polygyny: It refers to plurality of wives or having more than one wife at the same time. …
  • (b) Polyandry: …
  • (c) Group Marriage:  Your Article Library 

Are you legally married after living together for years?

Despite much belief to the contrary, the length of time you live together does not by itself determine whether a common law marriage exists. No state law or court decision says seven years or ten years of cohabitation is all that is needed for a common law marriage. It’s only one factor the court may consider. Nolo


Do married people live longer?

Men, marriage, and mortality. … Men who have marital partners also live longerthan men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers. Health 


What are the benefits of getting married?

  • It makes you richer. …
  • There are better tax benefits. …
  • There are health insurance benefits. …
  • Married people have lower stress. …
  • Married couples are less likely to be depressed. …
  • People with a spouse are less likely to engage in risky behavior. …
  • They have better outcomes after major surgery. …
  • They are more likely to survive cancer.  The List 

Are you legally married with just a marriage license?

marriage certificate is a document that proves you are married. Typically, couples obtain a marriage license, hold the wedding ceremony, and then have the person who performed the ceremony file a marriage certificate in the appropriate county office within a few days. … This is often done just after the ceremony. Family 


What does getting married in a dream mean?

Getting married in a dream. To dream you are getting married may represent your commitment to or partnership with someone or something. May represent a union or merging of the masculine and feminine aspects of yourself. May be wish fulfillment, if you desire to get married in waking life. Dreamscloud


Do you pay less tax if you are married?

Taxes and the Family. A couple incurs a marriage penalty if the two pay more income tax filing jointly as a married couple than they would pay if they were single and filed as individuals. Conversely, a couple receives a marriage bonus if they pay less tax filing jointly than they would if they were single. Tax Policy Center 





What is a purpose of marriage?

The Purpose of Marriage is Not Procreation. … Having children, therefore, is the fulfillment and meaning of marriage. A natural response is to ask about the legitimacy of marriages for infertile couples, given the assumption that procreation both defines and fulfills marriage, and the Declaration has an answer. Huffington Post 


How can I propose marriage?

  1. Make sure that you’re both ready for marriage. Before you take the plunge, you should know if you’re really ready to be with your special someone for the long haul. …
  2. Pick the right ring. Before you propose, you have to choose the right ring. …
  3. Pick the right time. …
  4. Pick the perfect location. …
  5. Ask the right way.  WikiHow 

What it means to be married?

What Does Commitment Mean In A Marriage? … It’s a commitment to be willing to do whatever it takes to make the marriage work, and that means there are going to be many times when you’re just not going to get your way. And you’re going to have to be OK with it, they say. Huffington Post 


What a marriage is all about?

All About MarriageMarriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. … And no marriage is free of conflict. Psychology Today 


What is meant by early marriage?

Early marriage, or child marriage, is defined as the marriage or union between two people in which one or both parties are younger than 18 years of age. … Parents often feel that a young girl is an economic burden and therefore wish to marry off their young daughters before they become an economic liability. K4Health


How can u make ur husband happy?

  1. Show respect. Make sure your husband knows that he is your number one. …
  2. Show interest in his hobbies. This doesn’t mean you have to be with him every time he plays basketball with his buddies. …
  3. Have sex. …
  4. Do something unexpected. …
  5. Be yourself, all the time. …
  6. Let it go. …
  7. Take care of him. …
  8. Don’t nag.  PairedLife 

How do I make my wife happy?

  1. Tell her you love her. Cliché, you say? …
  2. Build her up. …
  3. Give her some space. …
  4. Look nice for her. …
  5. Don’t make her hangry. …
  6. Be faithful to her. …
  7. Know what she (really) likes. …
  8. Think about her.   Famifi 

How can I have a successful marriage?

  1. Remind your partner (and yourself) that you appreciate them. …
  2. Say thank you for the little things. …
  3. Practice honesty, even when you’re ashamed. …
  4. Take care of your appearance. …
  5. Foster relationships outside your marriage. …
  6. Watch your words. …
  7. Put away the jumper cables yourself. …
  8. Relish the silence.   Huffington Post 

What qualities make a good wife?

  • She shares your beliefs. When it comes to finding your wife, I’ve heard “equally yoked.” …
  • She makes you a better man. …
  • She’s trustworthy. …
  • She has ambition. …
  • She’s selfless. …
  • She’s attractive. …
  • She’s smart. …
  • She loves you unconditionally.   Goodguyswag 

What does Bible say about marriage?

Ephesians 5:25: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.” Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”  The Knot


What is the definition of marriage vows?

The promises a couple make to each other in a marriage ceremony. The aim would be to make couples think more seriously about their responsibilities before they make their wedding vows. Collins English DictionaryCollins Dictionary 


What is the meaning of ghost marriage?

In Sudan, a ghost marriage is a marriage where a deceased groom is replaced by his brother. The brother serves as a stand in to the bride, and any resulting children are considered children of the deceased spouse. Wikipedia 


What is the most common type of marriage in the world?

Monogamy. Monogamy is a form of marriage in which one man marries the woman. It is most common form of the marriage found among in the societies around the world. Sociology Guide 


How do you keep your marriage alive?

  1. Break your routine.
  2. Surprise your spouse.
  3. Don’t get bogged down with chores.
  4. Ditch the distractions for an hour.
  5. Try new things together.
  6. Stay connected.   Live About 

How long is a church wedding?

A Guide to a Typical Wedding Timeline. A very simple ceremony with no readings, special wording or photographs can be as short as 10 minutes. However most ceremonies usually take approximately 20 to 30 minutes. Most couples tend to have photos at the Church after the service. GTB


What is the concept of marriage?

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognised union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity (in-laws and other family through marriage). Wikipedia 


What are the characteristics of a healthy marriage?

  • Mutual respect. Respect is one of the most important healthy relationship characteristics. …
  • Spending time together. When you have free time you look for ways to spend it with your mate. …
  • Open communication. …
  • Sexual compatibility. …
  • Support. …
  • Trust. …
  • Confidence. …
  • You like each other.  Marriage 

What is the meaning of love marriage?

Love marriage is a term used primarily in South Asia, especially in India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Sri Lanka, to describe a marriage where the individuals love each other and get married with or without consent of their parents. There is no clear definition of love marriage. Wikipedia 


What is the meaning of void marriage?

void marriage is a marriage which is unlawful or invalid under the laws of the jurisdiction where it is entered. A void marriage is “one that is void and invalid from its beginning. It is as though the marriage never existed and it requires no formality to terminate.”  Wikipedia 


How many types of Hindu marriages are there?

There are eight different types of Hindu marriages according to Manusmriti, the law of Manu although not all of them have religious sanction. These marriages are: 1.BRAHMA VIVAAH: Considered to be the best marriage where the boy and girl belonged to same varna and came belonged to good families.  Quora 


Who ordain’s marriage?

A clergy person (minister, priest, rabbi, etc.) is someone who is ordained by a religious organization to marry two people. A judge, notary public, justice of the peace, and certain other public servants often solemnize marriages as part of their job responsibilities.  Bustle 


What are the health benefits of marriage?

  • Less chance of heart attacks. Credit: Alamy. …
  • Encourages safer behaviour. Credit: Getty. …
  • Less chance of strokes. Credit: Getty. …
  • Lower stress levels. Credit: Alamy. …
  • Higher chance of recovering from major surgery. Credit: Alamy. …
  • Less chance of developing mental illness. Credit: Getty. …
  • Better sleep. Credit: Alamy. …
  • You live for longer.  Telegraph 

What does Levirate marriage mean?

Levirate marriage is a type of marriage in which the brother of a deceased man isobliged to marry his brother’s widow. The term levirate is itself a derivative of the Latin word levir meaning “husband’s brother”. Wikipedia 



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Questions And Answers About Love

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Questions And Answers About Love.


What is the definition of God’s love?

Love of God can mean either love for God or love by God. … The Greek term theophilia means the love or favour of God, and theophilos means friend of God, originally in the sense of being loved by God or loved by the gods; but is today sometimes understood in the sense of showing love for God. Wikipedia 


What is love in the Bible?

“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8


What are the different styles and kinds of love?

“Eros” or Erotic Love. The first kind of love is Eros, which is named after the Greek god of love and fertility. …
“Philia” or Affectionate Love. …
“Storge” or Familiar Love. …
“Ludus” or Playful Love. …
“Mania” or Obsessive Love. …
“Pragma” or Enduring Love. …
“Philautia” or Self Love. …
“Agape” or Selfless Love.  LonerWolf 


What are the signs of love?

  • Give and take in love. …
  • Pure happiness. …
  • Pain and anger. …
  • You make sacrifices for their happiness or wellbeing even if they may not realise it.
  • The right effort. …
  • You can’t hurt them. …
  • You keep your promises. …
  • When you truly love your partner, you see them as part of your life and your future.  Risings 

What defines love in a relationship?

  • 1. A strong feeling of affection and concern toward another person, as that arising from kinship or close friendship.
  • 2. A strong feeling of affection and concern for another person accompanied by sexual attraction. Free Dictionary 

Can you explain love?

Love isn’t the easiest of emotions to describe but here are 20 quotes that will helpyou try! Although love is an emotion that can‘t be easily explained, it is the seed to other growing emotions; whether it’s anger, sadness or happiness. All those emotions are evoked from some type of loveYour Tango 


What is God’s love called?

Agape (Ancient Greek ἀγάπη, agapē) is a Greco-Christian term referring to love, “the highest form of love, charity” and “the love of God for man and of man for God“. … Within Christianity, agape is considered to be the love originating from God or Christ for mankind.  Wikipedia 


Is love a real emotion?

Yet real love is a steadfast promise that repeats itself endlessly through life and beyond death. Love does not increase or decrease in response to its environment, and it does not change with the changing winds. Love is not an emotion; it doesn’t behave the way emotions do. Real love is in a category of its own. Karla Mclaren 


What do I love in a relationship?

Attraction without closeness is more like a crush or infatuation. You’re attracted to someone physically but don’t know the person well enough yet to feel the closeness that comes from sharing personal experiences and feelings. Romantic love is when attraction and closeness are combined. KidsHealth 


What are the languages of love?

  • Words of affirmation. According to Dr. Chapman, this language uses words to affirm other people. …
  • Quality time. This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention. …
  • Receiving gifts. …
  • Acts of service. …
  • Physical touch.  SheKnows 

Is love a real thing?

Love has many permutations, but romantic love is very real. It causes us to move mountains and change the course of our lives. It can break up an existing relationship, and can alter your priorities. … Love is a human construct, and therefore is actually a real thing. Quora 


Is jealousy part of love?

Yes it is. Jealousy is a part of Love. It sounds paradoxical and yet it is the truth. It is important not to confuse envy with jealousy though.


What are some qualities of love?

  • Effortless and Eternal Attraction. When we are truly in love with someone, we discover moments of love and affection in the most normal of situations. …
  • Mutual Respect. …
  • Acceptance. …
  • Selflessness. …
  • Trust. …
  • Healing. …
  • Growth. …
  • Companionship.  Elite Daily 

What is playful love?

Or a couple of lovers. There’s something about the playful connection between them – the way they respond to each other, pay attention to each other, lead each other to happy places and people and things – that makes you think of love. They’re having fun together. A very certain kind of fun. A Playful Path 


What is love affection?

Affection, attraction, infatuation, or fondness is a “disposition or state of mind or body” that is often associated with a feeling or type of love. It has given rise to a number of branches of philosophy and psychology concerning emotion, disease, influence, and state of being. Wikipedia 


What is infatuation how does it differ from love?

The difference between infatuation vs love is that infatuation is a short-lived passion for someone whereas love is a deep affection for someone that lasts the test of time. … If you’ve only known the person for a short time, then it isinfatuation vs loveLove takes a while to develop. Ilanelanzen 


What words describe love?


Is love a feeling or a choice?

Love is a Choice More than a Feeling. Most of us tend to focus on falling in loveand use the feeling of love to determine the duration of a relationship. Falling inlove is easy to do, almost effortless, but losing that loving feeling is not that hard to do, either. … Feelings, however, can be fleeting. PsychCentral 


Can you stop loving someone if you truly loved them?

The relationship might have ended, but all the feelings that came with it usually insist on following you around. I‘ve been there, so much so that I never really stopped loving the last person I was in love with. … “[You] may never stop lovingthe person,” says Dr. Brenner, “but you‘re not in love.”  Elite Daily 


Can love be proven?

Here are 6 scientifically proven facts about love. While chemistry and passion are a crucial component of love, they are not enough on their own. … Love is a long-term drive. Lust for one person doesn’t last for hours, months and years without stopping.  The Anatomy Of Love 


Is love a chemical?

Researchers say this is due to the dopamine, norepinephrine and phenylethylamine we’re releasing. Dopamine is thought to be the “pleasure chemical,” producing a feeling of bliss. Norepinephrine is similar to adrenaline and produces the racing heart and excitement.  How Stuff Works 


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God’s Love Is A Holistic Covering Over Your Heart, Body, Soul, Spirit And Mind.

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God’s Love Is A Holistic Covering Over Your Heart, Body, Soul, Spirit And Mind.

Below are awesome bible scriptures to remind you that God’s love is a great covering over our whole being.

God doesn’t love just one part of you. He loves everything about you. You are precious and deeply cherished.

So, anytime you are going through a difficult patch in life or you are feeling unloved, just remember God loves all of you, all the time and for ever.

God’s love over your Heart:

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

John 14:27

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

John 16:33

God’s love over your Body:

And as they were eating, Jesus took bread, and blessed it, and brake it, and gave it to the disciples, and said,

Take, eat; this is my body. 27 And he took the cup, and gave thanks, and gave it to them, saying,

Drink ye all of it; 28 For this is my blood of the new testament, which is shed for many for the remission of sins.

Matthew 26:26-28

God’s love over your Soul:

Rest in God alone, my soul, for my hope comes from Him.
6 He alone is my rock and my salvation, my stronghold; I will not be shaken.

Psalms 62:5-6

God’s love over your Spirit:

It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh profits nothing. The words that I speak to you are spirit, and they are life.

John 6:63

But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you.

John 14:26

For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.

Romans 8:14

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control.

Galatians 5:22-23

God’s love over your Mind:

You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.

Isaiah 26:3

“And do not seek what you should eat or what you should drink, nor have an anxious mind. 30 For all these things the nations of the world seek after, and your Father knows that you need these things.

Luke 12:29-30

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

2 Timothy 1:7

God’s love over our Soul, Spirit, Body, Mind and Heart:

For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.

Hebrews 4:12

Now may the God of peace Himself sanctify you completely. And may your spirit, soul, and body be kept sound and blameless for the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

1 Thessalonians 5:23

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Redefining and Classifying Love – Types of Love – Exploring Love In The New Age

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Redefining and Classifying Love – Types of Love – Exploring Love In The New Age.

Over the years, I have heard love classified a variety of ways.

The most common psychology classification is the one in which love is grouped into seven categories.

I didn’t really believe any of those classifications as they didn’t make sense to me but for a few weeks now, a particular Bible passage has been niggling at the back of my mind.

 

“Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold.”

Matthew 24:12

And it’s on the basis of that passage that I have come up with my own rendition on the classification and types of love.

  1. Hot Love
  2. Cold Love

  3. Lukewarm Love

Let’s consider these three types of love further:

Love type number 3:

Lukewarm Love:

I like to think of this as the worst kind of love. People with lukewarm love are the one’s who are neither here or there. They have no idea what they want. They are indecisive and wishy washy. When I consider it, I think it consists of lying and false lures.

Revelations has this to say further on Lukewarm Love.

I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! 16 So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.

Revelation 3:15-16

Love type number 2:

 

Cold Love:

This is love with no passion, ardor or fire. It consists of people who are insensitive, unfeeling and have buried their emotions.

In Matthew 24:12, Jesus is not saying people will not be able to love. They will love, except that their love will be cold.

Love type number 1:

Hot Love:

This is the best kind of love. Jesus wants us burning hot with desire and passion for him, the gospel and other people. Hot love is heavenly, holy, and from the heart. It pushes us beyond our bounds to give our all. It changes people and situations.

Hot Love Liberates, Cold Love Numbs and Lukewarm Love Destroys.

I pray we can all have hot love and burn with passion for Jesus. Let us not allow our love to die.

Jules

It Is Okay To Be Romantic – Romance Was Created By God And Not By The Devil

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It Is Okay To Be Romantic – Romance Was Created By God And Not By The Devil.

Jesus is the greatest romantic of all time. I therefore don’t understand believers who want to separate romance from love. There is nothing evil, wicked, weak and dark about romance.

It’s time we stopped giving the devil platitudes he has never earned.

Which devil has ever created true and genuine romance?
Of course the devil is always in the business of duplicates to dilute the original but it doesn’t take away from the true source.

People let’s be realistic and lets stop cheating God by giving away all his glory.

God created romance. Not the devil.
Forget Saint valentine and what the world, marketer’s and secularists preach and peddle.
Jesus’s romantic skills begin way back in Genesis, even before Man comes on the scene.

Look at the earth. The romance of flower petals and their fragrance. The romantic sounds streams and springs make as they flow by. The romantic whistling of birds chirping in the morning. The feel of a new born baby as you carry them. Our world is filled with romantic gestures created by God. If only we could open our eyes to appreciate his handiwork.

How do people think God continually expresses his love for us?
The evidence of his romantic displays are everywhere but clearly some people lack the ability to see and sense these displays. It is the only way we can explain the muteness, blindness and total lack of feeling to the splendor and magnificence of God’s romantic displays.

I pray that the Lord will open the eyes of the blind so that they can marvel and gaze at his romantic spendor.

Love goes hand in hand with romance. However, I personally believe that love comes before romance but they certainly flow together once they mesh. Not separately.

Now, countless times I have been accused of being sappy and emotional and an incurable romantic.

I used to shun the title, because I wanted to join the club of the unfeeling, insensitive and hard people.

However, one day, the Lord Jesus gently reminded me why he created me as a human being with all the dimensions possessed by humans including an emotional dimensional and not a Nephilim hybrid lacking some human components.

Anyhow, now I wear my incurable romantic label like a badge. I’m glad I can sense and feel deeply. The challenge is not my depth. The challenge is people’s superficiality.

Let’s be serious. A man who can beautifully, descriptively, delicately, creatively and poetically describe how he wants something as unromantic as lamp stands to be designed for him to be labelled unromantic is beyond me. Just beyond me!

Reading the scripture below, we can all certainly pick a leaf from the master romantic on how to be romantic.

33 Three cups shaped like almond flowers with buds and blossoms are to be on one branch, three on the next branch, and the same for all six branches extending from the lampstand.
34 And on the lampstand there are to be four cups shaped like almond flowers with buds and blossoms.
35 One bud shall be under the first pair of branches extending from the lampstand, a second bud under the second pair, and a third bud under the third pair—six branches in all.
36 The buds and branches shall all be of one piece with the lampstand, hammered out of pure gold.

Exodus 25:33-36

Jules

Love Disciplines And Rebukes – Exploring Love In The New Age

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Love Disciplines And Rebukes – Exploring Love In The New Age.

I often hear people saying that we shouldn’t talk about hell because it will make people fearful and lead them away from God.

Apparently we should only talk about God’s unfailing and abundant love but we should sweep his wrath under the carpet.

Yes, I also once thought that way. But not anymore.

The same God who was pleased seeing his own innocent son suffer on the cross because he had taken the whole sin of the world and offered himself as a sacrifice?

“Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin, he shall see his seed, he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand.”

Isaiah 53:9-10

That same God who couldn’t spare his only begotten son will spare you with your conscious and deliberate refusal of his gift of love and salvation?

And about the ninth hour Jesus cried with a loud voice, saying, Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani? that is to say, My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?

Matthew 27:46

People should really stop fooling themselves.

We mortals have really taken God for granted but the day he decides enough is enough, I can’t fathom what will happen to this earth.

And he made his grave with the wicked,
and with the rich in his death;
because he had done no violence,
neither was any deceit in his mouth.

Matthew 27:46

God’s love rebukes and disciplines. This discipline is for our own good. He corrects us because he wants us to be better. It’s a show of his love.

“As many as I love, I rebuke and discipline. So be committed and repent. 20 Listen! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and have dinner with him, and he with Me.”

Revelation 3:19-20

Discipline and rebuke is not hateful like New age and secular media would like us to believe. Unfortunately, If we remain indisciplined and refuse to change, God will send us to hell.

I urge you brethren, if you have any sin in your life, please confess it to God, ask him to forgive you and to cleanse you with his precious blood. Repent and ask Jesus for his Holy Spirit to guide you and lead you.

Let us no take God’s love, his mercy, his compassion and his kindness for granted.

Jules

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Do Unlike Poles Attract And Stay That Way In Relationships And Marriage – Exploring Love In The New Age

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Do Unlike Poles Attract And Stay That Way In Relationships And Marriage – Exploring Love In The New Age.

In dating, relationships and marriage, new age says, unlike poles attract and stay that way.
Sound’s nice at first but on deeper introspection it misses a number of principles.

Before marriage, unlike poles attract, kind of like Physics principles. Magnetism and magnetic pole attraction.

Ying-Yang as the Chinese say.
Humans tend to look for people who can give them what they are lacking.
Why else would someone go searching for what they already have most will argue.
It’s also the complimentary principle.
I give you what you lack and you give me what I lack.

If say person A has lot’s of patience, he will seek person B without patience so he can share. If person B lacks joy, they will go looking for a person full of joy to fill them etc.

That is before marriage.
Lock and Key!

After marriage though, unlike poles start to repel.
See, for any long term venture, you need common ground or glue to keep things going!
Because if you lack the glue to go in the same direction, you both start drifting apart.
I guess this is where the famous Bible scripture of two becoming one comes in.

This is why a man leaves his father and mother and bonds with his wife, and they become one flesh.

Genesis 2:24

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Could this phenomenon of people looking for those who are opposite to them also explain the increasing the levels of divorce, separation, mariticide and uxoricide?

If you don’t have enough similarities to be one, then you are headed for chaos especially if you have totally different outlooks on life.
I mean after the differences are filled, there will be nothing left anymore.
Indeed this is where the Biblical question comes in:

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?

16 What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said:
“I will live with them
and walk among them,
and I will be their God,
and they will be my people.”

17 Therefore,
“Come out from them
and be separate,
says the Lord.
Touch no unclean thing,
and I will receive you.”

18 And,
“I will be a Father to you,
and you will be my sons and daughters,
says the Lord Almighty.”

2 Corinthians 6:14-18

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In relationships and marriage do unlike poles attract and stay that way? Well, after reading the post, what do you think?

Jules