Go And Marry A Promiscuous Wife – Marriage Bible Verses

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Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.

1 Corinthians 7:10-11


So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”

Mark 10:11-12


They ate, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noah entered the ark, and the flood came and destroyed them all.

Luke 17:27


And what man is there who is betrothed to a woman and has not married her? Let him go and return to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man marry her.’

Deuteronomy 20:7


And when the Jubilee of the children of Israel comes, then their inheritance will be added to the inheritance of the tribe into which they marry; so their inheritance will be taken away from the inheritance of the tribe of our fathers.”

Numbers 36:4


A widow or a divorced woman or a defiled woman or a harlot—these he shall not marry; but he shall take a virgin of his own people as wife.

Leviticus 21:14


His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”

Matthew 19:10


He may make himself unclean for his young unmarried sister in his immediate family. 4 He is not to make himself unclean for those related to him by marriage and so defile himself.

Leviticus 21:3-4


But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

1 Corinthians 7:8-9


For Herod himself had sent and laid hold of John, and bound him in prison for the sake of Herodias, his brother Philip’s wife; for he had married her.

Mark 6:17


And Judah said to Onan, “Go in to your brother’s wife and marry her, and raise up an heir to your brother.”

Genesis 38:8


When the Lord first spoke to Hosea, He said this to him:
Go and marry a promiscuous wife and have children of promiscuity, for the land is committing blatant acts of promiscuity by abandoning the Lord.

Hosea 1:2


Sheshan gave his daughter in marriage to his servant Jarha, and she bore Attai to him.

1 Chronicles 2:35


The men of Israel had sworn an oath at Mizpah: “None of us will give his daughter to a Benjaminite in marriage.”

Judges 21:1


If a man divorces his wife and she leaves him to marry another,
can he ever return to her? Wouldn’t such a land become totally defiled? But you! You have played the prostitute with many partners — can you return to Me? This is the Lord’s declaration.

Jeremiah 3:1


So do not give your daughters to their sons in marriage or take their daughters for your sons. Never seek their peace or prosperity, so that you will be strong, eat the good things of the land, and leave it as an inheritance to your sons forever.”

Ezra 9:11-12



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Today, I asked a little girl, “What is love?”She responded, “Love is not giving up on someone even when you want to.” Her wisdom, stunned me. See, first, I didn’t expect such an insightful response from a child and secondly, today, I was thinking of leaving my wife and giving up on my marriage.


After years of feeling unloved, disrespected and unappreciated, today, I just felt like hanging up my gloves. The unrequited love and one sided affection had finally gotten to me.
I was exhausted from giving my all and getting nothing back.My marriage felt like an empty shell. Most days I couldn’t recognize the woman beside me. She rarely ever spoke to me. Preferring the company of her friends over me. And when I tried speaking to her, most times it felt like she was deaf.



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After years of endless fights, arguments and a situation that felt like it would never improve, I was ready to hang up my boots and throw in the towel. I just felt weary, exhausted and burdened.


But on my way home today, rehearsing the speech I was going to give my wife, and making plans about what to do next etc, I chose to stop by the park to meditate and just spend time with my thoughts. At the park, with the sun out, after days of endless rain, I met a beautiful little girl playing.
I decided to chat her up since I had the time. And at the end of our short tit a tat, is when I asked her the big question, “What is love?”
Her response, “Love is not giving up on someone even when you want to,” sounded like a message from Jesus to me.


Indeed this scripture is true:
And Jesus said to them, “Yes. Have you never read, Out of the mouth of babes and nursing infants you have perfected praise?” Matthew 21:16


I thought long and hard about her answer. As I was thinking, something strange started happening. My previously hardened heart, due to the pain I had gone through over the years started to soften.
I started remembering that I had promised to be with my wife for eternity. We were going to heaven together. We were going to do life together. And yet somewhere in the middle of the journey I wanted out?



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Thinking further about my dilemma, I realized this was a challenge too big for me to handle. I couldn’t change my wife. Lord knows I had tried for years. But then I also remembered that there was someone bigger and greater than me. Jesus Christ! I remembered that Jesus changes people. Jesus is the greatest behavioral therapist of all time. So, instead of trying to change my wife, me or my marriage, I figured I might just as well try giving the challenge to Jesus.


Yes, I was giving up on my marriage. But I was giving up my marriage to Jesus. Yes, I was finally throwing in the towel. I was finally allowing him to take charge, allowing him to lead the way. Allowing him to teach me and my wife what marriage was all about.



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And so, while I sat in the park, still wowed by the insightfulness of this little angel, I decided to say a prayer. I decided to surrender and give up my marriage to Jesus and that is when another strange thing happened.
After my rather short prayer, I didn’t feel like leaving my wife anymore. Suddenly hope started bubbling in my heart that was once full of despair. Jesus was going to take care of my marriage, me and wife.


As I kept contemplating on these strange occurrences, thoughts and feelings, the deep, gnawing wounds in my heart started healing. The exhaustion and weariness I had felt for years started lifting. Suddenly these words came alive.



“Come to Me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 All of you, take up My yoke and learn from Me, because I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for yourselves. 30 For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30



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For as a young man marries a virgin, So shall your sons marry you;
And as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, So shall your God rejoice over you.

Isaiah 62:5


Therefore, my brethren, you also have become dead to the law through the body of Christ, that you may be married to another—to Him who was raised from the dead, that we should bear fruit to God.

Romans 7:4


But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.

Matthew 5:32


Now if they are married to any of the sons of the other tribes of the children of Israel, then their inheritance will be taken from the inheritance of our fathers, and it will be added to the inheritance of the tribe into which they marry; so it will be taken from the lot of our inheritance.

Numbers 36:3


Then Saul said to David, “Here is my older daughter Merab; I will give her to you as a wife. Only be valiant for me, and fight the Lord’s battles.” For Saul thought, “Let my hand not be against him, but let the hand of the Philistines be against him.”

1 Samuel 18:17


For when they rise from the dead, they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.

Mark 12:25


Laban answered, “It is not the custom in this place to give the younger daughter in marriage before the firstborn. 27 Complete this week of wedding celebration, and we will also give you this younger one in return for working yet another seven years for me.”

Genesis 29:26-27


But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. 34 There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.

1 Corinthians 7:33-34


The elders of his city will summon him and speak with him. If he persists and says, ‘I don’t want to marry her,’ 9 then his sister-in-law will go up to him in the sight of the elders, remove his sandal from his foot, and spit in his face. Then she will declare, ‘This is what is done to a man who will not build up his brother’s house.’

Deuteronomy 25:8-9


Now there were with us seven brothers. The first died after he had married, and having no offspring, left his wife to his brother. 26 Likewise the second also, and the third, even to the seventh.

Matthew 22:25-26


He will resolve to come with the force of his whole kingdom and will reach an agreement with him. He will give him a daughter in marriage to destroy it, but she will not stand with him or support him.

Daniel 11:17 


They were married into the families of the children of Manasseh the son of Joseph, and their inheritance remained in the tribe of their father’s family.

Numbers 36:12


For three things the earth is perturbed, Yes, for four it cannot bear up: 22 For a servant when he reigns, A fool when he is filled with food, 23 A hateful woman when she is married,
And a maidservant who succeeds her mistress.

Proverbs 30:21-23


‘The one who sleeps with his father’s wife is cursed, for he has violated his father’s marriage bed.’ And all the people will say, ‘Amen!’

Deuteronomy 27:20


I will also acquire Ruth the Moabitess, Mahlon’s widow, as my wife, to perpetuate the deceased man’s name on his property, so that his name will not disappear among his relatives or from the gate of his home. You are witnesses today.”

Ruth 4:10


Go at once to Paddan-aram, to the house of Bethuel, your mother’s father. Marry one of the daughters of Laban, your mother’s brother.

Genesis 28:2


You are not to marry a woman as a rival to her sister and have sexual intercourse with her during her sister’s lifetime.

Leviticus 18:18



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“Furthermore it has been said, Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.

Matthew 5:31-32


Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.

1 Corinthians 7:10-11


Jesus answered and said to them, “The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage. 35 But those who are counted worthy to attain that age, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry nor are given in marriage;

Luke 20:34-35


Should we again break Your commandments, and join in marriage with the people committing these abominations? Would You not be angry with us until You had consumed us, so that there would be no remnant or survivor?

Ezra 9:14


Jehoshaphat had riches and honor in abundance; and by marriage he allied himself with Ahab.

2 Chronicles 18:1


Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

Hebrews 13:4


If he takes another wife, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marriage rights. 11 And if he does not do these three for her, then she shall go out free, without paying money.

Exodus 21:10-11


Let us be glad and rejoice and give Him glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has made herself ready.” 8 And to her it was granted to be arrayed in fine linen, clean and bright, for the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints.

Revelation 19:7-8


I say to the unmarried and to widows: It is good for them if they remain as I am. 9 But if they do not have self-control, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with desire.

1 Corinthians 7:8-9 


This is what the Lord commands concerning the daughters of Zelophehad, saying, ‘Let them marry whom they think best, but they may marry only within the family of their father’s tribe.’

Numbers 36:6


The fire consumed their young men,
And their maidens were not given in marriage.
64 Their priests fell by the sword,
And their widows made no lamentation.

Psalms 78:63-64


If the priest’s daughter is married to an outsider, she may not eat of the holy offerings. 13 But if the priest’s daughter is a widow or divorced, and has no child, and has returned to her father’s house as in her youth, she may eat her father’s food; but no outsider shall eat it.

Leviticus 22:12-13


“If a man marries a woman, but she becomes displeasing to him because he finds something improper about her, he may write her a divorce certificate, hand it to her, and send her away from his house. 

Deuteronomy 24:1


I rebuked them, cursed them, beat some of their men, and pulled out their hair. I forced them to take an oath before God and said: “You must not give your daughters in marriage to their sons or take their daughters as wives for your sons or yourselves!

Nehemiah 13:25



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Love


The attraction of the sexes for each other, though based upon the dual principle of generation which pervades the living world and which has its analogies in the attractive forces of matter, yet pervades the whole being.


Love is not merely the instinctive desire of physical union, which has for its object the continuation of the species—it belongs to the mind as well as to the body. It warms, invigorates, and elevates every sentiment, every feeling; and in its highest, purest, most diffusive form unites us to God and all creatures in Him.


All love is essentially the same, but modified according to its objects and by the character of the one who loves. The love of children for their parents, of parents for offspring, brotherly and sisterly love, the love of friendship, of charity, and the fervor of religious love, are modifications of the same sentiment—the attraction that draws us to our kindred, our kind; that binds together all races and humanity itself, resting on the fatherhood of God and the brotherhood of man.


It is but natural that this love should vary in degrees. Attractions are proportional to proximity. Family is nearer than country; we prefer our own nation to the rest of the race.


Each individual has, also, his own special attractions and repulsions. There is love at first sight and friendship at first sight. We feel some persons pleasant to us; to be near them is a delight. Generally such feelings are mutual—like flows to like, or as often, perhaps, differences fit into each other. We seek sympathy with our own tastes and habits, or we find in others what we lack.


Thus the weak rest upon the strong, the timid are fond of the courageous, the reckless seek guidance of the prudent, and so on. The sentiment of love for the opposite sex —tender, romantic, passionate—begins very early in life. Fathers and daughters, mothers and sons, have a special fondness for each other, as, also, have brothers and sisters; but the boy soon comes to admire someone, generally older than himself, who is not a relation.


Very little girls find a hero in some friend of an elder brother. Fondness for cousins generally comes more from opportunity than natural attraction, though a cousin may have very little appearance of family relation. The law appears to be that free choice seeks the diverse and distant. A stranger has always a better chance with the young ladies of any district than the young men with whom they have always been acquainted. Savages seek their wives out of their own tribe.


It is my belief that naturally (I mean in a state of pure and unperverted nature, but developed cultivated, and refined by education) every man loves womanhood itself, and all women so far as they approximate to his ideal; and that in the same way every woman loves manhood, and is attracted and charmed by all its gentle, noble, and heroic manifestations.


By such a man, every woman he meets is reverenced as a mother, sister, daughter, or, it may be, cherished in a more tender relation, which should be at first, and may always remain, free from any sensual desire.


Such love may have many objects, each attracting the kind and degree of affection which it is able to inspire. Such love of men for women, and women for men, may be free and will be free just in the degree in which it is freed from the bondage of sensual passion.


Such love has a direct tendency to raise men above the control of their senses. The more of such love one has and the more it is diffused, the less the liability to sink into the lower and disorderly loves of the sensual life.


The idea that every attraction, every attachment, every love between the sexes must lead to marriage—that no love can be tolerated but with that end in view—is a very false and mischievous one. It deprives men and women of the strength and happiness they might have in pure friendships and pure loves, and it leads to a multitude of false and bad marriages.


Two persons are drawn together by strong attractions and tender sentiments for each other who have no more right to be married than if they were brother and sister, but who have the same right to love each other. But their true sentiments for each other, and consequent relation to each other, are not understood by those around them and perhaps not by themselves.


They are urged by the misapprehension of others, by their expectation, by ignorant gossip, by the prejudice of society, based upon low and sensual estimates of life, to marry; they find that they must either marry or lose the happiness they have in each other’s society, and they make the irrevocable mistake.


When it is understood that there are other loves than that of marriage; when the special attraction that justifies union for life, and the begetting of offspring, is discriminated from all the other attractions that may bring two souls into very near and tender relations to each other, there will be more happiness in the world and fewer incomplete, imperfect, and, therefore, more or less unhappy, marriages.



Flirtation



Nothing can be more detestable than that playing with fire which goes by the name of flirtation but there are men and women who have the happiness of living and of being tenderly and devotedly loved by persons of the opposite sex—loved purely, nobly, happily—without injury and with great good.


When such loves are accompanied by perfect trust in the goodness, purity, truth, and honor of the beloved, there can be no jealousy, no desire for selfish absorption, no fear of deprivation of any right. There is no reason why a husband or a wife should limit the range of pure and spiritual affection to near relatives.


The man who can love a sister as sisters are often loved, may love in the same way, or as purely, any woman who might be his sister. As men and women learn to purify their lives, the world will grow more tolerant and love will become more universal.


The tender and fervent exhortations to mutual love to be found in the Gospels and Epistles of the New Testament are now almost without a meaning. But they had a meaning to those to whom they were addressed, and when we are better Christians, and bring our lives to the purity of Christian morality, they will have a meaning to us and we shall learn that, in a sense we have not dreamed of, God is Love.



Monogamy



In the human race all circumstances point to monogamy as the lawful or natural condition. Males and females are born in almost equal numbers. If there are two or three per cent. more of males than females, the risks of life with males soon make the number even. Therefore, as a rule, no man can have more than one wife without robbing his neighbor.


Polygamy is therefore a manifest injustice, and may become the most grievous of all monopolies.


Children are the most helpless of all young creatures and require the care of parents for the longest period. The care of a husband for his wife, and of a father for his child, is an evident necessity. The proper care and education of a single child should extend over at least fifteen years, and that of a family may reach to thirty years, or throughout the greatest part of an ordinary life.


During all periods of pregnancy, childbearing, nursing, and the education and care of a family, every woman has a right to the sympathy, sustaining love, and constant aid of her husband. No man has a right to desert or leave helpless, or even dependent upon others, except in extraordinary cases, the mother of his children.



Marriage



Marriage, like celibacy, should be a matter of vocation. The special object of marriage is to have children; the co-operating motive is that two persons drawn to each other by a mutual affection may live helpfully and happily together.


A selfish marriage, for its merely animal gratifications—a marriage in which strength, health, usefulness, often life itself, are sacrificed to sensuality and lust—is a desecration of a holy institution, and somewhat worse in its consequences than promiscuous profligacy, for the consequences of that may not fall upon one’s children and posterity.


There are many persons who have no right to marry. There should be a kind and amount of love that will justify and sanctify such a relation. There should be a pure motive and the fixed intention of making the relation what it ought to be to husband, wife, and children.


There should be a reasonable assurance of the power to provide for a family. There should be that amount of health, that freedom from bodily and mental disease, that physical and moral constitution which will give a reasonable prospect of children whose lives will be a blessing to themselves and to society.


When there is deformity of body, or an unhappy peculiarity of temper or mind liable to be inherited, people should not marry, or if they live together, should resign the uses of marriage. People should conscientiously refrain from propagating hereditary diseases. Persons near of kin are wisely forbidden to marry, for there is in such cases the liability of imperfect generation—the production of blind, deaf, idiotic or insane offspring.



Should marriage be for life?


As a rule, undoubtedly. Every real, proper, true marriage must be. It takes a lifetime for a husband and wife to make a home and rear and educate and provide for a family of children. But what if people make mistakes and find that they are not suitably married?


These are mistakes very difficult to remedy. If a man, after deliberately making his choice of a woman, ceases to love her, how can he honorably withdraw from his relation to her, and enter upon another, when she still loves him, and is ready to fulfill her part of the contract?


Laws cannot very well provide for mistakes. If the distaste for each other be mutual, and both parties desire to separate, a separation may of course be permitted; but it is a serious question whether two such persons can go into the world and find new partners, with justice to the rest.


The law which permits of no divorce certainly bears hard upon individual cases; but if it leads to greater seriousness and care in forming such relations, it may be, on the whole, the best thing for society that it should be strictly observed.



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“Return, O backsliding children,” says the Lord; “for I am married to you. I will take you, one from a city and two from a family, and I will bring you to Zion.

Jeremiah 3:14


But if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virgin, if she is past the flower of youth, and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes. He does not sin; let them marry.

1 Corinthians 7:36


For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels of God in heaven.

Matthew 22:30





“If a man is found lying with a woman married to a husband, then both of them shall die—the man that lay with the woman, and the woman; so you shall put away the evil from Israel.

Deuteronomy 22:22


Speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron, 3 forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth. 4 For every creature of God is good, and nothing is to be refused if it is received with thanksgiving;

1 Timothy 4:2-4


If he comes in by himself, he shall go out by himself; if he comes in married, then his wife shall go out with him.

Exodus 21:3





Therefore, I want younger women to marry, have children, manage their households, and give the adversary no opportunity to accuse us.

1 Timothy 5:14


Let us be glad, rejoice, and give Him glory, because the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has prepared herself.

Revelation 19:7


Now afterward Hezron went in to the daughter of Machir the father of Gilead, whom he married when he was sixty years old; and she bore him Segub.

1 Chronicles 2:21


Now if they are married to any of the sons of the other tribes of the children of Israel, then their inheritance will be taken from the inheritance of our fathers, and it will be added to the inheritance of the tribe into which they marry; so it will be taken from the lot of our inheritance.

Numbers 36:3


“Sing, O barren, You who have not borne!
Break forth into singing, and cry aloud, You who have not labored with child! For more are the children of the desolate
Than the children of the married woman,” says the Lord.

Isaiah 54:1





The word of the Lord came to me: 2 “You must not marry or have sons or daughters in this place. 3 For this is what the Lord says concerning sons and daughters born in this place as well as concerning the mothers who bear them and the fathers who father them in this land:

Jeremiah 16:1-3


And Judah saw there a daughter of a certain Canaanite whose name was Shua, and he married her and went in to her.

Genesis 38:2


For many in Judah were pledged to him, because he was the son-in-law of Shechaniah the son of Arah, and his son Jehohanan had married the daughter of Meshullam the son of Berechiah.

Nehemiah 6:18


“A man is not to marry his father’s wife; he must not violate his father’s marriage bed.

Deuteronomy 22:30


Any daughter who possesses an inheritance from an Israelite tribe must marry someone from the clan of her ancestral tribe, so that each of the Israelites will possess the inheritance of his fathers.

Numbers 36:8



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Sexual Intercourse, its laws and conditions, it’s use and abuse.


There is an increasing and alarming prevalence of nervous ailments and complicated disorders that could be traced to have their sole origin from this source. Hypochondria, in its various phases, results from the premature and unnatural waste of the seminal fluid.


Then speedily ensues a lack of natural heat, a deficiency of vital power, and consequently indigestion, melancholy, languor, and dejection ensue; the victim becomes enervated and spiritless, loses the very attributes of man, and premature old age soon follows.





It is a prevalent error that it is necessary for the semen to be ejected at certain times from the body; that its retention is incompatible with sound health and vigor of body and mind. This is a very fallacious idea. The seminal fluid is too precious—nature bestows too much care in its elaboration for it to be wasted in this unproductive manner.



It is intended, when not used for the purpose of procreation, to be reabsorbed again into the system, giving vigor of body, elasticity and strength to the mind, making the individual strong, active, and self-reliant. When kept as nature intended, it is a perpetual fountain of life and energy—a vital force which acts in every direction, a motive power which infuses manhood into every organ of the brain and every fiber of the body.


The law of sexual morality for childhood is one of utter negation of sex. Every child should be kept pure and free from amative excitement and the least amative indulgence, which is unnatural and doubly hurtful.


No language is strong enough to express the evils of amative excitement and unnatural indulgence before the age of puberty; and the dangers are so great that I see no way so safe as thorough instruction regarding them at the earliest age. A child may be taught, simply as a matter of science, as one learns botany, all that is needful to know, and such knowledge may protect it from the most terrible evils.


The law for childhood is perfect purity, which cannot be too carefully guarded and protected by parents, teachers, and all caretakers. The law for youth is perfect continence—a pure vestalate alike in both sexes. No indulgence is required by one more than the other—for both nature has made the same provision. The natures of both are alike, and any—the least—exercise of the amative function is an injury to one as to the other.


Men expect that women shall come to them in marriage chaste and pure from the least defilement. Women have a right to expect the same of their husbands. Here the sexes are upon a perfect equality.


On this subject, Dr. Carpenter (physiological works) has written like a man of true science, and, therefore, of true morality. He lays it down as an axiom that the development of the individual and the reproduction of the species stand in an inverse ratio to each other.


He says: “The augmented development of the generative organs at puberty can only be rightly regarded as preparatory to the exercise of the organs. The development of the individual must be completed before the procreative power can properly be exercised for the continuance of the race.”


And in the following extract from his “Principles of Human Physiology,” he confirms my statement respecting the unscientific and libertine advice of too many physicians: “The author would say to those of his younger readers who urge the wants of nature as an excuse for the illicit gratification of the sexual passions, ‘try the effects of close mental application to some of those ennobling pursuits to which your profession introduces you, in combination with vigorous bodily exercise, before you assert that appetite is unrestrainable and act upon that assertion.’





Nothing tends so much to increase the desire as the continual direction of the mind toward the objects of its gratification, whilst nothing so effectually represses it as a determined exercise of the mental faculties upon other objects and the expenditure of nervous energy in other channels.


Some works which have issued from the medical press contain much that is calculated to excite, rather than to repress, the propensity; and the advice sometimes given by practitioners to their patients is immoral as well as unscientific.”


Every man and every woman, living simply, purely, and temperately—respecting the laws of health in regard to air, food, dress, exercise, and habits of life—not only can live in the continence of a pure virgin life when single, and in the chastity which should be observed by all married partners, but be stronger, happier, and in every way better by so living.


Chastity is the conservation of life, and the consecration of its forces to the highest use. Sensuality is the waste of life, and the degradation of its forces to pleasure divorced from use. Chastity is life; sensuality is death.


From the age of puberty to marriage, the law, is the same for both sexes—full employment of mind and body, temperance, purity, and perfect chastity in thought, word, and deed. The law is one of perfect equality. There is no license for the male which is not equally the right of the female.


There is no physiological ground for any indulgence in one case more than in the other. No man has any more right to require or expect purity in the woman who is to be his wife than the woman has to require and expect purity in her husband. It is a simple matter of justice and right.


No man can enter upon an amative relation with a woman, except in marriage, without manifest injustice to his future wife, unless he allow her the same liberty; and also without a great wrong to the woman, and to her possible husband.


It is contended that the sins of men against chastity are more venial than those of women, because of the liability of women to have children. But men are also liable to be the fathers of children, who are deeply wronged by the absence of paternal care.


The child has its rights, and every child has the right to be born in honest, respectable wedlock, of parents able to give it a sound constitution and the nurture and education it requires. The child who lacks these conditions is grievously wronged by both father and mother.


The law of marriage is, that a mature man and woman, with sound health, pure lives, and a reasonable prospect of comfortably educating a family, when drawn to each other by the attraction of mutual love, should chastely and temperately unite for offspring. The sexual relation has this chief and controlling purpose.


The law of nature is intercourse for reproduction. Under the Christian law, marriage is the symbol of the union of Christ with the Church; husband and wife are one in the Lord; they are to live in marriage chastity, not in lust and uncleanness; and there cannot be a more hideous violation of Christian morals than for a husband to vent his sensuality upon a feeble wife; against her wishes and when she has no desire for offspring and no power to give them the healthy constitutions and maternal care which is their right.





The law of Christian morality is very clear. It is the sexual union first and chiefly for its principal object. It is for the husband to refrain from it whenever it is not desired; whenever it would be hurtful to either; whenever it would be a waste of life; whenever it would injure mother or child, as during pregnancy and lactation.


A man who truly loves a woman must respect and reverence her, and cannot make her the victim of his inordinate and unbridled, selfish and sensual nature.


He will be ever, from the first moment of joyful possession to the last of his life, tender, delicate, considerate, deferent, yielding to her slightest wishes in the domain of love, and never encroaching, never trespassing upon, never victimizing the wife of his bosom and the mother of his babes. We have romance before marriage, we want more chivalry in marriage.


This is not the world’s morality, yet it seems to one the world must respect it. This, high and pure Christian morality is not always enforced by Christian ministers, some of whom yield too much to human sensuality and depravity, instead of maintaining the higher law of Christian purity, which is but nature restored or freed from its stains of sin.


The world requires that unmarried women should be chaste, while it gives almost unbridled license to men. A girl detected in amours is disgraced and often made an outcast. In young men such irregularities are freely tolerated.





They are “a little wild”; they “sow their wild oats”; but open profligacy, the seduction of innocence, the ruin of poor girls, adultery, harlotry and its diseases do not hinder men from marrying, nor from requiring that those they marry should have spotless reputations.


It is not for a moment permitted that women in these matters should behave like men, and a pure girl is given to the arms of a wasted debauchee, and her babes are perhaps born dead, or suffer through life with syphilitic diseases, while she endures a long martyrdom from disordered, diseased, and unrestrained sensuality.


For the unmarried, young men, soldiers, sailors, and all who do not choose to bear the burdens of a family, society has its armies of prostitutes—women like others, and more than others, or in less reputable fashion, the victims of the unbridled lust of men. They are everywhere tolerated as


Necessary evils and, in some places, protected or regulated; and, from economical or philanthropic considerations, or both, combined efforts are made to free them from the contagious diseases which for some centuries have been a curse attending this form of the violation of the laws of nature—one of the consequences of lust which is the divorce of the sexual instinct from its natural use and purpose.





The christian law of marriage as set down in the Holy Scriptures, and defined by the best writers on moral theology, is in harmony with nature, in consonance with the higher nature of man. “God hath set the earth in families.”


Adultery is a sin, because it disorders that divine arrangement. Fornication is a sin, because it prevents pure marriages. Prostitution is a sin, because it is a sacrifice of women, who might be wives and mothers, to the selfish lusts of men. All useless indulgence is a waste of life, and a kind of suicide.


In a pure marriage union, men and women unite themselves with God in acts of creative power. The progress of humanity depends upon individual development and the conditions at generation and gestation. With culture and a harmonized development, we acquire a higher and more integral life. When two parents are in their highest condition and in


A true union with each other, the child combines the best qualities of both parents. When parents are not in the unity of a mutual love, the child may be inferior to either parent. The intensity of mutual love tends to the reproduction [of the best faculties of both parents in the child. When men or women are exhausted or diseased the race deteriorates. Health is therefore one of the conditions of progress.


“It is all very fine,” I shall be told, “to talk of purity and chastity; but we must take men as they are. How are you going to make men pure and chaste, and respectful of the purity of women? How can you get men with strong amative propensities to live like anchorites?”


How can you get men to do anything right, or refrain from any wrong thing? There are three motives—fear of punishment, hope of reward, and sense of right or the principle of duty.


The first of these is the lowest, but often the most effectual; the second is higher, and appeals to hope and the love of happiness; the third, the highest of all motives, pure and unselfish as the love of truth, as in mathematics, acts on noble minds with great power.





Men of real conscientiousness love the right for its own sake. They are just from love of justice; pure from a sense and love of purity. They love good, and God as the source of all good; and do right, not from fear or hope, but from pure love.


We must appeal to all motives. Men refrain from theft and other dishonest conduct from the dread of disgrace and punishment, because they see that “honesty is the best policy,” and from a sense of justice and regard to the rights of property, or a sense of honor which makes a mean action impossible.


By similar motives great numbers are restrained from drunkenness and other vices. Children are to be restrained from impurity by the fear of the terrible consequences of unnatural indulgence in causing disease and pain, by the hope of a pure, healthy and happy life of love in manhood and womanhood, and by a sense of the beauty and holiness of chastity and the sacredness of the functions by which the race is recreated and preserved.


The religious feelings that our bodies are to be kept pure, healthy, and holy in every way as the temples of the Holy Ghost cannot be too early instilled into the infant mind, which is open to the highest sentiments of veneration, devotion, and heroic religion. In youth there are the same motives. Indulgence in solitary vice is self-destructive of all that youth most values—a profanation of his own body.



Seduction



Is a desecration of what he should hold in the most tender reverence. To the young man, womanhood should be sacred, and every woman, mother, sister, beloved of the present or the future, should never be wronged by one thought of impurity.


In this matter instinct goes with right. The inward voice supports the outer law of morality. Before men can become bad, their instinctive modesty must be broken down. Unless very badly born, with disordered amativeness, hereditary from a diseased and lustful parentage, they must be perverted and corrupted before they can act immodestly and impurely.


Women are protected by a strong public sentiment around them. They have the dread of disgrace. For them to yield to their own affectionate desires, or the solicitations of a lover, is a fall, is ruin. They have the hope of a loving husband, a happy home, and the respect of society.


And in woman passion has commonly less force, and the sentiment of modesty and purity more power. Women are weak in yielding to solicitation, giving everything for love; but we see how protective of female virtue are these motives to vast numbers.


Men can perfectly restrain the sensual part of their natures whenever they have a strong motive to do so. A child would be simply mad who was not controlled by the presence of father, mother, and persons he respected or feared. Young men have no difficulty when they are in the company of pure women.


They are in no trouble when their lives are full of mental and muscular activity, and particularly if their habits of eating simply and temperately, of refraining from heating and exciting stimulants, and sleeping in cold beds and fresh air, are such as health requires.





There needs but the strong will to live purely in any one, and at any age, the will that comes from the high motives of conscience and religion, or all motives combined. A strong sense of what is just and right controls even the motions of our bodies and actions which seem to be involuntary.


A man who has a vivid sense of the right and duty of refraining from sensuality, and preserving his own purity of mind and body and the chastity of all women, will do so even in his dreams. When the will is right, all things are soon brought into its subjection. The mind controls the organization, and the life forces are directed into other channels.


A strong man, full of life and love can safely hold a virgin in his arms, and respect her virginity, if he have but the motives and the will to do so. If he be pure in his will, how can he commit impurity? If a woman be sacred in his eyes, how can he profane her?


It is not that men have not the power of restraint, the power to do right; it is that they lack the motive. They have lost the sense of right; they are even impelled to do wrong by the pressure of opinion around them. Boys and young men are driven into libertinage by the ridicule of their companions. Vice is considered manly.





They seek sensuality in an evil emulation, as they learn to smoke, or gamble, or drink; and, later on, vanity has often more to do with excess than the force of lust. Young men seduce girls that they may boast of it. They keep mistresses because it is the fashion.


They exhaust themselves because they wish to give a high idea of their manly powers. Even in marriage, women are injured and have their health destroyed by yielding weakly, or from a false sense of duty to a husband whose own motive is the desire to acquit himself manfully in what he considers his marital duties.


Men and women are, in thousands of cases, wretched victims to what they imagine to be the wants or expectations of each other. A man, ignorant of the nature of women and the laws of the generative function, goes on in a process of miserable exhaustion, to please his wife.


She submits, sometimes in pain, often in disgust, weariness, and weakness, to what she dare not, from love or fear, refuse. Men have to know what is right and to will to be right. This will is omnipotent. God helps those who have the will, who have even the desire, to do right.


If the presence of those we fear or reverence, respect or love, restrain us from sin and stimulate us to right action, faith in the existence and presence of God and angels, and the spirits of the departed, must have a more powerful and pervading influence.


No one who really believes in the existence of a Supreme Being, no one who is strongly impressed with the reality of a spiritual life, can go on doing what he knows to be wrong. A religious faith is therefore the most powerful of all restraints from evil and incitement to good.



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The basis of a happy marriage.


The state of conjugal union should be the happiest in the whole of the existence of either man or woman, and is such in a congenial marriage. Yet in the history of very many marriages contentment or happiness is palpably absent and an almost insufferable misery is the heritage of both parties.



It is therefore important that previous to the marital union the parties should take everything into consideration that fore-shadows happiness after marriage, as well as everything calculated to despoil conjugal felicity.





The first requisite of congenial marriage is love.



Without being cemented by this element the conjugal union is sure to be uncongenial. It is the strongest bond, the firmest cord, uniting two hearts inseparably together. Love for the opposite sex has always been a controlling influence with mankind.



It is the most elevating of all the emotions and the purest and tenderest of all sentiments. It exerts a wonderful power, and by its influence the grandest human actions have been achieved. Of what infinite worth it is to either sex to be compensated with a worthy and satisfying love, and how ennobling to the impulses and actions it is to bestow the sentiment upon one worthy to receive and willing to return.



Love is the mainspring that regulates the harmony of conjugal life, and without it there is a void in the machinery, productive only of jars, convulsive movement, and a grating and inharmonious action.



The soul yearns for love and to love, and unless the desire is compensated human life is a blank and becomes a purposeless existence. Love ever stimulates the good and suppresses the bad, if kept in a proper channel and guided by pure affections.





Another requisite of a happy marriage is health.



No person has a moral right to engage in wedlock who cannot bring to his partner the offering of good health.



Another consideration is evenness of temper.



In the wooing days everyone is a lamb, and only becomes the howling wolf after marriage. Circumstances that ruffle the temper in the presence of the intended are but like the harmless squib, but would become like the explosive torpedo in his or her absence or in after-marriage.



Quarreling caused by matrimonial differences is the most frequent cause of infelicity, and most of it is caused by an innate irate temper of either husband or wife.





The tastes should not be dissimilar. Some of them may be unimportant, but others are a fruitful source of disagreement. The social wife will never be contented with the unsocial husband, and the gay husband, though his gayety may not be commendable, will always accuse his wife if she lacks a social disposition to a great extent.



The religious wife will never excuse a tendency to irreligion in her husband, and though he may be far from being immoral, she is unhappy if he does not participate in her devotions. The one devoted to children will never be happy with one having a natural repugnance for them.



In this way we might multiply facts illustrative of the importance of an investigation into the similarity of taste previous to marriage. Great love, however, overcomes almost every obstacle.





The parties should be nearly of one age. The husband should be the elder. The union of the old husband to the young wife, or the reverse, is seldom a happy one. It is seldom that such a marriage occurs in which the incentive is not the wealth of either of the parties. [This requisite is not set in stone and some people have been known to have happy marriages despite differences in age].




Marriages are usually contracted to gratify various desires, as love, fortune or position. The results are more truthfully stated by an eminent divine in the following:



“Who marries for love, takes a wife; who marries for fortune, takes a mistress; who marries for position, takes a lady.” To a man there is but one choice that he can rationally make, a marriage of love. My female readers, I hope, will decide rather to wed a husband than the master or the elegant gentleman.



A little foresight, a little prudence, and a little caution will prevent in most cases the entrance into a marriage which, by the very nature of the alliance, is certain to be an unhappy and improper one.



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How can I improve communication with my husband?

– Be intentional about spending time together talking. …
– Use more “I” statements and less “You” statements. …
– Be specific. …
– Avoid mind reading. …
– Express Negative Feelings Constructively. …
– Listen without being defensive. …
– Freely express positive feelings.

First Things 

How do I talk to my husband about feelings?

– Pick the Right Time.
– Edit it Down.
– Pause and Ask for Feedback.
– Don’t Catastrophize.
– Don’t Attack.
– Tell Your Partner if You Want to Solve Problems or If You Want to Share Feelings.
– Listening Is Not Agreeing.
– Respect Advice.

Huffington Post 

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Ephesians 5:22-24

How can you make your husband miss you?

– Think about his needs. Improving your relationship with your husband is the best way to make him genuinely miss you. …
– Let him know you appreciate him. …
– Talk about your conflicts. …
– Calm yourself down during arguments. …
– Avoid being defensive. …
– Move past mistakes.

Wiki How 

How do I make my husband happy?

– Show respect. Make sure your husband knows that he is your number one. …
– Show interest in his hobbies. This doesn’t mean you have to be with him every time he plays basketball with his buddies. …
– Have sex. …
– Do something unexpected. …
– Be yourself, all the time. …
– Let it go. …
– Take care of him. …
– Don’t nag.

Paired Life 

How can I be patient with my husband?

See the good in him or her, and stop jumping to conclusions. Trust your spouse.Patience means that you try and see the good in your spouse, even when you feel like there isn’t much to see in the moment. We love this quote by author, Lisa Grunwald, which explains perfectly what patience looks like in marriage.

Nurturing Marriage 

How can I care for my husband better?

– Stop thinking that your way is the “right” way. …
– Don’t put others before your husband. …
– Don’t expect your husband to be your girlfriend. …
– Don’t dishonor your husband. …
– Stop expecting your husband to fail you as your dad failed your mom. …
– Don’t put your husband on the defensive. …
– Never use sex to bargain with your husband.

Family Life 

How can I positively change my husband?

– Pray for the Holy Spirit to convict and change your husband.

– Request Jesus to change you so that you can better love your husband.

– Look for the positive and focus on it.
– Even if you think your husband does nothing right, there really are good things about him. …
– Be positive when talking to or about your spouse.

Famifi 

How can I attract my husband emotionally?

– Get to know your man’s moods. …
– Encourage him. …
– Let him know how much you like him — without going overboard. …
– Don’t be too clingy. …
– Learn to compromise. …
– Don’t pick fights. …
– Don’t ask him if he’s mad at you if he’s just in a bad mood. …
– Remember to have fun.

Wiki How 

How do I deal with my angry husband?

– Don’t put fuel into the fire. Anger has an important trait: it’s temporary. 
– Wait until he’s calmed down. Address his anger when he’s more rational.
– Set your boundaries. 
– Pick your battles.
– Do not tolerate disrespect.
– Apologize when needed.
– Diet matters.

Paired Life 

How can I attract my husband in bed?

– Show the gorgeous side of you: Maintain basic hygiene, comb your hair, smell nice and wear fitted clothes. …
– Update your knowledge: …
– Be independent: …
– Take care of your health: …
– Wear your apron for your man: …
– Take interest in his interest: …
– Express your love: …
– Plan a date night:

Mom Junction 

How can I attract my husbands attention?

– Small and tiny gestures make him feel respected.
– Love him through his stomach.
– Appreciate him.
– Look attractive. 
– He craves for your sexual attention.

Breezy Storm 

How should a wife behave?

– Stop Nagging: There is a saying in which a nagging wife is compared to a dripping faucet.
– Keep Your Home Organized: Would you want to live in a messy house?
– Be Unpredictable:
– Give Him Space:
– Express Your Love:
– Be Honest:
– Communicate:
– Improve Compatibility:

Mom Junction 

How do you deal with a husband who is a mama’s boy?

– Do not give in to his demands. Your man might be used to his mother catering to his every need and want, but that does not mean that you need to as well. …
– Do not agree to move into her house. …
– Avoid confronting his mother. …
– Do not let his mother make your life choices.

Very Well Mind 

How can I make my angry husband happy?

– Stay calm. As much as you might want to let your anger match his, hold back.
– See his point of view. What’s the reason behind your husband’s anger? 
– Don’t scold him. You might want to talk him down by saying things like, “Calm down.”
– Insist on respect.

imom 

How do I talk to my husband romantically?

– Hide a love note in his wallet.
– Send a sweet text message for no reason at all.
– Send a sexy text message for a very good reason.
– Invite him on a date for a change.
– Let him talk without interrupting.
– Cook his favorite dinner.
– Make sure his favorite clothes are clean and ready to wear.

imom 

How can I avoid a divorce from my husband?

– Avoid big words, especially “divorce.”
– Do not try to change your partner. …
– Forgive each other. …
– Husband is priority number one, then kids. …
– Keep fit, and take care of yourself. …
– Do not compare your partner to others. …
– Respect each other. …

Bright Side 

How do I make my husband feel special?

– Food is the way to a man’s heart. Make a list of his favorite snacks, treats, and meals – and make one of them for your husband, just because.
– Put yourself first. …
– Save money. …
– Don’t talk bad about him. …
– Kiss him often. …
– Pick up one of his hobbies and really get into it. …
– Let him have some man time. …
– Catch him doing good.

Nurturing Marriage 

How can I make my marriage life interesting?

– Flirt more. …
– Try new hobbies together. …
– Get away. …
– Send the kids away for a night. …
– Plan new dates. …
– Do something fun every day. …
– Spend time with other couples. …
– Establish goals together.

Famifi 

How can I get my husband in the mood for sex?

– Take the sexual initiative. …
– Become his sexy masseuse. …
– Keep instilling ideas in his mind. …
– Bring radical change into your appearance. …
– Surprise him in the shower. …
– Flirt with him through text messages. …
– Frankly talk about your sex life.

Bonobology 

How can I improve my physical relationship with my husband?

– Create a buildup. If you want to make the first move but aren’t sure where to begin, don’t be nervous. …
– Send a dirty text. …
– Create a naughty codeword. …
– Go purely physical. …
– Dress up and roleplay. …
– Unexpected initiation. …
– Reminisce. …
– Just ask.

Marriage 

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It would probably be interesting to many to describe the marriage ceremonies observed by different nations, but to enter into a descriptive detail would occupy too much space. It is sufficient to say that while some wives are wooed and won, others are bought and sold; while in some countries the husband brings the wife to his home, in others, as in Formosa, the daughter brings her husband to her father’s house, and he is considered one of the family, while the sons, upon marriage, leave the family forever.



In civilized countries, the ceremonies are either ministerial or magisterial, and are more or less religious in character; while in others, less civilized, the gaining of a wife depends upon a foot-race, in which the female has the start of one-third the distance of the course, as is the custom in Lapland.



In Caffraria, the lover must first fight himself into the affections of his ladylove, and if he defeats all his rivals she becomes his wife without further ceremony. Among the Congo tribes, a wife is taken upon trial for a year, and if not suited to the standard of taste of the husband, he returns her to her patents.



In Persia, the wife’s status depends upon her fruitfulness; if she be barren, she can be put aside. In the same country they have also permanent marriages and marriages for a certain period only—the latter never allowed to exceed ninety years.



In fact, the marriage ceremonies differ in nearly all countries. To us some may appear very absurd, and yet our customs may be just as amazing to them. It matters but little how a conjugal union is effected so long as sanctioned by law or custom and it obligates the parties, by common opinion, to observe the duties pertaining to married life.



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Marriage is in law the conjugal union of man with woman, and is the only state in which cohabitation is considered proper and irreprehensible. The marriage relation exists in all Christian communities, and is considered the most solemn of contracts, and, excepting in Protestant countries, it is regarded as a sacrament.



In some countries its celebration falls under the cognizance of ecclesiastical courts only, but in the United States it is regarded as merely a civil contract, magistrates having, equally with clergymen, the right to solemnize it, though it is usually the practice to have it performed by a clergyman and attended with religious ceremonies.



Marriage, as a legalized custom, is of very ancient origin. It is doubtful whether even the primitive man was not governed in the intercourse of the sexes by some recognition of the union being confined to one chosen one. No greater promiscuity can certainly be supposed than occurs in the lower animals, where pairing is the law.



The nobler animals, as the lion, elephant, etc., never have but one mate, and even in case of death do not remate. As men advanced, civil codes were inaugurated and certain protection given to the choice of the parties. The earliest civil code regulating marriage, of which we have any account, was that of Menes, who, Herodotus tells us, was the first of the Pharaohs, or native Egyptian kings, and who lived about 3,500 years before Christ. The nature of his code is not known.



The Biblical account extends further back, but it does not appear that any laws existed regulating marriage, but each one was allowed to choose his wife and concubines, and it is supposed that common consent respected the selection. Next, Moses gave laws for the government of marriage among the Israelites.



The early Greeks followed the code of Cecrops, and the Romans were also governed in their marital relations by stringent laws. In fact, the necessity of some law regulating the intercourse between the sexes must have become very apparent to all nations or communities at a very early period. It certainly antedates any legal regulations with regard to the possession of property.



It is very probable that every community did by common consent afford to each male one or more females, and the presumption is that such choice or assignment, as the case may have been, was respected by common agreement as inviolable. It is doubtful if ever promiscuity was the law or privilege with any community of men, even in their primitive state.



The possession of reason is antagonistic to such a belief; and man was most probably elevated above the beast by the faculty of reason in this respect as in others. Promiscuous indulgence is always evidence of debauchery, and a departure from that natural course which is prompted by an innate sense of propriety characterizing mankind.



The law is very indefinite with regard to what constitutes a legal marriage. It is an unsettled question, both in England and this country, whether a marriage solemnized by customary formalities alone is legal, or if one characterized by the mere consent of the parties is illegal. The latter has been held as legal in some instances in both countries.



Kent, in his “Commentaries,” lays down the law that a contract made so that either party recognizes it from the moment of contract, and even not followed by cohabitation, amounts to a valid marriage, and also that a contract to be recognized at some future period, and followed by consummation, is equally valid.



It is unfortunate that the law is so undecided in this respect. The decisions arrived at, for or against, were not dependent upon any recognized law, but seem to be influenced by the character of the cases, either for favor or discountenance.



As long as the law recognizes cohabitation legal only in marriage, it seems to me that if consummated under consent of the parties to bear marital relations with each other, or promise of marriage, the act should be unhesitatingly pronounced as the equivalent of a valid marriage in all instances.



If cohabitation is only a marital prerogative, the law should not stultify itself by recognizing it as possible to occur in any other relation. If either of the parties is married, the law defines it as adultery, and very properly defines the punishment. It is necessary to the progress of the age that some such principle should be recognized in common law so as not to subject the decision of the question to the individual opinion of any judge.



It would at once obviate the confusion of sentiment now held in regard to it and besides arrest the decision in test cases from mere caprice of the tribunal. It is certainly as correct a principle as any in common law, and would, in its operations as a statute law, be free from injustice, and capable of doing much good.



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Young men are fond of your company and of paying you every polite attention, and you, as a right-minded woman, are well pleased to be so treated. It is due to you as a woman. Now, each of them is, or ought to be, looking out for a wife, and it is well that you should know this.



It is, too, more important than you perhaps are aware, that you should be carefully making your own observations, so that when the time arrives for one of them to ask you to become his wife you may not be taken by surprise, but may know how to act on the occasion.



Let me caution you here against a failing that is common among young women. I mean that of making themselves too cheap. They feel flattered by the attentions paid to them, and are not sufficiently aware that many young men are fond of indulging in flattery; and such, if they find a young woman weak enough to be pleased with it, will perhaps play upon her feelings and gain her affections without having any honorable intentions towards her.



As a protection against such, I recommend you to have a proper respect for yourself, and to consider with what object or purpose you receive their attentions. If you respond without an object, you may be doing them wrong; if you accept them when they have no right intentions, you allow them to wrong you.



For this purpose consider well what you are—a human being intended for an eternity of bliss. God has made you a woman; and, believe me, as there is no fairer, so there is no nobler creature than woman. She is formed to be her husband’s helpmate and the mother of his children, and the all-important work of training these for heaven depends mainly upon her.



Great, then, is her responsibility; but God has given her the requisite love and power to do her duty with satisfaction and delight. He has placed you in this beautiful world that by doing your duty as a daughter, sister, wife, mother, and friend, you may become fitted to enter His heavenly kingdom.



During your courtship let me entreat you to be very careful and circumspect. There is no period of life that can compare with this delightful season. It is, or should be, full of sunshine and sparkling with the poetry of life; but alas! to many it is the opposite. A want of judgment—a momentary indiscretion—has not only blotted out this beautiful springtime of life, but has marred, darkened, and blighted the whole of the after lifetime.



No maiden can, under any circumstances, place her character in the hands of any man before marriage. No matter how sincere the love, how ardent the protestations, how earnest or plausible the pleadings, you must not, you cannot, surrender your honor. You must preserve your prudence and virtue;



Excerpt From The Ladies Book Of Useful Information.



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But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you.

1 Corinthians 7:28


A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she remains as she is, according to my judgment—and I think I also have the Spirit of God.

1 Corinthians 7:39-40


Yet you ask, “For what reason?” Because the Lord has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have acted treacherously against her, though she was your marriage partner and your wife by covenant.

Malachi 2:14


Take wives and have sons and daughters. Take wives for your sons and give your daughters to men in marriage so that they may bear sons and daughters. Multiply there; do not decrease.

Jeremiah 29:6


“If brothers dwell together, and one of them dies and has no son, the widow of the dead man shall not be married to a stranger outside the family; her husband’s brother shall go in to her, take her as his wife, and perform the duty of a husband’s brother to her.

Deuteronomy 25:5


Then he said to me, “Write: Those invited to the marriage feast of the Lamb are fortunate!” He also said to me, “These words of God are true.”

Revelation 19:9


So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man.

Romans 7:3


Still another said, ‘I have married a wife, and therefore I cannot come.’

Luke 14:20


Judah has dealt treacherously, And an abomination has been committed in Israel and in Jerusalem, For Judah has profaned
The Lord’s holy institution which He loves: He has married the daughter of a foreign god.

Malachi 2:11


For as in the days before the flood, they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noah entered the ark.

Matthew 24:38


But Abijah grew mighty, married fourteen wives, and begot twenty-two sons and sixteen daughters.

2 Chronicles 13:21


“When brothers live on the same property and one of them dies without a son, the wife of the dead man may not marry a stranger outside the family. Her brother-in-law is to take her as his wife, have sexual relations with her, and perform the duty of a brother-in-law for her.

Deuteronomy 25:5


“You must not marry or have sons or daughters in this place. 3 For this is what the Lord says concerning sons and daughters born in this place as well as concerning the mothers who bear them and the fathers who father them in this land:

Jeremiah 16:2-3


Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

1 Timothy 5:14


For Mahlah, Tirzah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Noah, the daughters of Zelophehad, were married to the sons of their father’s brothers.

Numbers 36:11


“Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.

Luke 16:18


In those days I also saw Jews who had married women of Ashdod, Ammon, and Moab. 24 And half of their children spoke the language of Ashdod, and could not speak the language of Judah, but spoke according to the language of one or the other people.

Nehemiah 13:23-24


Moses agreed to stay with the man, and he gave his daughter Zipporah to Moses in marriage.

Exodus 2:21


“He is to marry a woman who is a virgin. 14 He is not to marry a widow, a divorced woman, or one defiled by prostitution. He is to marry a virgin from his own people,

Leviticus 21:13-14



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You can have a fulfilling and happy marriage even in today’s world. You can have a healthy and successful marriage in today’s atmosphere’s filled with divorce and separation. You simply need to base your marriage on the architect of marriage. The person who doesn’t think it is right for man or for woman to be alone. The one who believes that human being’s need support systems, family, relationships and marriage.



And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

Genesis 2:18


Without the assistance of Jesus and the help of his Holy Spirit, it is very difficult and hard to have a happy marriage. Jesus who is God created marriage. Jesus, is your assured and full proof prevention against a bad and painful marriage.


God created marriage in the garden of eden when he made the first man, Adam and gave him a wife, Eve (the first woman). From henceforth, God ordained marriage. A marriage without God, is a marriage headed for disaster, divorce, unhappiness and destruction.



Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
23 And Adam said:
“This is now bone of my bones
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Genesis 2:22-25


Modern teaching says that the marriage is a social construct, that is made by the people and the state. That is a very fallicious view that explains the high divorce rates we are witnessing in our world today.


Divorce is very painful and a difficult process. Divorce is akin to death as there is loss involved. A loss of dreams, hope, love, comfort, peace, stability finances, support, faith etc.


I pray that before we get married, we can ask Jesus to help us choose the right partners. And even after he has helped us to choose the right partners, I pray we build the foundations of our marriages on him because Jesus is the solid foundation and rock that never fails.



Whoever comes to Me, and hears My sayings and does them, I will show you whom he is like: 48 He is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently against that house, and could not shake it, for it was founded on the rock.

Luke 6:47-48


When the storms of life, hit, as they will inevitably hit, we can count on Jesus and the guidance of his Holy spirit to see us and our marriages through the rough seas and storms.


If you are going through any difficulties in your marriage today, how about, you invite Jesus to come and help you fix the difficulties and solve whatever challenges you are facing? Let’s give our marriages back to God and see him do a new and wondrous thing in our lives.



Below, is added information and useful advice from a book titled, “Ladies Book Of Useful Information.” that you will also find useful.



Advice upon this subject is very much needed. I am assured that it is a subject not often talked of in families—at least, as it ought to be—nor is it much alluded to in the pulpit, and the result is that young people commonly get their notions about it from those only a little older than themselves, and who therefore know but little more than they do, or from those who form their opinions from the abuse they see of it and so hold degrading and unworthy ideas respecting it.


Sometimes all that is known about it amounts to this, that it is a delightful thing to be married. It is quite true that it often is, and always ought to be, delightful; still, you know it is frequently the reverse. You cannot, then, be too cautious in the matter.


Nothing can be more orderly, right, proper, and holy than marriage. It is not, however, quite so simple an affair as you may fancy. Every good thing (and this is one of the best) requires some effort to obtain it, and unless you take the right course you must not expect to succeed.


You may often see a young woman who, from not entertaining correct views on the point, is certainly taking a wrong course, her endeavors being rather to make what she considers a good match than by acquiring kind and orderly habits to qualify herself to become worthy of a worthy husband.


That the best things are liable to the greatest abuses is notorious, and from the lamentable fact that marriage is often abused we may fairly infer its pre-eminent worth. In truth, there is nothing more valuable. It is, then, highly injurious to entertain low notions respecting it, and men who indulge in loose conversation on the subject are likely at the same time to think meanly of women.


Beware of them, and if you hear them expressing such opinions in your presence, withdraw from them at once as unworthy of your company. Never fear but they will respect you the more for the rebuke.


Of course you are looking forward to settling happily, and will do your best for that purpose. On this let me remark that all happiness (that is, all that is genuine, and therefore worthy of the name) comes from connection with the one great source of all good, and He has freely and fully provided all the means necessary for our being happy, both here and hereafter.


He has placed each of us where it is best for us to be, and in the circumstances that are best for us at the time, and this applies to you and to me now. Howsoever much appearances may be to the contrary, He cares as much for each of us as if we were the sole objects of His care.


It is only by doing our duty in humble dependence on His assistance, which He never withholds, that we can be happy. It behooves you, then, to consider well what is your duty, in order that you may do it and may enjoy the blessings He is so ready to bestow. I hope you may have been a loving and dutiful daughter, an affectionate sister, and a faithful friend; then you may have good ground of hope for the future.



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This accomplished, and you need not, and must not, wait for a cold-hearted, fashionable, and popular Christian introduction; neither should you hastily run into his arms, but continue operating in this psychological manner, not losing any convenient opportunity to meet him at an appropriate place, when an unembarrassed exchange of words will open the door to the one so magnetized.







At this interview, unless prudence sanction it, do not shake hands, but let your manners and loving eyes speak with Christian charity and ease. Wherever or whenever you meet again, at the first opportunity grasp his hand in an earnest, sincere, and affectionate manner, observing at the same time the following important directions, viz.:



As you take his bare hand in yours, press your thumb gently, though firmly, between the bones of the thumb and the forefinger of his hand, and at the very instant when you press thus on the blood vessels (which you can before ascertain to pulsate) look him earnestly and lovingly in the eyes, and send all your heart’s, mind’s, and soul’s strength into his organization, and he will be your friend, and if you find him not to be congenial, you have him in your power, and by carefully guarding against evil influences, you can reform him to suit your own purified, Christian, and loving taste.







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Let it be particularly remembered that “faith” and concentration of thought are positively needful to accomplish aught in drawing others to you, or making them think of you. If you have not the capacity or understanding to operate an electric telegraph battery, it is no proof that an expert and competent person should fail in doing so.




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Just so in this case; if faith, meditation, or concentration of thought fail you, then will you also fail to operate on others. First, you must have a yearning for the person you wish to make think of you; and, secondly, you must learn to guess at what time of day or night, he may be unemployed—passive—so that he may be in a proper state to receive the thought which you dispatch to him.







If he should be occupied in any way, so that his nervous forces were needed to complete his task, his “human battery,” or thought, would not be in a recipient or passive condition, therefore your experiment would fail at that moment. Or, if he were under heavy narcotics, liquors, tobacco, or gluttonous influences, he could not be reached at such moments.




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Or, if he were asleep, and you operated to effect a wakeful mind or thought, you would fail again at the moment. To make a person at a distance think of you (whether you are acquainted with him or not, matters not), I again repeat, find out or guess at what moment he is likely to be passive—by this I mean easy and careless; then, with the most fervent prayer or yearning of your entire heart, mind, soul, and strength, desire he may think of you.







And if you wish him to think on any particular topic in relation to you, it is necessary for you to press your hands, when operating on him, on such mental faculties of your head as you wish him to exercise towards you. This demands a meager knowledge of Phrenology.


His “feeling nature,” or “propensities,” you cannot reach through these operations, but when he thinks of you (if he does not know you, he imagines such a being as you are) he can easily afterwards be controlled by you, and he will feel disposed to go in the direction where you are, if circumstances permit and he is his own master, for, remember, circumstances alter cases.




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I said you cannot reach his “feeling,” but only his “thinking,” nature, truly, but after he thinks of you once his “feeling nature,” or propensities, may become aroused through his own organization.


In conclusion on this topic, let me say that if you wish the person simply to think of you, one operation may answer; but, on the contrary, if you wish him to meet you, or go where you are, all you have to do is to persevere, in a lawful and Christian manner, to operate, and I assure you, in the course of all natural things—that is, if no accident or very unfavorable circumstances occur—he will make his way towards you, and when he comes within sight, or reaching distance of you, it will be easy to manage him.




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When to marry.


The proper age to marry is a somewhat vexed question, but needlessly so, because that age varies much, according to temperament and other circumstances relating to the individual. Although after puberty the sexual organs are capable of reproduction, yet it by no means follows that they should be used for that purpose.


Their early activity is intended for the perfection of the body and mind, and not for the continuation of the species.


Very early marriage therefore, should be avoided, because the nervous force expended in amative indulgence is imperatively required in both sexes for developing the physical and mental faculties. The zoösperms produced by the male in the first years of puberty are inferior in power and less capable of producing healthy offspring than those of mature years.




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The early germs, also, of the female are less fitted for fecundation than those that appear later in life; nature evidently intending these early efforts to be used on the individuals themselves in building up their bodies, strengthening their minds, and preparing them to reproduce their species in maturer years.


There is a serious day of reckoning for early indulgence; for precocious persons (unless their constitutions are as powerful as their desires) who give way to their passions at their first exactions, barter their youth for their enjoyment, and are old and weary of the world at an age when people of more moderate habits are only in the meridian of pleasure and existence.


Generally the best age to marry where the health is perfect, is from twenty-one to twenty-five in the male and from eighteen to twenty-one in the female. As a general rule, marriages earlier than this are injurious and detrimental to health.




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Men who marry too young, unless they are of cold and phlegmatic constitution, [and thus moderate in their conduct, become partially bald, dim of sight, and lose all elasticity of limb in a few years; while women in a like position rarely have any bloom on their cheek or fire in their eye by the time they are twenty-five. And all profound physiologists agree that from the same cause the mental faculties suffer in the same ratio.


A medium, however, is to be observed. It is not well to defer till middle age the period of connubial intercourse; for too tedious spinsterhood is as much calculated to hasten the decay of beauty as too early a marriage.


Hence, there is rarely any freshness to be seen in a maiden of thirty; while the matron of that age, if her life has been a happy one, and her hymeneal condition of not more than ten years’ standing, is scarcely in the heyday of her charm’s. And the same rule will apply with equal force to the other sex; for, after the first prime of life, bachelors decay and grow old much faster than married men.




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The rich are qualified for marriage before the poor. This is owing to the superiority of their aliment; for very nutritious food, and the constant use of wines, coffee, etc., greatly assists in developing the organs of reproduction; whereas the food generally made use of among the peasantry of most countries—as vegetables, corn, milk, etc.—retards their growth.


Owing to this difference of diet, the daughter of a man of wealth, who keeps a good table, will be as adequate to certain duties of married life at eighteen as the daughter of a humble peasant at twenty-one.


Singular as it may seem, it is none the less true, that love novels, amorous conversations, playing parlor games for kisses, voluptuous pictures, waltzing, and, in fact, all things having a tendency to create desire, assist in promoting puberty and preparing young persons for early marriage. Those who reach this estate, however, by artificial means and much before the natural period will have to suffer for it in after life.




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The female who marries before the completion of her womanhood—that is, before her puberty is established—will cease to grow and probably become pale and delicate, the more especially if she become pregnant soon after marriage. A person who is thus circumstanced will also be liable to abortions and painful deliveries.


Marriage unless under very peculiar circumstances, should not take place until two or three years after the age of puberty. Many instances could be cited of the injurious effects resulting from not observing this rule.


The case of the son of Napoleon I. is a notable instance, who, at the age of fifteen or sixteen, began his career of sexual indulgence, which ended his life at the early age of twenty-one years.




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He was an amiable, inoffensive, and studious youth, beloved by his grandfather and the whole Austrian court; and though the son of the most energetic man that modern times has produced, yet, from his effeminate life, he scarcely attracted the least public attention.


Let me, therefore, advise the male reader to keep his desires in leading-strings until he is at least twenty-one, and the female not to enter the pale of wedlock until she is past her eighteenth year; but after these periods marriage is their proper sphere of action, and one in which they must play a part or suffer actual pain as well as the loss of one of the greatest of earthly pleasures.



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Marriages are most happy and most productive of handsome and healthy offspring when the husband and wife differ, not only in mental conformation, but in bodily construction. A melancholy man should mate himself with a sprightly woman, and vice versa; for otherwise they will soon grow weary of the monotony of each other’s company.




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By the same rule should the choleric and the patient be united, and the ambitious and the humble; for the opposites of their natures not only produce pleasurable excitement, but each keeps the other in a wholesome check. In the size and form of the parties the same principles hold good.


Tall women are not the ideals of beauty to tall men; and if they marry such, they will soon begin to imagine greater perfections in other forms than in those of their own wives. And this is well ordered by nature to prevent the disagreeable results which are almost certain to grow out of unions where the parties have a strong resemblance.


For instance, tall parents will probably have children taller than either, and mental imbecility is the usual attendant of extreme size. The union of persons prone to corpulency, of dwarfs, etc., would have parallel results; and so, likewise, of weakly and attenuated couples.




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The tall should marry the short, the corpulent the lean, the choleric the gentle, and so on, and the tendency to extremes in the parents will be corrected in the offspring.


Apart from these considerations, there are reasons why persons of the same disposition should not be united and wedlock. An amiable wife to a choleric man is like oil to troubled waters; an ill-tempered one will make his life a misery and his home a hell.


The man of studious habits should marry a woman of sense and spirit rather than of erudition, or the union will increase the monotony of his existence, which it would be well for his health and spirits to correct by a little conjugal excitement; and the man of gloomy temperament will find the greatest relief from the dark forebodings of his mind in the society of a gentle, but lively and smiling partner.


However, in some particulars the dispositions and constructions of married people must assimilate or they will have but few enjoyments in common.




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The man of full habits and warm nature had better remain single than unite his destinies with a woman whose heart repulses the soft advancements of love; and the sanguine female in whose soul love is the dominant principle should avoid marriage with a very phlegmatic person, or her caresses, instead of being returned in kind, will rather excite feelings of disgust.


Thus the discriminations to be made in the choice of a partner are extremely nice.Nature generally assists art in the choice of partners. We instinctively seek in the object of our desires the qualities which we do not possess ourselves.


This is a most admirable arrangement of Providence, as it establishes an equilibrium and prevents people from tending to extremes; for it is known that unions of dwarfs are fruitful of dwarfs, that giants proceed from the embrace of giants, and that offspring of parents alike irritable, alike passive, alike bashful, etc., inherit the prominent qualities of both to such a degree as to seriously interfere with their prospects in the world.




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It has another advantage. Through its means “Every eye forms its own beauty”; hence, what one person rejects is the beau ideal of another’s conceptions, and thus we are all provided for.


In fine, with man as with animals, the best way to improve the breed is to cross it, for the intermarriage of like with like and relative with relative not only causes man to degenerate, but if the system became universal would in time bring the human race to a termination altogether.


A male or female with a very low forehead should carefully avoid marriage with a person of like conformation, or their offspring will, in all probability, be weak-minded or victims to partial idiocy.


The system of crossing is so perfect that marriages between persons of different countries are likely to be pleasant and fruitful. Speaking on this subject, an English writer says: “The Persians have been so improved by introducing foreigners that they have completely succeeded in washing out their Mongolian origin.”







And the same author adds to the effect that in those parts of Persia where there is no foreign intercourse the inhabitants are sickly and stunted, while in those that are frequented by strangers they are large and healthy.


To make what is called, “A handsome couple,” the female should be about three inches less than the male, and the parties should be proportionately developed throughout their system.


A well formed woman says a modern physiologist, “should have her head, shoulders, and chest small and compact; arms and limbs relatively short; her haunches apart; her hips elevated; her abdomen large and her thighs voluminous. Hence, she should taper from the center, up and down.


Whereas, in a well-formed man the shoulders are more prominent than the hips. Great hollowness of the back, the pressing of the thigh against each other in walking, and the elevation of one hip above the other, are indications of the malformation of the pelvis.”




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From the same writer I take the following, which is applicable here. It is very correct in its estimates of beauty in both sexes:—


“The length of the neck should be proportionately less in the male than in the female, because the dependence of the mental system on the vital one is naturally connected with the shorter courses of the vessels of the neck.


“The neck should form a gradual transition between the body and head—its fullness concealing all prominences of the throat.


“The shoulders should slope from the lower part of the neck, because the reverse shows that the upper part of the chest owes its width to the bones and muscles of the shoulders.


“The upper part of the chest should be relatively short and wide, independent of the size of the shoulders, for this shows the vital organs which it contains are sufficiently developed.







“The waist should taper a little farther than the middle of the trunk, and be marked, especially in the back and loins, by the approximation of the hips. “The waist should be narrower than the upper part of the trunk and its muscles, because the reverse indicates the expansion of the stomach, liver, and great intestine, resulting from their excessive use.


“The back of woman should be more hollow than that of man; for otherwise the pelvis is not of sufficient depth for parturition.


“Women should have more extended loins than men, at the expense of the superior and inferior parts, for this conformation is essential to gestation. “The abdomen should be larger in woman than in man, for the same reason.


“Over all these parts the cellular tissue, and the plumpness connected with it, should obliterate all distinct projection of muscles.


“The surface of the whole female form should be characterized by its softness, elasticity, smoothness, delicacy, and polish, and by the gradual and easy transition between the parts.




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“The moderate plumpness already described should bestow on the organs of woman great suppleness. Plumpness is essential to beauty, especially in mothers, because in them the abdomen necessarily expands, and would afterwards collapse and become wrinkled.


“An excess of plumpness, however, is to be guarded against. Young women who are very fat are cold and prone to barrenness. “In no case should plumpness be so predominant as to destroy the distinctness of parts.”


A male and female formed on the above models would be well matched and have fine children.







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But you shall be called Hephzibah, and your land Beulah;
For the Lord delights in you,
And your land shall be married.

Isaiah 62:4


For I am jealous over you with a godly jealousy, because I have promised you in marriage to one husband — to present a pure virgin to Christ.

2 Corinthians 11:2


“The kingdom of heaven is like a certain king who arranged a marriage for his son, 3 and sent out his servants to call those who were invited to the wedding; and they were not willing to come.

Matthew 22:2-3


So then he who gives her in marriage does well, but he who does not give her in marriage does better.

1 Corinthians 7:38


If a man marries a woman and her mother, it is wickedness. They shall be burned with fire, both he and they, that there may be no wickedness among you.

Leviticus 20:14 


Then he said to me, “Write: Blessed are those who are called to the marriage supper of the Lamb!’ ” And he said to me, “These are the true sayings of God.”

Revelation 19:9


Now Solomon made a treaty with Pharaoh king of Egypt, and married Pharaoh’s daughter; then he brought her to the City of David until he had finished building his own house, and the house of the Lord, and the wall all around Jerusalem.

I Kings 3:1


Then Miriam and Aaron spoke against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married; for he had married an Ethiopian woman.

Numbers 12:1


But refuse the younger widows; for when they have begun to grow wanton against Christ, they desire to marry, 12 having condemnation because they have cast off their first faith.

1 Timothy 5:11-12


He had thirty sons. And he gave away thirty daughters in marriage, and brought in thirty daughters from elsewhere for his sons. He judged Israel seven years.

Judges 12:9


And what man is there who is betrothed to a woman and has not married her? Let him go and return to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man marry her.’

Deuteronomy 20:7


So Lot went out and spoke to his sons-in-law, who had married his daughters, and said, “Get up, get out of this place; for the Lord will destroy this city!” But to his sons-in-law he seemed to be joking.

Genesis 19:14


We will not give our daughters in marriage to the surrounding peoples and will not take their daughters as wives for our sons.

Nehemiah 10:30


Since I am speaking to those who understand law, brothers, are you unaware that the law has authority over someone as long as he lives? 2 For example, a married woman is legally bound to her husband while he lives. But if her husband dies, she is released from the law regarding the husband.

Romans 7:1-2


“They shall not defile themselves by coming near a dead person. Only for father or mother, for son or daughter, for brother or unmarried sister may they defile themselves.

Ezekiel 44:25



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Books and manuals have been written about what makes marriage sweet. We are taught about the attributes of a great marriage in church sermons, television shows, magazines, conferences, podcasts, radio, movies etc.
The commonest guiding principles for a sweet marriage are often listed as.


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  • Great Communication
  • Compatibility
  • Shared values
  • Respect and honor
  • Great Sex
  • Forgiveness
  • Love
  • Patience





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While all these ingredients make a marriage sweet, what makes a marriage sweetest is the HOLY SPIRIT.


  • The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Last.
  • The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Easy.
  • The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Work.
  • The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Work.
  • The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Sweet.
  • The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Divine.
  • The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Worth It.
  • The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Delicious.
  • The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Successful.
  • The Holy Spirit Makes Marriage Everlasting.

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The Holy Spirit has the ability to harmonize and make all the other values work. The Holy Spirit makes marriage easy. He takes the weariness and work out of it.


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Are you looking for ways to take your marriage from sweet to sweetest, good to great, bland to bright, lifeless to colorful? Well, I invite you to ask Jesus Christ to send his Holy Spirit into your marriage.


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The Holy Spirit is all powerful. Give your marriage to him and see him do a new, miraculous and wondrous thing.



You shall no longer be termed Forsaken,
Nor shall your land any more be termed Desolate;
But you shall be called Hephzibah, and your land Beulah;
For the Lord delights in you,
And your land shall be married.
5 For as a young man marries a virgin,
So shall your sons marry you;
And as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride,
So shall your God rejoice over you.

Isaiah 62:4-5





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Behold, I will do a new thing,
Now it shall spring forth;
Shall you not know it?
I will even make a road in the wilderness
And rivers in the desert.
20 The beast of the field will honor Me,
The jackals and the ostriches,
Because I give waters in the wilderness
And rivers in the desert,
To give drink to My people, My chosen.
21 This people I have formed for Myself;
They shall declare My praise.

Isaiah 43:19-21

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For a long time we have been told and taught that, “Home is where the heart is found is.” Another variation to this idea was the notion that home was a place or a location.  Some place to put our heads when exhausted and tired. Some spot to put our legs at the end of a long day. A refugee away from the cares of life. An area to find peace and to relax.

For a long time we have been told and taught that, “Home is where the heart is found is.” Another variation to this idea was the notion that home was a place or a location.  Some place to put our heads when exhausted and tired. Some spot to put our legs at the end of a long day. A refugee away from the cares of life. An area to find peace and to relax.

Yet other people told us home was a soul. And the idea and philosophical school of thought on soulmates especially philosophized by Plato and his friend Aristophanes was popularized by literature. We started thinking that home was a  soulmate. We therefore started searching for soul mates. In the hope that when we finally found our soulmate, we could finally find home and thus belonging and understanding.

But home is not a heart, it is not a mind, it is not a soul or a body.

Home Is A Spirit.

And the spirit is so strong that you don’t have to be in the same location with another person to feel the electromagnetic waves and forces of it’s might and work in action.

The spirit is able to find another individual anywhere in this world. You cannot hide from the spirit.

I mean are there no couples who share the same house, sleep in the same bed, but are strangers? Couples who speak to themselves daily but they can not understand themselves or are unable to communicate?

Of course this kind of disequilibrium often leads to unhappy homes full of chaos and confusion because there is often misunderstanding and a lack of communication.

And in some instances these differences lead to cheating and unfaithfulness even when the said couple share three meals a day and sleep together at night.

Because while their bodies maybe in the same place, their spirits are communing with another spirit.

However in the same vein, we have couples, physically away from each other for various reasons but with the most beautiful kind of connections because their spirits commune with each other.

Believers in Jesus Christ of Nazareth have the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is home for believers in Jesus. He is everything we need. When you have the Holy spirit, there is nothing you can lack. The Holy Spirit brings peace, self-control, joy, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, forbearance, meekness and love.

The Holy Spirit is the one who keep’s believer couples glued together for life. The Holy Spirit is the one who helps couples manage to overcome the various storms of life together as part of a team. Without the Holy Spirit holding families and relationships together, they invariably crumble.

What the Apostle Paul greatly summarizes in Galatians as the Fruit of the Spirit:

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24 Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 Since we live by the Spirit, we must also follow the Spirit. 26 We must not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.

Galatians 5:22-26

On the other side of the divide, the same way we have the Holy Spirit, we also have evil spirits.

Evil spirits keep occult couples and unions together. It sounds unbelievable but it is what it is.

There are two Kingdoms in the spiritual. The Kingdom of light and the the Kingdom of darkness.

There are occult couples who stay together for life. They too are able to communicate in the spirit. How? Through evil spirits who are a counterfeit to the Holy Spirit.

I understand this leaves a third category of individuals. These are the people who are blind or asleep.

What side do they belong?

Well, that is why there is a raging war and battle in the spiritual.

It is to determine where these individuals will end up.

In the Kingdom of light or in the Kingdom of darkness.

Jules

Questions And Answers About Marriage – Holy Matrimony – Wedlock

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What is the current definition of being married?

Our definition of marriage: A formal union, marriage is a social, and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally. … Being married also gives legitimacy to sexual relations within the marriage. The Spruce 


What is the original definition of marriage?

Etymology. The word “marriage” derives from Middle English mariage, which first appears in 1250–1300 CE. This in turn is derived from Old French, marier (tomarry), and ultimately Latin, marītāre, meaning to provide with a husband or wife and marītāri meaning to get married. Wikipedia 





What are the basic functions of marriage?

It is a social contract of two opposite sexes for the satisfaction of physical, biological, social, psychological and spiritual needs of males and females. It leads to the formation of family and the procreation of children. Sexual relationship and production of children are the basic aim of marriage. Study Lecture Notes 


What does marriage legally mean?

Definition of MarriageMarriage is the legal union of two people, who are joined together after they obtain a marriage license from their state and take part in a ceremony. … In some states, couples can become legally married without a license or ceremony. Nolo 


What is the true meaning of marriage?

Five Facets of the True Meaning of Marriage. … But generally, everyone understands that the meaning of marriage is when two people make a public pledge or commitment to live together and share their lives in a way that is recognized legally, socially and sometimes religiously. Marriage


What does marriage symbolize?

Probably the most obvious of all marriage symbols, the engagement ring and the wedding band represent commitment and the faithful love two people share. The circle, an international symbol of marriage, represents infinity or everlasting love. Everyday Health 





What is marriage life?

A happy marriage constitutes of two people who love each other very much and are committed to bringing out the best in each other. A great marriage also has an environment of positive energy where gratitude and appreciation for each other are freely flowing. … A happy married life is what is in for store for you. Marriage 


Is a marriage religious?

Marriage has historically occurred to join two people and two families. In many cultures, it’s more of a business transaction than being about love and commitment. … The wedding ceremony is often based on religious belief and practice, but marriage itself is a civil institution. News Times 


What are the keys to a happy marriage?

  • Love/Commitment. At its core, love is a decision to be committed to another person. …
  • Sexual Faithfulness. …
  • Humility. …
  • Patience/Forgiveness. …
  • Time. …
  • Honesty and Trust. …
  • Communication. …
  • Selflessness. Becoming Minimalist 

What does marriage mean in the Bible?

The Bible Defines Marriage as a Covenant. God sketched his original plan formarriage in Genesis 2:24 when one man (Adam) and one woman (Eve) united together to become one flesh: Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. ThoughtCo


What are the types of marriage?

In general there are two types: civil marriage and religious marriage, and typically marriages employ a combination of both (religious marriages must often be licensed and recognized by the state, and conversely civil marriages, while not sanctioned under religious law, are nevertheless respected). Wikipedia 





What is a happy marriage?

happy marriage is a cocktail of open communication, honesty, hard work, and a whole lotta love. … “In a happy marriage, two people share things equally,” says another married woman. “It doesn’t sound romantic, but I’m honestly happybecause my husband does the dishes and the laundry as often as I do. Brides 


What is marriage blessing?

The Blessing of the Marriage is the conclusion to a wedding ceremony and comes just before the bride and groom are pronounced husband and wife. OfficiantEric 


What is the importance of marriage?

It also provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children. Marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union. This union mirrors the one between God and His Church. AllProDad 


What are the characteristics of marriage?

  • Ownership: Taking Responsibility. Often, couples believe their problems are the result of the other person’s actions. …
  • Hope: Believing that Good Ultimately Triumphs. The foundation of hope is belief. …
  • Empathy: Walking in your Spouse’s Shoes. …
  • Forgiveness: Healing the Wounds. …
  • Commitment: Loving for Life.  Mark Merrill 

Is marriage an institution?

That is, marriage is the union of a man and woman as husband and wife to provide any children of that union with a father and a mother. … As Roberts explained: “When the institution of marriage developed historically, people didn’t get around and say let’s have this institution, but let’s keep out homosexuals. Heritage





What are the forms of marriage?

  • The main forms of marriage are: Monogamy: …
  • There are three basic forms of polygamy:
  • (a) Polygyny: It refers to plurality of wives or having more than one wife at the same time. …
  • (b) Polyandry: …
  • (c) Group Marriage:  Your Article Library 

Are you legally married after living together for years?

Despite much belief to the contrary, the length of time you live together does not by itself determine whether a common law marriage exists. No state law or court decision says seven years or ten years of cohabitation is all that is needed for a common law marriage. It’s only one factor the court may consider. Nolo


Do married people live longer?

Men, marriage, and mortality. … Men who have marital partners also live longerthan men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers. Health 


What are the benefits of getting married?

  • It makes you richer. …
  • There are better tax benefits. …
  • There are health insurance benefits. …
  • Married people have lower stress. …
  • Married couples are less likely to be depressed. …
  • People with a spouse are less likely to engage in risky behavior. …
  • They have better outcomes after major surgery. …
  • They are more likely to survive cancer.  The List 

Are you legally married with just a marriage license?

marriage certificate is a document that proves you are married. Typically, couples obtain a marriage license, hold the wedding ceremony, and then have the person who performed the ceremony file a marriage certificate in the appropriate county office within a few days. … This is often done just after the ceremony. Family 


What does getting married in a dream mean?

Getting married in a dream. To dream you are getting married may represent your commitment to or partnership with someone or something. May represent a union or merging of the masculine and feminine aspects of yourself. May be wish fulfillment, if you desire to get married in waking life. Dreamscloud


Do you pay less tax if you are married?

Taxes and the Family. A couple incurs a marriage penalty if the two pay more income tax filing jointly as a married couple than they would pay if they were single and filed as individuals. Conversely, a couple receives a marriage bonus if they pay less tax filing jointly than they would if they were single. Tax Policy Center 





What is a purpose of marriage?

The Purpose of Marriage is Not Procreation. … Having children, therefore, is the fulfillment and meaning of marriage. A natural response is to ask about the legitimacy of marriages for infertile couples, given the assumption that procreation both defines and fulfills marriage, and the Declaration has an answer. Huffington Post 


How can I propose marriage?

  1. Make sure that you’re both ready for marriage. Before you take the plunge, you should know if you’re really ready to be with your special someone for the long haul. …
  2. Pick the right ring. Before you propose, you have to choose the right ring. …
  3. Pick the right time. …
  4. Pick the perfect location. …
  5. Ask the right way.  WikiHow 

What it means to be married?

What Does Commitment Mean In A Marriage? … It’s a commitment to be willing to do whatever it takes to make the marriage work, and that means there are going to be many times when you’re just not going to get your way. And you’re going to have to be OK with it, they say. Huffington Post 


What a marriage is all about?

All About MarriageMarriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. … And no marriage is free of conflict. Psychology Today 


What is meant by early marriage?

Early marriage, or child marriage, is defined as the marriage or union between two people in which one or both parties are younger than 18 years of age. … Parents often feel that a young girl is an economic burden and therefore wish to marry off their young daughters before they become an economic liability. K4Health


How can u make ur husband happy?

  1. Show respect. Make sure your husband knows that he is your number one. …
  2. Show interest in his hobbies. This doesn’t mean you have to be with him every time he plays basketball with his buddies. …
  3. Have sex. …
  4. Do something unexpected. …
  5. Be yourself, all the time. …
  6. Let it go. …
  7. Take care of him. …
  8. Don’t nag.  PairedLife 

How do I make my wife happy?

  1. Tell her you love her. Cliché, you say? …
  2. Build her up. …
  3. Give her some space. …
  4. Look nice for her. …
  5. Don’t make her hangry. …
  6. Be faithful to her. …
  7. Know what she (really) likes. …
  8. Think about her.   Famifi 

How can I have a successful marriage?

  1. Remind your partner (and yourself) that you appreciate them. …
  2. Say thank you for the little things. …
  3. Practice honesty, even when you’re ashamed. …
  4. Take care of your appearance. …
  5. Foster relationships outside your marriage. …
  6. Watch your words. …
  7. Put away the jumper cables yourself. …
  8. Relish the silence.   Huffington Post 

What qualities make a good wife?

  • She shares your beliefs. When it comes to finding your wife, I’ve heard “equally yoked.” …
  • She makes you a better man. …
  • She’s trustworthy. …
  • She has ambition. …
  • She’s selfless. …
  • She’s attractive. …
  • She’s smart. …
  • She loves you unconditionally.   Goodguyswag 

What does Bible say about marriage?

Ephesians 5:25: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.” Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”  The Knot


What is the definition of marriage vows?

The promises a couple make to each other in a marriage ceremony. The aim would be to make couples think more seriously about their responsibilities before they make their wedding vows. Collins English DictionaryCollins Dictionary 


What is the meaning of ghost marriage?

In Sudan, a ghost marriage is a marriage where a deceased groom is replaced by his brother. The brother serves as a stand in to the bride, and any resulting children are considered children of the deceased spouse. Wikipedia 


What is the most common type of marriage in the world?

Monogamy. Monogamy is a form of marriage in which one man marries the woman. It is most common form of the marriage found among in the societies around the world. Sociology Guide 


How do you keep your marriage alive?

  1. Break your routine.
  2. Surprise your spouse.
  3. Don’t get bogged down with chores.
  4. Ditch the distractions for an hour.
  5. Try new things together.
  6. Stay connected.   Live About 

How long is a church wedding?

A Guide to a Typical Wedding Timeline. A very simple ceremony with no readings, special wording or photographs can be as short as 10 minutes. However most ceremonies usually take approximately 20 to 30 minutes. Most couples tend to have photos at the Church after the service. GTB


What is the concept of marriage?

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognised union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity (in-laws and other family through marriage). Wikipedia 


What are the characteristics of a healthy marriage?

  • Mutual respect. Respect is one of the most important healthy relationship characteristics. …
  • Spending time together. When you have free time you look for ways to spend it with your mate. …
  • Open communication. …
  • Sexual compatibility. …
  • Support. …
  • Trust. …
  • Confidence. …
  • You like each other.  Marriage 

What is the meaning of love marriage?

Love marriage is a term used primarily in South Asia, especially in India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Sri Lanka, to describe a marriage where the individuals love each other and get married with or without consent of their parents. There is no clear definition of love marriage. Wikipedia 


What is the meaning of void marriage?

void marriage is a marriage which is unlawful or invalid under the laws of the jurisdiction where it is entered. A void marriage is “one that is void and invalid from its beginning. It is as though the marriage never existed and it requires no formality to terminate.”  Wikipedia 


How many types of Hindu marriages are there?

There are eight different types of Hindu marriages according to Manusmriti, the law of Manu although not all of them have religious sanction. These marriages are: 1.BRAHMA VIVAAH: Considered to be the best marriage where the boy and girl belonged to same varna and came belonged to good families.  Quora 


Who ordain’s marriage?

A clergy person (minister, priest, rabbi, etc.) is someone who is ordained by a religious organization to marry two people. A judge, notary public, justice of the peace, and certain other public servants often solemnize marriages as part of their job responsibilities.  Bustle 


What are the health benefits of marriage?

  • Less chance of heart attacks. Credit: Alamy. …
  • Encourages safer behaviour. Credit: Getty. …
  • Less chance of strokes. Credit: Getty. …
  • Lower stress levels. Credit: Alamy. …
  • Higher chance of recovering from major surgery. Credit: Alamy. …
  • Less chance of developing mental illness. Credit: Getty. …
  • Better sleep. Credit: Alamy. …
  • You live for longer.  Telegraph 

What does Levirate marriage mean?

Levirate marriage is a type of marriage in which the brother of a deceased man isobliged to marry his brother’s widow. The term levirate is itself a derivative of the Latin word levir meaning “husband’s brother”. Wikipedia 



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Are You A Good Father – Signs Of A Good Father – Unlearning And Relearning.

So, Father’s day is around the corner. Fatherhood is a blessing and an honor that is bestowed to Men by Jesus Christ. Being a Father comes with responsibilities but it also comes with innumerable rewards.

A few people shared with the world what they think the signs of a good are on twitter.

We celebrate all the Father’s in the world. We honor you. We thank you for the sacrifices you make for your children and families. We are grateful for you and we shall continually pray for you that God gives you wisdom, knowledge, understanding, strength, grace, faith, hope and love to lead, prophecy and  pastor the families God has given you. 

Happy and Blessed Father’s Day. Jesus bless you.

The father of a righteous son will rejoice greatly,
and one who fathers a wise son will delight in him.

Proverbs 23:24

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Do Unlike Poles Attract And Stay That Way In Relationships And Marriage – Exploring Love In The New Age.

In dating, relationships and marriage, new age says, unlike poles attract and stay that way.
Sound’s nice at first but on deeper introspection it misses a number of principles.

Before marriage, unlike poles attract, kind of like Physics principles. Magnetism and magnetic pole attraction.

Ying-Yang as the Chinese say.
Humans tend to look for people who can give them what they are lacking.
Why else would someone go searching for what they already have most will argue.
It’s also the complimentary principle.
I give you what you lack and you give me what I lack.

If say person A has lot’s of patience, he will seek person B without patience so he can share. If person B lacks joy, they will go looking for a person full of joy to fill them etc.

That is before marriage.
Lock and Key!

After marriage though, unlike poles start to repel.
See, for any long term venture, you need common ground or glue to keep things going!
Because if you lack the glue to go in the same direction, you both start drifting apart.
I guess this is where the famous Bible scripture of two becoming one comes in.

This is why a man leaves his father and mother and bonds with his wife, and they become one flesh.

Genesis 2:24

This is why a man leaves his father and mother and bonds with his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2_24 Bible Verse Instagram Post

Could this phenomenon of people looking for those who are opposite to them also explain the increasing the levels of divorce, separation, mariticide and uxoricide?

If you don’t have enough similarities to be one, then you are headed for chaos especially if you have totally different outlooks on life.
I mean after the differences are filled, there will be nothing left anymore.
Indeed this is where the Biblical question comes in:

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?

16 What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said:
“I will live with them
and walk among them,
and I will be their God,
and they will be my people.”

17 Therefore,
“Come out from them
and be separate,
says the Lord.
Touch no unclean thing,
and I will receive you.”

18 And,
“I will be a Father to you,
and you will be my sons and daughters,
says the Lord Almighty.”

2 Corinthians 6:14-18

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In relationships and marriage do unlike poles attract and stay that way? Well, after reading the post, what do you think?

Jules

How To Become A Better Husband – Blog Of The Day

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With the high divorce and separation rates in our world  and many wives lamenting about how unloved and uncared for they feel, it seems like many husbands today need some education on how to be better husbands and how to love their wives.

Most literature out there is about how women can treat their husbands better. A cursory look at many pinterest boards and most are filled with advice on how women can be better wives but very little on how men can be better husbands.

Paul, the apostle encouraged husbands to love their wives, the same way that Jesus loved the church.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her with the washing of water by the word.”

Ephesians 5:25-26

There has been a lot of debate in regards to this, as earlier in the chapter, Paul also encourages wives to submit to  their husbands.

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”

Ephesians 5:22-24

Unfortunately, some ungodly and unrighteous men have taken this verse and misused it to mistreat their wives.

In his blog series titled,  Becoming A Husband of No Reputation, Travis who blogs at Jesuslovesyou32 brilliantly explores the topic of being a great and godly husband. He masterfully delves into the topic and shares a lot of great insights.

If you are a married man who wants to become a better husband to your wife, and to improve your marriage, this is a must read series.

Becoming A Husband Of No Reputation (Part One Of Three) [Jesus] made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross.Philippians 2:7-8, NKJV […]

via Becoming A Husband Of No Reputation (Part One Of Three) — My Beginning. My Forever.

Becoming A Husband of No Reputation (Part Two of Three) [Jesus] made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross. Philippians […]

via Becoming A Husband of No Reputation (Part Two of Three) — My Beginning. My Forever.

Becoming A Husband of No Reputation (Part Three of Three) [Jesus] made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross. Philippians […]

via Becoming A Husband of No Reputation (Part Three of Three)  — My Beginning. My Forever.

I hope you the insights that Travis has shared help men become better husbands and strengthen family structures for the glory of God.

Tikva

How To Make Your Marriage More Successful, Stronger And Healthier – Top Rated Books

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How To Make Your Marriage More Successful, Stronger And Healthier – Top Rated Books.

As Marriages come under attack and the divorce rates increase, can we hope for successful Unions? Can married people stay in strong, healthy unions? Can single people aspire to successful and happy marriages? With some of the challenges that arise with maintaining a prosperous marriage:  Some involving, sex, finance, children, work, families, etc can we learn to overcome the obstacles that may present themselves and achieve happiness and longevity? 

Marriage is ordained by God. It please’s God for people to get married, have godly marriages and raise godly children who will worship and follow his ways.

The Bible clearly states:

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Matthew 19:4-6

There is always room to learn new ways to:

– Treat our spouses better and more lovingly,  

– Heal and restore broken marriages 

– Grow more successful marriages.

The Authors below offer invaluable information, strategies, ideas, principles and concepts in making marriages successful and reducing divorce rates.

These books are great for married people seeking to strengthen their marriages, married people facing challenges in their in their unions, married spouses faced with a cheating spouse and single people contemplating marriage.

Who wouldn’t want to have a Marriage made in Heaven? As marriages face challenges, opposition and problems, it helps to remember the Principles that can help to maintain them. This is a book for you, if you need to move your marriage from Childhood to Godhood. 

 

Drawing Heaven Into Your Marriage written by Dr. H. Wallace Goddard, a Professor of Family Life who has developed programs on marriage and family relations. He is also known for his television series entitled Guiding Children Successfully.

 

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Is your marriage facing challenges with sex, work, finances etc? The strategies and solutions offered in this book can help you to reasonably manage these challenges and resolve the issue.

 

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work written by Dr. John Gottman, a leading research scientist on marriage and family, is emeritus professor of psychology at the University of Washington, Executive director of the Relationship Research Institute and cofounder of the Gottman Institute. 

 

You can obtain the Book by clicking Here:

In reviewing this New York best seller, Amazon Review writes, ” Reveals the secret to couples meeting each other’s deepest needs–without love she reacts without respect, and without respect he reacts without love, and a painful, negative cycle begins.”

 

Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs written by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. 

Dr. Emerson was, “The senior pastor of Trinity Church in East Lansing, Michigan for almost twenty years and  holds a PhD in child and family ecology from Michigan State University, a BA in Biblical Studies from Wheaton College, an MA in communications from Wheaton College Graduate School, and an MDiv from the University of Dubuque Theological Seminary. He and his wife Sarah have been married since 1973 and have three adult children.”

 

You can obtain the Book by clicking Here:

Loving your spouse creatively and gently the way they deserve to be loved. Learning about the needs of your spouse so that you can provide them with what satisfies them so that you can avoid challenges that lead to extramarital affairs.. Find out these secrets by reading:

 

His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr.

Dr. Willard is a nationally acclaimed bestselling author, clinical psychologist and marriage counselor. His website, Marriage Builders, offers practical solutions to almost any marital problem.

 

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Relationships can be challenging and difficult. So how do we navigate the complex terrain of relationships and love the people in our lives the way they need to be loved so that we can have fruitful relationships? 

 

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts written by Gary Chapman who is a counselor,  speaker and director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc helps to answer the question.

You can get the Book and even read a Preview Here:

 

To know more about Gary Chapman and read his other books, visit his website at 5lovelanguages.

Trust is a Vital Component to building and maintaining Healthy, budding relationships. Has Trust in your Relationship broken or under Stress? This is the Book for You.  

 

I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship written by Mira Kirshenbaum an international Author and Clinical director of The Chestnut Hill Institute which specialize’s in research and Psychotherapy.      

 

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Do you desire to love God and your spouse more deeply? Do you want to know the Mystery of Marriage? Are you yearning for a successful marriage based on God and his principles? Then getting this Book is something you should do.

 

 

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God authored by Timothy Keller and Kathy Keller who have been married for over 37 years, have three children and started The Redeemer Presbyterian Church in New York.

 

 

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A Holy Marriage that makes you and your Partner Holy Too? Christian Wisdom, Insights from Bible Scripture and Examples from Successful marriages all to help you to develop a Godly and Sacred Marriage. Look no further. The book below is just what you need.

 

Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy is  written by Gary L Thomas who is an International Author and speaker whose Vision is to encourage people to Know Jesus Christ. He is also the Writer in Residence at Second Baptist Church Houston, Texas. He is married and has Three Children. 

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We all know how important Communication is to the success of any Relationship. Yet many times, we find Communication lines breaking down and conflicts rising up. How can we effectively and efficiently communicate with our partners and spouses in order to have productive and fulfilling Relationships? Well, you can find out by obtaining:

Communication Miracles for Couples: Easy and Effective Tools to Create More Love and Less Conflict which is Authored by Jonathan Robinson who is an experienced Psychotherapist, Author and International Speaker From North Carolina who has helped many Partners rebuild their relationships and marriages by teaching them how to Communicate more effectively.

Read the Book Here.

Visit Jonathan Robinson at Finding Happiness.

How do you forgive a cheating spouse? How do you move from brokenness to restoration? How do you heal from wounds of spousal betrayal? How do you recover from humiliation and grief caused by your partner? In sharing her personal story of recovery and rebuilding her marriage after her husband cheated, Cindy Beall writes a compelling book that can help you too.

Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken: Finding Forgiveness and Restoration by Cindy Beall who is a Speaker, Author and Mentor of leaders. She also ministers to Pastors Wives and Women in Ministry.

Visit her Lovely and Inspiring blog at Cindy Bell. 

 

Read her Touching Book.

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